There's a huge misogynist where I work. Always condescending, never takes responsibility for his mistakes, vulgar, belittling and making crude remarks about women's appearance. I seem to be the only one who doesn't take it. So naturally we had some tense exchanges, through wich I remained professional and he didn't. I reported it to my manager and I was told "that's just how he is, he's kidding" no he's not, I said, he's being cruel and sexist. Then I tell HR during a meeting about harassment, they write what I say and read it back to me, like we do at the police station, and one of them reads : "he makes sarcastic comments" and I'm like "what? I never said "sarcastic"? I said he makes humiliating and cruel remarks, infantalizing and belittling my work" "I think you said sarcastic" "No I said SEXIST, that's the S word I used." Then I talked about it to a close collegue and friend of mine and she responded with "im not taking sides as I've had no issue with him, you both need to work on your relationship or it's gonna end badly for you both". Us both? Then two other female colleagues, one of which presents herself as the great defender against harassment at work, a headstrong woman supposedly.
- oh he's not bad, not really, that's just how he is, he's joking
- no he's not, he's obnoxious and sexist
- there's much worse people here you should be weary of, he's not bad
- so because he's not the worst I'm supposed to let it fly? He is bad. He said women your age were past the expiration date btw. That's okay with you?
- Really? No that's wrong
- He made Mary cry by commenting on her appearance
- Well, you know, Mary, she's not exemplary either, she has...
- Irrelevant! I don't care what Mary has done, that doesn't make his behaviour okay. Emeline from IT made a post on Teams to help us solve a technical issue. He caught her at lunch and said in front of everyone she was playing the beauty queen with her profile picture on Teams and that she only made the post to get men's attention. That's fine with you?
- No but...
Then a coach went to talk to him and came back with "he's not bad, he said you two were fine now" "we're not fine, just because I stay professional doesn't mean we're fine" "you both need to work on your-" "what do I have to change exactly? I've stayed the same. He's vile. You don't have to agree with me. I'm not gonna change my opinion." And I turned back towards my computer.
The same company that forces us to take an E-learning class about harassment and sexism at work. Give me a break. I expect men to defend their class but this doormat mentality in women is awful.
Like it’s just you that finds him bad and everyone else is saying he isn’t is either a cover up or a dangerous lack of safety standards
I’m not even trying to be confrontational here I take work site safety seriously to the point of religious fervor and if he is being that bad this might be something you should take to the local authorities or a lawyer so they can intervene before something happens
I gave several examples of what he says or do. Not everyone is gaslighting me, some things were told to me by others, to corroborate my experience and I know of one woman who has reported it to her manager. Her manager said he would take it to the HR. But when I talked to the HR person who focuses on harassment she said she had never heard of the guy. Same with my manager who said he would also report it except he didn't. I think someone did tell the asshole that I had talked about him because he bragged about it at lunch to his male coworkers saying "I don't give a shit! I'm gonna be even meaner!" He's that infantile. Anyway I'm just waiting till another problem arises after which I will make a former complaint.
it’s so iconic how in america this is a common occurrence because the walls are made of paper but in other countries where walls are made of bricks men rarely if ever do this or they just conveniently find a door or cupboard to punch instead of the wall.
My hs lab partner punched a tree and broke his arm. He was otherwise a mousy guy and it seemed out of character until I got older and found that dudes seem to regularly punch things and injure themselves severely.
Do we all know men that have legitimately broken bones being overly emotional and showing an inanimate object "a lesson" lmaooo wow
Meanwhile soo many women just eat their anger and emotions till it eats them alive right back, or turn it inward on themselves and self harm without miraculously damaging property of some sort
every post about men not doing something to help their wives/girlfriends with the domestic work, or not meeting their emotional needs, is inevitably met by accusations of ableism and discriminating against vulnerable neurodivergent or disabled men. yet i never see the same perpetual forgiveness extended to women who struggle with their mental or physical health. where are the droves of autistic women who are being lauded for not helping their husbands do the dishes? how do you think husbands treat housewives who have developed arthritis and osteoporosis? acting like there’s a feminist boogeyman who hates men with ADHD because of their executive dysfunction is the ultimate childish refusal to face up to the fact that men simply do not do their share of the work.
Men will use ANY social justice movement to dodge accountability for their misogyny, whether it’s “I hate white women (I’m a white man myself but that is irrelevant) because [sexist thing they really want to say about all women]”, “cis women want to be oppressed so bad” (manslation: let us do violence against women with impunity) or “stop telling men to do their share around the house, Karen, don’t you know that some men are disabled?!” We all need to stop falling for it.
You know what? Why don’t you give that to us then? Why don’t you reserve the right to hold a job for women only, and you can be our little playthings who take care of our house, property, children, who make us food, clean for us, do our laundry, take care of us when we’re sick or upset, give us sexual pleasure whenever we desire it, and in return you’ll take whatever the hell we decide give you and hear on and on about how we’re providing for you.
Almost as if women’s bodies are not made for the sole purpose of being fucked and birthing kids, and being proud of your organs that men have tried to colonize and oppress since the dawn of time doesn’t have to only be in relation to pregnancy.
I'm on here soooo irregularly... Ive been helping at women's shelters and such !!! I want to be active on here more. I'm going to clean up my account and make more good posts. Love u all :)
I read this week that Instagram is pushing “overtly sexual adult videos” to young users. For a Wall Street Journal investigation, journalists created accounts that could belong to children, following young gymnasts, cheerleaders and influencers. The test accounts were soon served sexual and disturbing content on Instagram Reels, alongside ads for dating apps, livestream platforms with “adult nudity” and AI chatbots “built for cybersex”. Some were next to ads for kids’ brands like Disney.
This is something I’ve been trying to get across to parents about social media. The problem is not just porn sites. They are of course a massive concern. Kids as young as nine are addicted. The average age to discover porn is now 13, for boys and girls. And many in my generation are now realising just how much being raised on porn affected them, believing it “destroyed their brain” and distorted their view of sex.
But the problem is bigger than that. Porn is everywhere now. TikTok is serving up sex videos to minors and promoting sites like OnlyFans. The gaming platform Twitch is exposing kids to explicit live-streams. Ads for “AI sex workers” are all over Instagram, some featuring kids’ TV characters like SpongeBob and the Cookie Monster. And there’s also this sort of “soft-porn” now that pervades everything. Pretty much every category of content that kids could stumble across, from beauty trends to TikTok dances to fitness pages, is now pornified or sexualised in some way for clicks.
I think this does a lot of damage to Gen Z. I think it desensitises us to sex. I think it can ruin relationships. But beyond that, I also believe a major problem with everything being pornified is the pressure it puts on young girls to pornify themselves. To fit the sex doll beauty standard; to seek validation through self-sexualisation, and potentially monetise all this like the influencers they’re inundated with.
Which, of course, puts girls at risk of predators. Predators who are all over TikTok, Instagram and Snapchat. Predators whose algorithms helpfully deliver them more content of minors and steer them towards kids’ profiles. Predators who are taking TikToks of underage girls and putting them on platforms like Pornhub.
And this is even more terrifying because adolescent girls are especially vulnerable today. They are vulnerable anyway at that age—but today they have far less life experience than previous generations of girls did. They are extremely insecure and anxious, and much less resilient. Combine this with the fact that they are now more easily exposed to predatory men than ever before in history, and served to strangers by algorithms. And another thing: girls are also able to look way older now. They have AI editing apps to sexualise themselves. TikTok filters to pornify their bodies. And access to every kind of make-up and hair and fashion tutorial you can think of to look sexier and more mature. I don’t think enough parents realise how dangerous this situation is.
Which is why I find it so frustrating to see some progressives downplay the dangers of all this. Those that dismiss anyone concerned about the pornification of everything as a stuffy conservative. And somehow can’t see how the continual loosening of sexual norms might actually empower predatory men, and put pressure on vulnerable girls? That seems delusional to me.
Let’s just say I have little patience for those on the left who loudly celebrate women sexualising themselves online, selling it as fun, feminist and risk-free, but are then horrified to hear about 12 year-olds doing the same thing. C’mon. No wonder they want to.
But I also find it frustrating to see some on the right approach this with what seems like a complete lack of compassion. I don’t think it helps to relentlessly ridicule and blame young women for sexualising themselves online. I don’t think it’s fair either. We can’t give girls Instagram at 12 and then be surprised when as young women they base their self-worth on the approval of strangers. We can’t inundate kids with sexual content all the time and be shocked when they don’t see sex as sacred, or think sex work is just work! We can’t give them platforms as pre-teens where they are rewarded for sexualising themselves and presenting themselves like products and then shame them for starting an OnlyFans. We can’t expose them to online worlds where everything is sexualised and then be confused why some of Gen Z see their sexuality as their entire identity.
And again, on top of these platforms, girls are growing up in a culture that celebrates all of this. They are being raised to believe that they must be liberated from every restraint around sex and relationships to be free and happy, and many have never heard any different. Celebrities encourage them to be a slut, get naked, make/watch porn and make money! Mainstream magazines teach them how to up their nude selfie game! Influencers tell millions of young followers to start an OnlyFans, and pretend it’s about empowering young girls to do whatever they want with their bodies! I can’t say this enough: their world is one where the commodification and sexualisation the self is so normalised. It’s heartbreaking. And cruel that anyone celebrates it.
So sure, young women make their own choices. But when we have children sexualising themselves online, when girls as young as 13 are using fake IDs to post explicit content on OnlyFans, when a third of those selling nudes on Twitter are under the age of 18, I think it’s safe to say we are failing them from an early age.
I guess what I’m trying to get across is this: it’s tough for girls right now. It’s tough to be twelve and anxious and feel unattractive and this is how everyone else is getting attention. It’s tough to constantly compare yourself to the hyper-sexualised influencers that the boys you’re interested in are liking and following and thinking you have to compete. It’s tough to feel like the choice is sexualise yourself or nobody will notice you. The sad reality is we live in a superficial, pornified culture that rewards this stuff, and in many ways punishes you if you’re modest and sensitive and reserved, and a lot of girls are just trying to keep up with it.
We need serious cultural change. We need to wake up to how insane this all is, how utterly mental it is that we allow young girls anywhere near social media, and how we’ve let the liberalising of sexual mores escalate to the point where pre-teens are posing like porn stars and are lied to that it’s liberation. And where we need to start is with an absolute refusal from parents to let their kids on these platforms.
So please. If the relentless social comparison and obliteration of their attention span and confusion about their identity wasn’t enough, this has to be. Don’t let your daughters on social media.
if you present this type of trans activists with these pitfalls of their argumentation though it will always end with „transwomen are women so they are entitled to the womens bathroom and womens sports“ and then youre back to debating whether woman is a feeling or not 🙄 they always do that
“If the religious conservatives hate this thing it means it must be good” is a mentality that got us in deep shit. That’s the main reason people defend prostitution, pornography and even pedophilia. That notion that we should abolish all social taboos. “Bourgeois morality”, etc.
I was thinking about this phenomenon a lot, and I think it’s a such a big contributor to why people hate the radical sects of progressive movements… because addressing the truth of a root issue means people conflate it with endorsing it.
For example, conservative men say “women dress for men. Rightfully so, they serve us.”
A liberal feminist will respond, “No, women don’t dress for men, fuck off.”
A radical feminist will chime in and say , “No women do dress for men, because of patriarchal standards. It should end.”
But then we get attacked for seemingly “agreeing” with the conservative that women dress for men. It’s like this with so many radical movements. A lot of conservatives will point to a truth of society to endorse it, or they will hate it for the wrong reasons… And the cowardly liberal’s trending rebuttal of choice seems to be complete denial.
SO SO MANY cases of this.
*Men: Prostitutes are morally unclean!!! We don't want to lose access to their bodies though.
Libfems + some left wing men: Sex work is work!
Radfems: Prostitution is rape facilitated by the exploitation of impoverished women
Libfems + some left wing men: Evil SWERFs!
*Men: Women who have casual sex are morally unclean!!! We don't want to lose access to their bodies though.
Libfems + some left wing men: Casual sex is empowering for women!
Radfems: The power imbalance in casual sex means that straight women are statistically more likely to have an adverse experience than they are to have an orgasm
Libfems + some left wing men: Slut-shaming prudes!
*Men: Women are stupid and frivolous with all their primping!!! We don't want to fuck a woman who doesn't do those things though.
Libfems + some left wing men: Beauty practices are empowering for women!
Radfems: Beauty practices are degrading and require women to spend massive amounts of money, time and energy that men don't have to
Libfems + some left wing men: Stop shaming women for their choices!
*Men: A man in a dress is pathetic and we'll beat him up!!! We'll ally with him when he wants to dismantle protections for women though because fuck women.
Libfems + pretty much all left wing men: Trans women are women!
Radfems: Sex-based oppression is a real thing and while we certainly don't want trans women to be beaten up, they do need to respect that we experience certain forms of oppression based on our sex, as well as having objectively different bodies which matters in areas like sports and medicine, and so we need some things specifically for us
Libfems + pretty much all left wing men: Evil TERFs!
it is perfectly legal to do this to any male you see acting in this way 👍 it usually doesn't take that much time. however you really should have a dedicated sock account or an account with very good cybersecurity practices instead of linking your online presence to it
“a child rapist got cleared for the Olympics and y’all have an issue with a man competing in women’s sports? 🤬” yeah actually I do think child rapists shouldn’t compete in the olympics (and should rot in jail) and I also think men shouldn’t compete in women’s sports because they typically have an unfair advantage. those two opinions can co-exist. that’s called being consistent rather than picking and choosing when to care about the safety and wellbeing of women and girls when it’s convenient.
I always think it’s very interesting that Aileen Wuornos is consistently said to be one of the most notorious serial killers in history, despite the fact that if she was male, her victim count and murder method would barely be considered notable nevermind one of the worst.
She killed 7 Johns by shooting them in the head, yet she gets put on lists with men who raped, tortured, and killed 30+ people.
Aileen Wuornos is such a great example of how thousands of men do crimes against women 1000x worse than what she did to men, and still men like to pretend she somehow belongs in the same category with them because a woman killing men is so much worse than men killing... anyone.
She was someone who had been SAd by men since she was a little girl. When she became an adult, men continued to SA her while pretending an alcoholic homeless woman with an obvious mental health illness could consent for a car ride, a bottle of booze, or a few bucks. She could have tortured those men, chopped their dicks to tiny pieces and feed them to them and I still would have thought she had a better motive than any male seriel killer ever. And still, her cruelty towards men was just a tiny fraction of what male serial killers do to women. And still, somehow, she received a harsher punishment than some of the worst male serial killers.
The child rapist/sexual sadist Ted Bundy got told by the judge that he is a bright young man he would have loved to practice law with if he just had not made "the wrong choices". Aileen Wuornos, an abused unwell woman, got told: "May god have mercy on your corpse."
people that always try to be "oh well both are bad" "killing is always wrong" piss me off. idgaf if a woman kills her rapist/abuser are you crazy??? why would i care for the life of a beast that took advantage of a woman? I'M HAPPY SHE KILLED HIS ASS!!!!
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