I got told today after my hockey match by one of the new girls that it was really welcoming to have somebody looking out for them and making sure that they knew what they were doing, and helping them out when I could see they were struggling.
I’ve got so many friends with varying degrees of social anxiety and the likes, I went into autopilot during a match and made sure the new girl ( who’s name I didn’t actually know until half time) was never in a position in which somebody else on the team might yell at her for, because I know how much that can knock somebody’s confidence.
Holy cow I don’t know how often I do this, but after the match I heard her saying how helpful I’d been during the match, and one of the other newer players saying that it was great having somebody the same sort of age as them that was willing to spend the time with them at training to actually explain the terminology and stuff to them.
I actually feel comfortable at hockey again, because the new players feel comfortable talking to me.
I mean, it's not like I've not done this before. Some of my friends call it my "mum mode", because I make sure they don't do daft things like lock themselves in bathrooms whilst drunk (and promptly picking the lock when they do), and stealing traffic cones, and not going to sleep when half the people in the room are trying to get to sleep - yes I get a lot of sarcastic "yes mum" 's when around those friends, even when not in mum mode. I did get a Mother's Day present off them this year, which was sweet.
I've never had friends like them, and they're wonderful and when I met them something in me seemed to go "do not let these people do anything stupid or reckless", so I made sure that every last drunk soul at that party was safe, drank water before bed, and that everybody got some sleep.
It started as a half sarcastic comment from a girl who was drunk and throwing up and I told her to drink some water and go lie down, and turned into a Mother's Day present from a group of people who's average age is about 2 years older than how old I actually am.

















