Poly Feels

A place where we discuss our love and loves. T and I (I'm D) are newly poly and thought this might be a good place to share our experiences.

[heytherepeaches-deactivated2019]

[genderqueerpositivity]

(Image description: a blue background, white text in a brown circle says “thankful to be polyamorous”. End image description.)

[polyamorouspixie]

everyone thinks being poly is either going to be endless happy orgies, or constant anxiety and stress. In reality it’s more like…

–”haha you have a crush on [friend]. Ahaha you luuuurve her”

–”are these your socks?” “nope” “oh well guess they’re mine now”

–”I’m free on Wednesday and Friday” “I’m only free Thursday” “okay I have two hours free on Thurs” “well I can do Thursday IF I change the washing machine repair hang on…” 

–”is it okay if I stay out tonight?” “please do, I have to be up at seven”

–”hahaha look at these idiots on Tinder, they want a live in maid and childcare…”

–”hahaha look at this doofus on Tinder, I bet he’s a yoga instructor” “did you match with him?” “… yes”

–finding all three of the people you’re into have messaged you while you were at work and saying “yesss, hat trick!” to no one in particular

[trip-and-stumble]

[provocative-romantic-unique]

[archived-twigwise]

I went on a rant on twitter because I didnt have my coffee to restrain me

[averyterrible]

starting a cult, nothing creepy, just want to build a compound in the mountains

[polyangel-deactivated20200421]

Polyam commune?

[beforethebeautyfades]

Reblog this if your blog is a safe space for polyamorous people! 🌈

[kimchicuddles]

I’m always confused by what the people in the #StandardPolyStockPhoto are DOING and why their feet are always sticking off the bed. So I decided to start writing my own narratives… Website: KimchiCuddles.com

If you’re amused, throw some dollars at my Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/kimchicuddles

[nankingdecade]

What I mean when I say "toxic monogamy culture"

the normalization of jealousy as an indicator of love

the idea that a sufficiently intense love is enough to overcome any practical incompatibilities

the idea that you should meet your partner’s every need, and if you don’t, you’re either inadequate or they’re too needy

the idea that a sufficiently intense love should cause you to cease to be attracted to anyone else

the idea that commitment is synonymous with exclusivity

the idea that marriage and children are the only valid teleological justifications for being committed to a relationship

the idea that your insecurities are always your partner’s responsibility to tip-toe around and never your responsibility to work on

the idea that your value to a partner is directly proportional to the amount of time and energy they spend on you, and it is in zero-sum competition with everything else they value in life

the idea that being of value to a partner should always make up a large chunk of how you value yourself

[chien-espagnol]

This is excellent

[even-the-losers]

I’m literally gonna reblog this on every single tumblr I have

[learningaboutpoly]

Advice from another poly-ish friend

A week or so ago, I spoke with a friend who’s also in an open (or maybe just flexible?) relationship. She had some great insights to share, the two biggest ones being:

I) Know that if your partner would leave you, it wouldn’t be because of the open relationship. Your partner chose you for a reason, and still stays with you. It’s worth remembering this, and communication keeps being the most important thing here, too.

II) Doubts stem from your own mind. Unless you have a good reason to think it’s because of your partner, remember that the voices in your head often aren’t there because of your partner; they come from you. And maybe the voices are there to keep you safe - but they also won’t let you be happy if you risk being hurt, either.

All in all, trying to remember to trust your partner when they say they love you.. it goes a long way. Maybe the longest way, even.

[kimchicuddles]

Is that a riding crop in your pocket or are you just happy to see me? 

Support Kimchi Cuddles by becoming a patron! Thank you SO MUCH for your support!! <3 https://www.patreon.com/kimchicuddles

[beforethebeautyfades]

If you are polyamorous 🌈 REBLOG this so I can follow you

[polyfeels]

Poly Feels turned 3 today!

I know we don’t quite post as much as we’d like on here, but thank you for sticking around when we do.

[polyamandhellaglam]

The Three Cs of Polyamory

Communication

Consent

And Communication again because I can’t stress it enough.

[rainbow--foxes]

I kinda wanna add a fourth C because Compersion is good too.

[zelldas]

no other person on this planet was made for you, they were made for themselves. love is all about choices. no one is going to be perfect for you, and i think we need to stop raising everyone on the belief that someone out there, just one other person in the whole world, was “made for you” because it isn’t true. no one is made for you, besides you. other people belong to themselves. if you want to make it work with someone, it’s about hard work, understanding, compassion, communication, and choice

[petrihkor]

Polyamory

Reblog if you’re polyamorous/open to polyamory in the future/in a polycule or open to one/interested in polyamory I want to see how many of us there are

And like if you think polyamory is okay, can be healthy, and doesn’t “go against human nature”