Look, I have no idea what GRRM put there when he wrote it, but when real life women or girls say such things, they donât despise labor and donât despise other women, they despise the denial of agency that comes with being tied to a household, where youâre constantly observed by neighbors and judged for social deviations, while your husband adventures somewhere and does whatever.
And if you do really want to go the whole âhahaha dumb woman hates being a womanâ route, at least show knitting women and feminine women as liberated ones, living in a non traditional household and also doing good things for themselves.