Using my old side blog to post this so its not on my main but here are some things from my npd x npd relationship that just make sense:
Gassing each other up obvi
Being extremely mindful of triggering feelings like shame, blame, or guilt in convos (even including changing "where did you put the hairbrush?" to --> "would you happen to know where the hair brush is?"
Its us vs the world instead of me vs you. Need to put yourself in a position of superiority in relation to someone? Do that to someone else, never to each other.
It is really just something else to exist in a world that is so hostile to you and your needs but be able to come home to a person. A person who is home. Where a silent agreement and mutual understanding between the two of you rules, transcending everything else. Someone you don't have to hide unflattering parts from and who doesnt need to hide them from you. Someone so similar that there's little friction. Two people uniquely equipped to take each other's shit on the chin, who have already hurt each other and already forgiven each other. Its unconditional. It's secure. It's more real than anything anyone else could give me.
