Finding Your Way to Thriving

[mortalityplays]

I am exceptionally lucky in that my parents never hit me, grounded me, confiscated my things, banned me from my hobbies or threatened any of these actions to make me behave as a kid. as an adult it has made me realise how very very long a road most people have to traverse before they can take a statement like 'no rule that must be enforced by threat is legitimate' seriously.

[mortalityplays]

I really do mean this sympathetically. we are not well equipped as a culture to grapple with the implications of power and violence, because we are intimately saturated in it from birth. cruelty feels natural, and that's hard to unlearn.

[mortalityplays]

a bunch of things that I know are going to sound really corny (which honestly I think is half the cultural problem - the idea that non-coercive parenting is touchy-feely, ineffectual or just kind of cringe - but that could be a whole other post)

the main thing was that they always explained things to me. if I wanted something I couldn't have, they explained why (from 'we can't afford that', 'it's bad for you', 'it's dangerous', all the way up to 'it's made by a big company that treats its workers badly, and we don't want to give them money'). If I threw a tantrum, they either waited it out until I got tired and bored or they redirected what we were doing ('we have to be patient and wait in line. if we don't wait in line, we can't go into the theatre. we can't wait in line if you scream and upset people. okay then, we're going home.')

beyond that, they always spoke to me like a full person. they asked my opinion on things and took it seriously, and asked me why as much as I asked them. apparently I had a phase as a toddler where I always wanted to be the first one on the swings / down the slide, and would throw almighty fits about it, until my mum took me aside one day and said 'why do you want to be first? are you worried the slide will get used up?' I laughed like it was the funniest thing I'd ever heard, and never kicked up a fuss about taking turns after that.

on the granular level, they focused on positives over negatives. My mum would draw little good behaviour charts for me, featuring e.g. me walking a long winding path through the woods with my soft toys. the path would be made up of, say, 30 stones, and every day that I was well behaved I'd earn a sticker on one of them. when I reached the end of the path, I got to pick a treat. something like a new plastic animal for my collection, or a day trip to the aquarium.

I do remember them sitting me down once and asking me to come up with what I thought would be an appropriate punishment if I ever did something really bad. I think my first suggestion was something like 'no TV', which was a real nice try because we didn't have a TV at the time. I don't remember what I finally decided on, it might have been 'no dessert for a week'. We wrote it down together and I signed my name, and they sealed it in an important looking envelope which they put in my dad's filing cabinet (for important documents). This would be unsealed if I ever did something Really Bad. the eventuality never came up, but the act of participating in the exercise kept me mostly on the straight and narrow. It's funny, the conceptual punishment itself wasn't even that bad. It was the seriousnes of the adult commitment I'd made to Behaving Well that did the trick.

When I DID do the standard naughty stuff, my parents would just sit me down and explain to me seriously why it was wrong and what impact it had caused for other people. They'd ask what motivated me, and why I acted on those feelings in that specific way. They would, of course, tell me they were disappointed. If necessary, they would tell me how things would have to change as a result of what I'd done. They were always, always open to hearing out my side of the story, and always, always took my feelings seriously even if they disapproved of my behaviour. they would ask if I was ready to say sorry and get a hug. if I wasn't ready, if I was still upset or angry, they would give me space in my room and ask me to come find them when I wanted to make up. and I always did, because I always knew they would accept it.

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[theconcealedweapon]

[maarvarq]

Always bear in mind that there is absolutely no legitimate evidence that Luigi was actually the one who killed the insurance company guy.

[theconcealedweapon]

Of course he wasn't. He was at a party with me that day.

[tiny-space-whale]

No but like literally, actually. All bits aside.

He didn't do it.

The cops very clearly planted evidence on him because they had to make an arrest because all eyes were on them and whoever actually did the deed was making them look stupid.

Why would the real killer hero have kept the weapon on his person and traveled two states over while carrying it and a manifesto in his bag, conveniently turning the crime into a federal matter? The same guy whose bag they found in a park, filled with monopoly money? Why did the police turn off their bodycams, take Luigi's stuff, drive a block away, turn their bodycams back on, go back into the restaurant, and then arrest him?

From the moment of his arrest, even left-of-center media has been presuming his guilt without examining anything (e.g. calling him "the killer" instead of "alleged" or "accused") and then when I say he didn't do it, the nearest person chimes in with some quip that tells me they think he did do it but should go free anyway. Don't get me wrong, I would have the same attitude if he had done it. But he didn't. It makes me feel like the only sane person in the world, even among my staunchly leftist friends.

[persistence-and-adaption]

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[transmutationisms]

boss makes a dollar i make a dime that's why i steal company time

[transmutationisms]

its literally time theft tuesday

[persistence-and-adaption]

More like boss makes 10,000

I make a cent

The saying is outdated

Tell your boss to get bent

[enki2]

[depsidase]

[barkingbarghest]

Here is an article from NPR about it (May 22, 2026):

Carolina Milanesi, an independent technology analyst, said Google is trying to make its cash cow business — search — richer and more personalized, and it will make shopping easier. But there is a risk that users may have fewer choices about what to click. "Right now it's: I ask a question, I get a bunch of answers and I feel that I'm in control as to which answer I take, or if I'm looking for something, which product I'm going to end up buying. That is going to be less so going forward," she said. Milanesi envisions AI-enabled search and agents proposing products to consumers — perhaps even those they have requested — but with less clarity or choice around where it's coming from. "If you're going to say: 'I want a pair of Jordans, go find them,' you're not necessarily sure what steps have been taken and whether the AI has used a source or a store that was paid for and therefore came up in the search results," she said, "or if AI actually went and did their due diligence and picked the best for me as a customer."

And here's one from Time magazine (May 20, 2026):

While Google already has “AI Mode,” the company will now power the whole search bar through its new Gemini 3.5 Flash model.  Instead of the classic list of blue links, Google Search will now also generate a custom page with an AI-generated summary of what you’re searching about, which will then trigger a conversation with AI Mode on the main page, allowing users to ask follow-up questions—similar to the kind of layout you would see when opening ChatGPT.

And a little more from Time's article on how this may affect the websites that we are trying to search for:

When Google first started implementing AI-assisted results, news publishers warned of “catastrophic” impacts on the industry, much of which relies on Google search to drive users to their websites.  Last year, news websites saw significant traffic declines as chatbots increasingly replaced Google search as the primary way to find sites and ask questions.  Small businesses also noted drops in traffic to their sites from Google, which has traditionally delivered customers.   Lily Ray, vice president of SEO strategy & research at Amsive, a digital marketing agency, warned as early as last year that Google’s planned changes to search are “going to have a devastating impact on the Internet.”  “It will severely cut into the main source of revenue for most publishers and it will disincentivize content creators who rely on organic search traffic, which is millions of websites, maybe more,” she told Technology Magazine.  

[anarchopuppy]

noai.duckduckgo.com blocks all AI content in search results automatically

[justalurkr]

Text of tweet under the cut because it is loooong.

But... Stochastic Parrots.

Timnit Gebru was fired from Google in December 2020 for refusing to retract a research paper, and every single warning that paper made about large language models has now happened at a scale the industry spent 4 years trying to make people forget about.

Her name is Timnit Gebru.

She co-led the Ethical AI team at Google. She co-wrote a paper called "On the Dangers of Stochastic Parrots" with Emily Bender at the University of Washington and two other researchers. The paper was 14 pages long. It was submitted to a top AI ethics conference. And it was the reason Google decided that one of the most senior Black women in AI research could no longer work there.

The story Google told publicly was that she resigned. The story she told, confirmed by 2,695 of her colleagues in an open letter, was that she was fired by email while on vacation because she refused to either retract the paper or remove her name from it.

The paper had not even been published yet.

Here is what she actually wrote, and why every prediction inside it has now come true.

The first warning was about scale itself. Bender and Gebru argued that training ever-larger models on ever-larger scrapes of the internet would produce systems that appeared fluent but had no actual understanding of language. They called these systems stochastic parrots because they would repeat patterns from training data with statistical confidence and zero comprehension. The paper predicted that this apparent intelligence would fool both users and developers into trusting outputs that were structurally incapable of being reliable.

This was 2020. GPT-3 had just come out. The paper predicted the hallucination problem before anyone had a word for it.

The second warning was about bias amplification. The paper documented in detail that internet-scale training data contains systematic overrepresentation of dominant viewpoints and underrepresentation of marginalized ones. The models would not just absorb this bias. They would amplify it, because the optimization process rewards confident outputs, and confidence in language patterns tracks frequency in the training set.

The prediction was that hiring tools built on these models would discriminate against women. That healthcare triage tools would underperform on Black patients. That loan approval systems would entrench inequality while presenting their decisions as neutral algorithmic judgment.

Every one of those things has now been documented in deployment.

Amazon's hiring algorithm penalized resumes that contained the word "women" in any context. Healthcare risk scoring algorithms used by major US hospitals were found to systematically underestimate the medical needs of Black patients. Apple Card's credit algorithm gave wives credit lines 10x lower than their husbands for the same financial profile.

The third warning was about environmental cost. The paper calculated that training a single large language model produced emissions equivalent to the lifetime output of 5 cars. The prediction was that the race to scale would create an environmental footprint that would eventually rival entire industries.

In 2024, Google's emissions were up 48% from 2019, and the company explicitly blamed AI infrastructure. Microsoft's were up 29%, same reason. Both companies have now quietly abandoned the climate commitments they were publicly celebrating the year Gebru was fired.

The fourth warning was about documentation. The paper argued that the training datasets being assembled were too large for anyone to actually audit. Nobody at Google, OpenAI, Meta, or any other lab could tell you with confidence what was in the data their models were trained on. This was not a temporary problem to be solved later. It was a permanent feature of the approach.

In 2023, researchers discovered that the LAION-5B dataset, used to train Stable Diffusion and other major image models, contained thousands of images of child sexual abuse material. The companies that had trained on the dataset had no way of knowing. The paper predicted that category of failure 3 years before it was found.

The fifth warning was the one Google cared about most.

Bender and Gebru argued that the deployment of these systems would centralize linguistic and cultural power in the hands of the small number of companies that could afford to train them. The internet would become a place where the dominant voice was a statistical average of dominant voices, presented as a neutral assistant. Languages underrepresented in the training data would degrade over time as more web content was generated by these systems and fed back into the next training run.

This is now happening in real time. A 2024 study found that 57% of new web content in English is AI-generated or AI-assisted. Researchers studying low-resource languages have documented active degradation in translation quality, because the synthetic content fed back into training is itself worse in those languages.

The paper Google fired her for predicted the model collapse problem before model collapse had a name.

The mechanism behind why this all happened is the part of her work that nobody quotes.

Gebru's argument was not that AI is dangerous in some abstract sci-fi sense. Her argument was that AI is dangerous in a very specific structural sense. The technology was being built by a small group of researchers who shared similar backgrounds, worked at similar companies, and were rewarded for shipping products faster than competitors. The incentive structure made it impossible for safety, ethics, and bias concerns to slow anything down. Anyone inside the system who raised those concerns was either ignored, sidelined, or removed.

She was making that argument from inside Google.

Then Google proved her right by removing her.

The team Google had built to make sure their AI was safe was dismantled in 90 days because they did the job they had been hired to do. Margaret Mitchell, the other co-lead of the Ethical AI team, was fired two months after Gebru for searching through her own emails for evidence of how Gebru had been treated.

Gebru did not stop. She founded DAIR, the Distributed AI Research Institute, in 2021. The mission is to do AI research outside the control of the companies that have a financial interest in not hearing the answers.

Every prediction in the Stochastic Parrots paper has now been validated by deployment. Hallucinations are an industry-wide problem the largest labs cannot solve. Bias amplification has been documented in hiring, healthcare, lending, and criminal justice. Environmental costs are larger than entire small countries. Training data audits remain impossible. Model collapse is an active research crisis at every major lab.

The question worth sitting with is the one almost no one in the industry will say out loud.

Every researcher with the technical credibility to call out these problems watched what happened to her in December 2020 and made a calculation about their own career. The number of people willing to speak publicly about safety and ethics issues inside the major AI labs collapsed after that firing and has not recovered.

The researcher Google fired for warning about exactly what is now happening was right.

The company that fired her is now the second-largest deployer of the technology she warned about.

And the people inside that company who agree with her are not allowed to say so.

[fatcatissurprisinglysvelte]

The paper is available online: https://dl.acm.org/doi/abs/10.1145/3442188.3445922

[directactionforhope]

This is so, so important. I highly encourage everyone to read the full text under the readmore.

I also want to say that I feel like part of the problem with trying to explain this to a wider audience will be that most people don't know what stochastic means.

Well, in short, stochastic means random.

-via Merriam-Webster Dictionary, accessed May 26, 2026. Image description in alt.

So, that's what Google's lead of AI Ethics and her fellow leading AI researchers said about LLMs in 2021:

Generative AI is just random Random Parrots

ChatGPT is a Random Parrot, which is why it's literally incapable of giving you reliable answers to anything

Gemini is a Random Parrot, which is why it's literally incapable of giving you reliable answers to anything

Claude is a Random Parrot, which is why it's literally incapable of giving you reliable answers to anything

Deepseek is a Random Parrot, which is why it's literally incapable of giving you reliable answers to anything

They are very convincing parrots!

But no matter how impressive a parrot's ability to echo human words, you wouldn't let it write your contracts. Your court depositions. Your wedding vows. Your grocery lists. All your emails. All your papers for all your classes. All your thank you notes and letters. All your expense and budget reports at work. All the reports you send to your boss.

That's what people are doing.

They're trusting their entire lives - their grades, their decisions, their fucking wedding vows, half their fucking interaction time -

to a fucking random parrot

(that also tells suicidal people to kill themselves and tells recovering addicts to go do meth, btw)

Don't do that. Like, on top of all of the other issues like the massive environmental impacts, and modern slavery in mines in the Congo, AI psychosis, etc. etc. etc. etc.

Please don't let a random parrot that's wiretapping you for Amazon or whoever run any part of your life

[persistence-and-adaption]

Hey so Samsung Messages is going away in lieu of Google messages this June. Samsung is trying to force us all to use Google messages if we want to recieve texts.

You don't have to! There are alternatives! You have choices they don't want you to know about, because they certainly didn't give you any other options.

I haven't tried any of these yet, but i refuse to use Google messages and have them selling my text message data to advertisers and ICE. So i'm going to try them and i'll let you know what i think. If I forget, just nudge me 💀

[persistence-and-adaption]

So none of the apps here work. They're not default messaging apps. That's what you want to look for: default message apps. Any others are going to act like adding Skype or Zoom on your phone instead of letting you call your contacts.

The one i've been sticking with for now is Textra. I like the customization, but i don't like how it closes itself every time you send a text. No joke. Apparently it has ads because it said something about a free trial, and i got the opportunity to opt out of it scanning my texts to sell to advertisers without having to dig areand find the option in the settings. I'm not sure if i will stick with it or not. It doesn't have AI though. (happy about that)

Unfortunately a lot of these defaults just call themselves "messages" and the only initial difference is the photo they use and the person who made them.

A lot of them are going to try to show you ads. A lot are going to try charging you subscriptions. There are apps that are a one time payment and then you own them. These are your best bet for no ads, no BS. The way i found Textra is by looking at number of installs and average ratings. If it had a low number, i didn't install it. I might be missing some pretty good gems doing it, but i'm figuring if most people haven't bothered or it has a low rating, it's not worth risking my time and data.

[agayworthfightingfor]

On Dentists

So I can’t brush my teeth. Like, it’s the worst kind of hell. I went to the dentist for a cleaning today and I told the hygienist this, and she was wonderfully helpful.

There are some incredibly soft toothbrushes available- namely, post-surgical brushes. Running them under hot water makes them even softer.

She told me that you don’t really need to use toothpaste- it’s mostly marketing. The foam gets to me, so that is really reassuring.

She gave me two particularly soft brushes and some xylitol gum. Trident is a market brand of xylitol gum, which helps with your teeth and can make your breath smell better.

The whole purpose of brushing is to disrupt plaque buildup. You don’t need to brush twice a day, every day with toothpaste if you brush correctly- little circles, focusing on near the gums (where most plaque builds up). So if you’re having a bad sensory day and can’t brush at all, it’s not the end of the world.

Hell, you don’t even need a toothbrush if even the post-surgical ones are too harsh. Going over your teeth with the same motions using a washcloth is enough.

She wants to find a fluoride rinse that has a taste I can stand (peppermint is the only mint I can stand) but she’s not particularly worried about it.

I go to Dr. Barr in Chicago. If you can get to the State St. Macy’s, his office is nearby. He’s very kind and patient and really understanding of my needs as an autistic person. The hygienist, I don’t know her name, announced everything she was going to do before she did it, and stopped frequently to see how I was doing.

This is really the only positive dentist I’ve ever had- past dentists have been too rough and not bothered to help find ways I can actually brush.

Basically this is a glowing recommendation for Dr. Barr’s office if you’re autistic, afraid of dentists, or have sensory needs. This is a recommendation even if you don’t have any of those things.

[huhnerkopf]

Im actually crying i feel like this post was reblogged for me oh my god oh my god oh my lord thank you

[lascapigliata]

You can also dilute your mouthwash and use it to swish around if it burns. My dentist does this so consider it dentally approved

[spoonie-living]

If you were feeling guilty about your brushing habits, either due to sensory issues, pain, allergies, executive dysfunction, or just plain fatigue, here’s what you need to know about what is and isn’t necessary if your dental care!

[charismat1c-megafauna]

Post-covid, I got really horrible shit going on with my gag reflex where for some reason the mint flavor of toothpaste (and only toothpaste) would make me gag so hard that I’d throw up. Then I found a kids toothpaste that’s like strawberry flavored or something, but it has the proper adult amount of flouride, so it works for me and I don’t gag much anymore. Here’s an article with some options if you’re like me lol

Best Non-Mint Toothpaste For Adults — Dr. Gemma Wheeler

Dr. Gemma Wheeler lists best non-mint toothpaste options for adults. The list includes those that are truly non mint, without oils or aromas

Also for the people who can’t stand foam, the ingredient you’re looking to avoid is called SLS.

[bisexualbaker]

I share this frequently, but I had a very difficult time making myself floss because I hated the way that standard floss digs into my fingers when I use it. I switched to floss picks, and boom: A hated activity instantly became entirely neutral. Much easier to convince myself to do! If you have the same problem with standard floss, this might be worth a try.

Also, my most recent trip to the dentist, I was told that xylitol is a very effective treatment for dry mouth! And also that dry mouth is bad for your teeth, because it can disrupt the PH balance in your mouth, making your teeth more susceptible to cavities. While you want to be very careful to keep any xylitol products away from dogs in particular and probably pets in general, if you have dry mouth, you can try checking for products with xylitol in them.

[bisexualbaker]

Of note: My brother endorses the OraNusre brand of flavorless toothpaste; he says it “tastes like toothbrush”. My mom, meanwhile, is a fan of the Hello brand, which comes in different fruity and sweet flavors. Both of these are listed at the non-mint toothpaste link above.

If you prefer a toothpaste or a mouthwash for dry mouth, I use Biotène; it’s not cheap, but brushing once a day with it, a tube of Biotène toothpaste lasts me around four to five months. As far as I’m aware, it’s only in mint flavor.

[persistence-and-adaption]

Maybe there is hope. Maybe the right trying to drag us back to the 1800s is being met with so much resistance that it's acting like a slingshot. Once that pressure pulling back slips.. Maybe, just maybe, we'll progress so much faster than ever before.

[persistence-and-adaption]

Boss makes 5 million every quarter, I make 8,750...

That never meets inflation or accounts for my landlord's greedy hands and inflated assumptions of my ability to pay

Or how food prices have beat the rate of inflation since COVID

Or how bleak the the possibility of me ever owning a house is

Trading time of my life I'll never get back for 3 gallons of gas per hour, mixed with ethanol at a percentage that is potentially intentionally designed to destroy all vehicles older than 2002, and charging a premium to fix the problem they caused;; to purchase gasoline with lower amounts of ethanol....

And everyone around me is in a similar boat.

Why put in the effort at work when they'll just replace you with AI or fire you in a market that's in favor of the people hiring?

Why destroy life, health, and what little joy is left to scrape off the remnants of the concrete that separates us from the soil below?

people keep saying, Europe would never have put up with all this. Our ancestors dumped tea in the harbor for less. But i suspect they've been priming the population for this for much longer than anyone realizes.

Making us complacent. Separating us. Isolating us, then making our main form of communication easy to track. Creating problems then charging us for the "convenience" when they put the price tag on the solution that was given for free, expected for free, 10 years ago. That's the snake eating its tail because it has eaten everything else there is; destroyed its ecosystem until it only has its own tail left to quell its greed.

I keep hearing that we are not angry enough. We are not. We are not angry enough. People are dying. People are being tortured. This is how it was in Germany. It was easy for people to go about their day and ignore the horrors because they still had to go to work and put food on the table.

We need more connection. More community. We are braver when we are surrounded people we know all have each other's backs. That is one of the major differences enabling this modern day horror to continue. Start asking yourself what you can do to fix it. Narrow down the problem until it's at a scale where you realize, yes, i can do that

and make sure you eat food and stay hydrated or i'll tell Miette on you.

[tiktoks-i-enjoyed]

[persistence-and-adaption]

It's okay to realize you have been manipulated.

It is okay to realize you have fallen for propaganda.

You're not stupid. Propaganda has many methods. Some are designed to be obvious and in your face. Those are designed to wear yoi down. Some are designed to fool you. If they did, it's not your fault. It's decades, centuries even, of human psychological studies leveraged against you and everyone you know. To make you believe what they want instead of what is true.

It is okay to acknowledge that. To feel angry about it. It's an injustice done to you; you were betrayed by the things you thought you could trust. The YouTubers. The news channels. All of them.

I know it's hard. Betrayal is one of the most difficult psychological wounds to navigate. Your feelings are completely valid.

It's grief. You're grieving the loss of trust with that realization. You're seeing other people around you still in the midst of it, maybe even trying to figure out how to get them to see it, too.

It's okay to start small. Take the flag down. Toss the hat. Look for different news channels to watch. Unsubscribe and watch funny cat videos.

It's okay to realize you were wrong.

[persistence-and-adaption]

Real life dystopia looks like police surveillance tracking your heart rate every time you get in your shiny new vehicle. If it's too high? The vehicle won't shift into gear. If you're on your phone? Your truck/car will call the cops on you.

Now imagine you're running from an incoming flood. Your heart is pounding from fear. Your car detects your heart rate is high so it doesn't shift into gear. You're overcome by the flood in a vehicle that functions exactly as it was designed to.

[storybookprincess]

so back when my little brother was in high school, my mom went as a chaperone for their senior year field trip to an amusement park. which, you know, brave move to volunteer to supervise a bunch of high school seniors let loose in a wonderland of rollercoasters and sugar

my brother and his friends in this field trip group were truly great kids. but they were not above run of the mill teenage boy shenanigans. it’s the end of senior year, you and all your buddies are at the amusement park, you’re naturally going to want to act like a complete moron

there was one kid in the group who was especially prone to goofing around. committed to the bit, some may say. my mom knew that if nonsense was going to break out, he’d likely be at the center of it

so she goes up to this kid at the very start of the trip and says “hey, i’m kinda worried about this chaperoning thing. this might be a lot to ask, but can you help me keep an eye on everyone? you wouldn’t have to do anything big, just be an extra set of eyes for me.”

friends, this kid proceeded to run their field trip group like the fucking us marines. everyone is at the meet up spots at the designated time. everyone waits in line for the rides like a bunch of boy scouts. the second the horseplay gets too out of hand, this kid is getting it back under control

it’s incredible how differently people act based on the expectations you set. instead of going to this kid and saying “hey, i know you’re trouble, so i’ve got my eye on you,” my mom went “hey, i know you have influence in your peer group, so i think you can help me.”

treat someone like a problem, they’ll act like a problem. but give people a chance to help, make them feel important, and they usually rise far above the occasion. it was a stroke of genius that i’m honestly still in awe of

[gayteensupreme]

"queer-owned business" means nothing anymore. OpenAI and Palantir are both queer-owned businesses.

[gayteensupreme]

if this is how you find out that both sam altman and peter thiel are gay im sorry

[persistence-and-adaption]

And dog owners are all bad because Hitler was a dog owner.

Sounds bad when i put it like that, doesn't it? But they're the same sentence. It makes an equal amount of sense. The reason queer owned businesses are raised above the rest is the same reason as woman and black owned business. They struggle to get funding and succeed compared to a straight white cis dude. This generalization and attempt at establishing a new stereotype for queer businesses isn't going to help anyone. Please don't do this.

[persistence-and-adaption]

Phrases for when someone uses AI for you without your consent (use as context allows) (being mostly blunt, not polite, cause' you didn't ask for that!):

Thanks, but I liked it better without AI

If I wanted an answer from AI, I would have asked it directly. I was asking you.

Did you know AI can hallucinate up to 40% of the time?

Putting my (art, writing, ect..m) into an AI to critique it is a breach of trust and privacy. Don't do it again.

You might not be able to stop someone from using AI in general (can't convince em' all), but you CAN set a hard boundary about them using it for you by proxy.