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[positively-queerplatonic]

About

hello i’m max and this is my queerplatonic blog!

i wanted to have a space where queerplatonic stuff could live, since the main blog i saw took a sour turn.

feel free to “spam” like or reblog, i do not mind at all

my pronouns are they/he

before you follow:

i support/believe in:

black lives matter

acab

stop asian hate

mspec-lesbians/gays

reclamating queer

mogai and liom

aspec people are lgbt

neopronouns

xenogenders and neogenders

i do not support

anti-black lives matter or “blue/all lives matter”

racistism, antisemitism, islamophobia, xenophobia

homophobia/transphobia/lgbtphobia/queerphobia

terfs/gender critical/transmed or any transmisogynist (here we love and support all our trans siblings)

pro-ship/anti-anti

map/no-map/pear/🍐/pedophile or whatever these creeps are calling themselves

pro-ana/eating disorder

aphobe, acephobe and/or arophobe (why are you here??)

battleaxe-bi or anti mspec identities

anti-neopronouns

anti-mogai

queeragamic or its creator/s

[do-stuff-with-your-qpp]

Commit world domination with your qpp/qpps <3

[miraculouslumination]

Hey apparently the creator of this aroace flag:

[Image ID: the golden and blue aroace pride flag. It has five horizontal stripes. end ID]

is being harassed by exclusionists because they support mspec lesbians and gays. I've heard it's gotten really bad on Twitter, but everyone knows that diseases love to spread! With this harassment, there are also people (a lot of which aren't even aroace themselves) trying to change and make a "new" aroace flag.

Do not use these flags. They were by and for exclusionists. If you see people trying to spread a "new flag" because the "old flag has a problematic creator", block them because they're probably an exclusionist or are heading towards that pipeline.

There are also PLENTY of alternative aroace flags, too, that I have seen around for much longer and were probably made for much better, less ill-intented reasons, if you simply don't want to use or like this flag. (I legit saw someone a little while ago make a new aroace flag because "I just don't like how the other one looks" and also "I don't feel represented by it is all").

Exclusionists tried this shit with the pansexual flag and its creator, who also shows support for mspec lesbians, during pride month. This is repeating because exclusionists feel 100% capable of getting away with this, and we can't have that.

Exclusionists have already put the aroace community through fucking hell and back before they moved on to the pansexual community. Now they want us to change our flags because the creators aren't miserable, exclusive arseholes like them. This can't keep happening, and this can't become a pattern.

Don't use these new flags. Don't blindly believe callout posts. Do your own research. Make your own decision.

[transfagrified-in-the-void]

Because it’s black history month and arospec week, here’s to the black aros of the community.

The black loveless aros

The black aros in a qpr

The black demiros

The black cupioros

The black frayros

The black acearos

The black greyros

The black lithioros

The black quoiros

The black akioros

The black aegoros

The black arofluxes

And everyone in between

Y’all are so amazing and so so valid. I love all of you

[queerplatonicyearning]

[ID: A series of moodboards based on combining the qpr flag with the aro flag, the aroace flag, and the aroallo flag /ID]

happy aro awareness week!!

[kaznomi]

I do not want a life-long partnership, as an aroace person.

When I first learned about being aromantic and asexual, I saw a post on Tumblr about QPRs, aka “Queer/Quasi-platonic relationship”. Here is some quick information on what this means.

I thought that I was interested in this type of relationship. I have been in multiple QPRs in the past even. 

But, after really reflecting on it, I realized - it was the exact same situation as with romantic/sexual relationships.

I am not interested in any kind of relationship beyond friendship. Queerplatonic, romantic, sexual, anything like that. I do not want a “life-long partner”. I love being completely single. I am completely fulfilled and content.

Yet, that voice that tells me that I will never be happy without being in these types of relationships? Yeah, it’s still here. 

With QPRs, this was my unconscious thought process.

“If I am not in a romantic/sexual relationships, at least I can be in a QPR and be somewhat normal.” or “Maybe I will develop these feelings if I can hold out a little longer.”

I felt the exact same in QPRs as I felt in romantic/sexual relationships: trapped, awkward, uncomfortable, stressed. The fact I could not return these feelings would make me extremely stressed. In my last relationship, that was the biggest wake-up call. I was so stressed during that relationship and had no idea why. The second we broke up? I felt so much better.

My dream is living on my own, maybe own a pet, have my own space, but also have a few friends I can hang out with. This is completely fine! I am allowed to live however I want to as long as it isn’t hurting anyone.

Anyways, I guess I’m making this post to show people that you don’t have to be in ANY kind of relationship if you do not want to. I didn’t realize this until very recently, and if I had known earlier, it would’ve saved SO MUCH TROUBLE for EVERYONE. 

You can have a completely fulfilling life. You are not broken. It is your life, and you deserve to live it however you want to.

[italian-aro-b1tch]

I couldn’t agree more

[thinking-aromanticism]

To me, this really illustrates how discussions around queerplatonic partners in aromantic spaces can reinvent relationship hierarchies, and even amatonormative expectations around permanence, obligation, and monogamy.

Aromantics reasonably take issue with the normative pressure to engage in one form of “special” relationship that automatically takes precedence over other relationships in the eyes of both participants and community members, and with the expectation that they’ll honor these relationships as super duper important and special when people around them engage in them. But that dynamic can come into play just as much with relationships that are named and articulated in different ways, that use different signifiers of affection, and that take place within the aromantic community.

Queerplatonic relationships aren’t romantic relationships, but when people go into them with expectation of developing an exceptional, lifelong relationship with shared property and legal sanction, in which partners are more obligated to each other than they are to other friends and community members, in which partners expect high levels of emotional support consistently, in which partners expect to be able to place limits on each other’s interactions with others and retreat from certain intimacies to preserve them as exclusive for their partners… similar emotional pressures apply!

Unpacking amatonormativity requires not just rejecting romance as a label, but rejecting the exceptional and expected values attached to that which amatonormativity promotes.

[positively-queerplatonic]

alright so i know this is isn’t my usual content but do need do minor help:

what are some of you favorite zines?

i need some examples to show someone and i don’t really have any

[do-stuff-with-your-qpp]

infodump about hermitcraft to your qpps

[bisforbutch]

Very peeved that ace aro ppl have created a very infinitely useful word for life partnership not bound by sex or romance and y'all just rolled your eyes and went "so friends 🙄" Like well yes but actually, no. Like I guarantee you that most of your close friends would not even ponder being your committed life partner for no reason 😭😭😭 Like I love my friends and they are the human beings I'm most committed to easily, but if I said yeah let's move in together, tie our finances up together in every way and plan the next few years of our lives together, not just as roommates but considering and sacrificing each other's careers like??? Maybe one would even consider that and the rest would be like "are you smoking crack cocaine?" Like!!! OK y'all passing the point of disbelief if you're saying any odd homie on the street will do that. BUT guess what? If you do have a completely nonromantic nonsexual life partner? Guess what bitch? That's a qpp because that's the coined term. Good night!

[positively-queerplatonic]

@/gotsumdemons my beloved tell them i say hi

@gotsumdemons ? i’ll take your lead on this one

[do-stuff-with-your-qpp]

stay up late with your qpp

[butterpeat]

I wish more allo people knew about the existence of queerplatonic relationships. Or were just more comfortable defining their relationships in the ways that they want instead of sticking to an artificial standard.

Like, you don't want to have sex with someone? Cool! Don't! You can still be in love with them!

You want to make out with your friends? Cool! If they feel the same, you can do that completely platonically!

You're in love with multiple people at the same time? Cool! That can work, and it does work for a whole community of people!

You don't like all the baggage attached to so many labels surrounding romance, but still want to experience a closeness with someone that society has only portrayed as being possible in a romantic relationship? Cool! Guess what? You can achieve that closeness without those labels!

You can define your own boundaries however you want, and you don't have to be aspec to do it.

It's not a drop-down menu, folks. It's a fill in the blank. :)

[positively-queerplatonic]

hello tumblr’rs, it’s is i, ✨them✨ (yes, the one from the tag.) i am on max’s tumblr lul. i am so cool and sexy and hot, go follow my instagram <3 @/gotsumdemons love you, bye gay ppl

[sometimesafrog]

Cpuld you do the queerplatonic flag 👉👈

Queerplatonic frog!

I hope this was the flag you meant 😅

[angrynutinfluencer-deactivated2]

being arospec and possibly polyam at the same time is so fucking weird

[local-monster-dad]

Poly qprs sound amazing. A buncha people to cuddle me and hold my hand? Yes please.

Its QPR longing hours again but there's two people this time.

[do-stuff-with-your-qpp]

hand an air pod to ur qpp and have them listen to the most horrendous audio shitpost they have ever heard