Now I’m married to a wonderful person and we have a child together. Getting a note on this brought me back to this post and it made me feel sick to look at.
But I wanted to reblog it again to make sure others aren’t suffering in toxic relationships.
things “body positivity” movements should address besides weight/fat:
(dis)ability
features associated with non-whiteness
hair type
lots of body hair / no body hair / little body hair / hair in all places / losing hair
acne
skin conditions
scars
stretch marks
skin discolorations
different ways that skin tans
tanlines
etc
so when white feminists show me pictures of fat able-bodied white women with super smooth skin and no discolorations/skin marks and no body hair and say “love your body!!1!” it’s like nope.
I may be fat but I’m also so many other things that are looked down upon and policed. If your body positivity doesn’t seek to dismantle white supremacy/ableism/cissexism/etc, what good is your body positivity? who is it helping?
Watching my toddler figure out how to language is fascinating. Yesterday we were stumped when he kept insisting there was a “Lego winner” behind his bookshelf - it turned out to be a little Lego trophy cup. Not knowing the word for “trophy”, he’d extrapolated a word for “thing you can win”. And then, just now, he held up his empty milk container and said, “Mummy? It’s not rubbish. It’s allowed to be a bottle.” - meaning, effectively, “I want this. Don’t throw it away.” But to an adult ear, there’s something quite lovely about “it’s allowed to be a bottle,” as if we’re acknowledging that the object is entitled to keep its title even in the absence of the original function.
My son was about three when he came to me in the middle of the day and said, “Mommy, there’s a knight behind the bush.” I thought he meant a toy knight or something. So I follow him outside and he goes, “Listen. Do you hear it? It’s night behind the bush.” It was a cricket. A cricket was standing in the little patch of shade under the bush, chirping. So, my son saw this dark area with accompanying nighttime sounds and decided, okay, well, that is a night right there. Their brains are incredible.
Somewhere amid all this, Bono started talking about his children’s relationship with music, and he dropped this little nugget:
“Turns out, in Bono’s world, a rock-and-roll revolution is “around the corner,” all because (ostensibly white) teenaged boys don’t have enough of a modern outlet for their male rage, since it isn’t sufficient just to lay claim to Nirvana, Led Zeppelin, The Beatles, Guns ‘n Roses, Pearl Jam, Black Sabbath, The Who, The Rolling Stones, Metallica, Tom Petty & the Heartbreakers, Pink Floyd, the Ramones, The Clash, Van Halen, the Sex Pistols, Talking Heads, Bob Dylan, the Velvet Underground, the Doors, Iggy Pop, Aerosmith, David Bowie, Van Halen, Elvis Presley, Bruce Springsteen, Crosby, Stills & Nash, The Cure, Frank Zappa—I could go on (and on, and on, and on, and on), but I won’t.
But in 2017, female artists have been permitted to grace the charts, and though Bono acknowledges there are “some good things” about seeing women thrive, Beyoncé’s musical ascent has in his estimation left the men with naught but one popular genre to dominate, even though nine out of 10 of the top tracks on Billboard’s Hot Rock Songs chart this week were released by male artists/bands.
“In the end, what is rock & roll? Rage is at the heart of it,” Bono told Rolling Stone, adding, “Some great rock & roll tends to have that, which is why the Who were such a great band. Or Pearl Jam. Eddie has that rage.” Today’s (white) men, though, reportedly have no music to call their own, and are therefore relegated only to releasing their rage at being the least oppressed members of society via mediums like film, television, national lawmaking, company CEOing, and Twitter-threading. To name a few.”
Read the full piece here
Male chauvinism + sexism = ignoring the rocking women out there recording and touring, while whining about “rock isn’t rocking because music is girly.”
HOW TF IS IT GIRLS FAULT IF MALE BANDS AREN’T MAKING “RAGE” ALBUMS THAT ARE SELLING? JFC THE WOMAN BLAMING IS STRONG WITH THIS WEAK-ASS ONE.
I saw Courtney Barnett live in 2016 and she killed it - HIGHLY RECOMMENDED to see her if she comes to your town.
Women are making the best rock music today.
Here are the bands that prove it.
“But a new generation of female and non-binary performers — punk in style or spirit, coming from the all-ages warehouse and D.I.Y.-venue ecosystem — is taking their place.
Turn on your sound to hear 25 bands that prove women are making the best rock music today — then listen to an extended playlist of standout songs from 25 more.”
I went to the “Behind the Scenes” panel for Moana at CTN expo this year and the explanation is as follows:
In development, HeiHei used to be a character meant to be Moana’s watchdog. He stands to the side making sure she stays out of trouble (and away from the sea) and judges her (sort of like Flint the hummingbird from Pocahontas) but the directors were worried that it made him too unlikeable. John Lasseter gave the crew about 48 hours to think of a way to figure out how to save his character or else he’d be cut from the film. So instead HeiHei’s IQ was lowered waaaay down, making him more lovable and funny. During a story pitch in which Moana had to retrieve the Heart of Te Fiti from the Kakamora, she originally only retrieved the stone. The artists reboarded it exactly the same except HeiHei swallowed it and the Kakamora was lugging around a chicken instead and it instantly made everything more hilarious. To which Lasseter exclaimed at that moment: “THE CHICKEN LIVES!” an inside joke that was kept at the end of the film when the ocean spat HeiHei onto the shore and Maui remarks “the chicken lives!”
best thing about this movie was the perfectly marketed/polished commercial animal side kick just waiting to be the new olaf and then its in the movie for like 3 mins tops and instead a chicken that eats rocks gets to be the disney animal companion™
Once they rewrote the character they were in a panic. Who could voice such a role?
None other than Alan Tudyk, known as “Walt Disney Studios’ lucky charm” due to his roles as Duke in Frozen, King Candy in Wreck-It Ralph and KTSO in Rogue One, who made the front freaking page of the Wall Street Journal due to his performance.
Tudyk says: “The character you’re playing, even though he’s a rooster and is really stupid, you approach it in the same way you would approach Hamlet, which is exactly how I approached it. But they give you the circumstances. “You’re on the boat. You didn’t expect to be here. You just climbed in a boat to maybe sleep. You don’t even know why you climbed in the boat. You’re really that dumb. Every three minutes is a new world to you, so you see that you’re trapped on this boat, and you freak out. Go.”
I mean condoms are so good for women to have safe sex with. You can put your fingers in them for safe fingering or you can turn them into dental dams for safe eating, or you can put them on a dildo to prevent the spreading of germs as long as you put a new one on for every person and orifice. Also trans women exist. Safe sex is important y'all.
