Peeking Cat

Feminist as in gender is an oppressive construct to dismantle

[peekingcat]

About the blogger

Hi! I'm a mid 20s detransitioner who has spent a lot of time in leftist spaces over the last 10 years and has found themselves pretty disillusioned with these so called progressive communities. I transitioned aged 12 and detransitioned at 21, ultimately re-identifying as a woman. Because of my experience, I'm against children medically transitioning.

I don't align myself very strongly to any political label other than feminist, but I believe gender is a social construct, one we should strive to dismantle rather than reinforce. I believe members of the female sex are uniquely oppressed by the male sex, and while transitioning can change how this is expressed it doesn't change its core truth. I also believe people who transition deserve respect and kindness the same as anyone else, I won't criticise them beyond what I see as antifeminist ideology and actions in individuals. I hold people who haven't transitioned to the same standard. I won't deliberately misgender anyone.

I am strongly anti sex industry while strongly pro sex worker rights, and see soliciting sex workers as a form of rape. I believe the solution is holistic systematic change to provide women with housing, mental health support, welfare, education and career opportunities. Along with criminal punishment for those who purchase or profit off workers.

I strive to do my very best at being anti racist (am Indigenous Australian and white passing myself), class conscious, pro disability rights, and to consider feminism intersectionally and on the global scale. I have really long winded thoughts on neurodiversity as someone diagnosed with level 1 autism as an adult (I was tragically very invested in pathologising and labling every aspect of my experience for many years) but struggling to differentiate if my symptoms are actually trauma. Other than this I love cycling, lit fic, and the tv show Daria :)

[radbuckett]

Legit feel like it’s the first time I see this opinion on a relatively mainstream account and it actually got me emotional. This is a tremendously good sign, we’re finally getting fucking nuance in the discourse and moving away from vapid identity politics.

[radbuckett]

This is getting better and better

[cowgirlgirl2002]

If you think the ban on the images and videos women and girls being brutally raped as a total ban on freedom of speech, says a lot on how society sees the female sex.

[virgoanmaenad]

I feel like we should improve disability care infrastructure and safety nets before we condemn people who choose an abortion over raising a child with a detectable disability within the society we have currently.

Like, there’s nothing wrong with getting an abortion for any reason, but I feel like less people would feel the need to if we had better ways of caring for individuals with life-long, high-support needs.

[skepticalpigeon]

Second hot take of the day incoming: it's anti-feminist to shit on women for not being interested in sex. It's anti-feminist to shit on asexual women, women with low libidos, sex-repulsed women, even women who just aren't big into sex.

Women have been forced and pressured into unwanted sex for millennia. Sacrificing your body and your boundaries for a man's enjoyment is seen as practically a right of passage into "true womanhood". "Frigid" has been used as a pejorative against women who uphold their boundaries for centuries.

Shaming sexually disinterested women upholds the ideology behind thousands of years of misogynistic sexual abuse and violence. So fuck off.

[skepticalpigeon]

If you disagree with me on this just block me. Fuck off forever and ever

[kronkk]

Link to post here

Link to podcast

I've already made a TBI post and linked this there, but I think this new info deserves a new post just for itself

[123radfem]

Oh my god

[ihadnointentiontoblog]

Here is a link to the transcript: 

An 'invisible epidemic': Survivors of domestic violence on living with traumatic brain injury

[selfappointedcatalystofnothing]

[0nyancat0]

Seeing clips of the Lily Phillips interview was truly heart breaking and only reinforces the fact that sex work especially prostitution will never be liberating and only further damages a woman’s mental health and body

For context for anyone who doesn’t know

Lily Phillips was originally only an only fans star but recently slept with 100 men in one go, for free, and filmed it.

In the interview towards the end you see her begin to cry, dissociate, and not even be able to describe how she feels

One thing that really stuck out to me is that she says she felt bad for not being able to fully please all the men and that made it all click for me that she did all of this to feel male validation and got more than what she bargained for.

To punish herself and “put”herself through such an intense trauma makes me feel like the people in her life took advantage of her vulnerability and her wanting to please and exploited it

A tale as old as time

I Can’t stand the people saying that she asked for it or that it’s her fault because she set it up when it’s very obvious she is not in the correct headspace to do things like that, no one is, I really see things like this as a form of self harm and punishment

I really hope she is able to get the help she needs and is able to safely leave the sex industry(slavery)

[mackerelllll]

from @/vero_muerte on tiktok!!

found this video at <2000 likes and i NEED more people to see this because. yeah.

[positivelyqueer]

Transcript:

“Maybe I like looking trans "oh your voice is too deep" Maybe I like having a deep voice. Maybe I'm not your femme fantasy. Maybe I'm my own fantasy. I love looking trans. I fucking hope that when I walk down the street, they say, "look at that transsexual!" And just maybe someone will see me and think, "hey, I can live that way, too."”

[fairlyradmother]

Oh, that's a message I 100% can get behind! Have fun with your looks, wear whatever you prefer, be your own fantasy, inspire others like you! That's exactly what I want for everyone, freedom of expression and self love.

Just stay on your lane and don't impose on women, and we're cool.

[peekingcat]

I worry my desire for political nuance and critical thinking holds me back from making friends and dating. Like, I consider myself extremely progressive and intersectional, but have lost a fair few leftists friends because I don't think exactly the same as them even if we agree on the fundamentals. And I have no interest in being friends with conservatives because they don't think the vast majority of people should have rights.

[anxiouslyliquidcurse]

i wrote "the universe where we dont wear a bikini top🤍" in turkish as a comment under a bikini vid, and most replies where "what" "what" "what" and someone replied to those comments with "dont you get it? theyre trans" we live in a world where me not wanting to wear a bikini top as a woman gets interpreted as me wanting to be a man. people cant wrap their head around a woman wanting the same comfort as a man, she wants too much for a woman so she must be a man

[totalwomanvictory]

it’s crazy that we can acknowledge the fact that the media u consume has an effect on ur ideology and view of the world when it comes to like andrew tate jordan peterson white supremacist misogynist podcasts but it goes out the window when it’s porn or kink related.

like how can ppl acknowledge that redpill ideology and misogynist podcasts are basically a mental health crisis “turning” men into violent misogynists but watching or participating in women and girls literally getting beaten up strangled raped has no effect. like come on.

[zoe-the-astromaniac]

If you ever feel unrecognised, just know that Afghan Women keep getting further dehumanised each and every day and no one talks about it because it's not popular on social media

[vintage-bentley]

Something that I wish the trans community and allies understood about radfems, is that we all agree with each other at a very basic level. We share the same basic analysis of society: that traditional gender roles are not based in reality, that they’re harmful, and that they shouldn’t exist. We all agree that one’s sex should not dictate how they look, dress, think, act, or what their interests/hobbies are.

Our disagreement comes from where we go from there. The trans community and allies (who for simplicity’s sake I will refer to as trans activists) take that analysis and work within the existing system, while radfems wish to abolish the existing system.

What I mean by this, is that trans activists look at the existing system of gender, determine that it’s wrong, and believe that the way to fix it is to work within it by accepting the existence of roles and stereotypes that must be applied to different people, but rejecting the idea that the application must be based on sex. The core belief of trans activism is “we should be able to pick which gender role we belong to, based on the stereotypes we fulfil.” Some may take it further with “we should not only be able to pick from the existing gender roles, but we should expand the system by adding more roles to fit into. There are infinite genders to identify with, but you still must identify with a gender”.

Radfems also look at the existing system of gender and determine that it’s wrong. But we believe that the way to fix it is to get rid of that system entirely. We reject the idea of gender, the idea that people can and should be sorted into roles based on “femininity” and “masculinity”. The core belief of the gender critical/gender abolitionist aspect of radical feminism is “the concept of gender is built on sexism. We should not be assigned roles and expected to fulfil stereotypes based on our sex, but we also should not be expected to choose a role to fit into. Sex should be a neutral descriptor like any other physical feature, and everything else is simply personality”.

The most important thing to note here, is that both of these viewpoints reject the conservative viewpoint that “one’s sex determines which gender role they must adhere to, and which stereotypes they must fulfil”.

We agree on the important bit, the very core of the issue. Our only disagreement is on how to answer the question of “should we expand the existing system, or should we abolish it?”.

[pearwolf]

saying shit like "no hope for women" while living in the first few generations some of us are like legally regarded as people is actually insane. after 20k years

[lostandfem]

not transitioning doesnt mean youre stuck being miserable btw. like i think thats important to point out. that youre not miserable just to make a political statement or smth im genuinely happy rn

[sichorean]

[peekingcat]

As I enter my mid 20s, something I'm thinking about often is how to talk with your friends about what you're seeing as red flags for future abuse or general toxicity in their relationship.

I see a lot of blaming women for being in toxic and abusive relationships both in person and online. Think 'because I didn't marry a loser' on tiktok, and every time you've heard a girl be talked about for going back to an ex who did her wrong. But I don't see people reaching out to these girls they're judging. I think this perpetuates the too accepted narrative of abuse being the victim's fault, and increases isolation, making leaving these relationships much harder. 

Especially when it's a new relationship, I want to be excited for my friends, but I'm sometimes genuinely concerned about aspects of it, especially when housing is involved. I think it's difficult to do, but it can go a long way to have a conversation with a close friend where you express that you're really happy for them and want everything to go well, but there's something that makes you a little concerned and if they ever need it for any reason they can come to you. 

I know people worry this will make them lose the friend. Personally I've had this conversation with two close friends and have stayed super close with both of them because I came from a place of care with no judgement or catastrophising, used tact, listened to them, and then followed up by making an effort to get to know their partners and being supportive of the relationship where appropriate. 

Reducing intimate partner violence doesn't have a simple solution, but supportive community and friendships can certainly help.