endos fuck off

traumagenic system [in therapy; diagnosis TBD]┆anti-endo, endos and their supporters go away┆they/it

[primrosecafe]

don’t feel like making a fully fleshed out nice-looking intro post atm so here’s a bit of info and our dni

info/byf

we’re fairly blunt and can come across harshly. if we are coming across too aggressively and it is making you uncomfortable, let us know and we’ll be more mindful

this blog is not syscourse free, so keep that in mind

we’re a traumagenic system. we’re currently in therapy pursuing a diagnosis

we will not provide our member count, our triggers/front triggers, or information about our littles

vehemently anti-endo

we support all good faith queer identities

use tone tags with us unless stated otherwise

don’t dm us if you’re younger than 15 or older than 19. if you have a question or need to tell us something, there’s an ask tab right there

we don’t support going out and harassing people but if you send us hate, there’s a good chance your ask will be responded to publicly and harshly depending on the alter who responds to it. do yourself a favor and don’t waste your time

anon is off for this reason. if you want your ask to be responded to privately, let us know in the ask (unless you’re sending hate messages in which case it’ll be deleted at best or posted at worst. just remember you did it to yourself lmao)

dni

endos and their supporters

you unironically use the terms “sysmed” or “traumascum” (ur gross fuck off)

you fakeclaim people in any capacity. it’s none of ur business, leave people alone for gods sake

against educated self-dx

you believe that low-empathy people are “evil” 

you’re a dream/schlatt stan 

if you watch DSMP/MCYT you’re fine but be critical of what you consume

DDLG/ABDL/variants

against SFW age regresssion

you fit the basic dni criteria 

MAP/NOMAP/pedo/whatever the fuck ya’ll go by these days, blue lives matter, all lives matter, racist, sexist, ableist, antisemitic, pro-life/anti-abortion, trump stan, right-wing, homophobic, transphobic, TERF, SWERF, radfem, truscum/transmed, etc etc

pro-shipper/anti-anti/pro-fiction (again ur gross fuck you)

primarily a vent blog 

if you vent on your blog you’re fine just as long as it isn’t the main purpose of your blog and you tag vents

NSFW blog

self-harm blog

ED/pro-ana/thinspo/literally anything like that including “only pro for myself”

you like Harry Potter/support JKR

idc if ur trans, idc if you think it’s comforting, JKR literally said that she thinks all of her fans agree w her TERF bullshit and literally almost all of us are trans/nby in some capacity, you are not our ally

tagging

we’ll tag the following triggers on posts. if you need something else tagged let us know and we’d be happy to oblige

(this is exactly how these tags will appear on posts that they apply to down to the letter. please block these tags if they will trigger you)

sh 

sui

ed

abuse

sa

csa

religion

gaslighting

racism

sexism

homophobia

transphobia

exclus

vent

proship

intrusive thoughts

other tags we’ll use

primrose talks (for asks and stuff that we just feel like talking about)

[name].txt (for filtering posts based on who posted it. [name] is replaced by the alter’s name)

long post (for long posts)

important (for important posts)

donations (for posts requesting aid)

rb (posts that we have reblogged)

self care (posts that are related to self care)

positivity (positivity posts)

ok to rb (posts that are okay to reblog)

do not rb (do not reblog)

anyway that’s it for now. idk if we’ll redo this or not but it is what it is

[primrosecafe]

hey we havent been on this blog in ages- thinking about changing our theme but not sure what to do with it yet. hope everyone’s doing alright tho

[z0mborb]

some of you may've heard about that fancy "bionic reading" typefont thats supposed to be easier for neurodivergent people to read (if you're unfamiliar, it bolds the first few letters of each word to make it easier to follow)

well guess what, its locked behind a $500 a month API to write in because fuck you!

introducing, Not Bionic Reading! it is literally just the bionic reading typefont but for free. god bless neocities

Tech bros are on another world just make a framework like the rest of us.

anyone who can, pls reblog!

[peenalize]

stop saying empathy when you really mean compassion. im gettin sick of saying it

[peenalize]

empathy is a subconscious reaction that is possible to be learned but for the most part someone has no control over it. the amount of it is also often tied to disorders. compassion is the CHOICE to be kind and to help people. we dont "need more empathy!" what we need is more compassion. something you're not doing a very great job at demonstrating. empathy isnt inherently good and having it doesnt make you a good person. yall need to get over that mindset and accept that bad people can have empathy too.

[peenalize]

empathy havers for the last time shut the hell up on this post. "i have empathy and it sucks because i feel sad for people :(" "im the bad person with empathy" shut. the. fuck. up.

this is not about how empathy makes you miserable or whatever. this is about how we often use empathy in place of compassion and how we need to stop moralizing empathy. make your own post. stop derailing this. im sorry you're uncomfortable that someone with low empathy is calling out the privilege society treats yall with but this is not the time or place. keep quiet.

i have low empathy and i get treated like shit. im not interested in hearing your sob stories about how hard it is to have empathy. its not the point of this post so drop it.

[peenalize]

saying this one last time. unless you are low/no empathy shut the fuck up on this post. yall i am exhausted and this is annoying. i made this post to vent my frustrations with how often times low empathy people get left behind because empathy is praised as if it inherently makes you good or bad. the point of this post is empathy is not and should not be moralized. people with empathy can easily manipulate people and people without empathy can easily be compassionate. i am sick of hearing about how much it sucks to have empathy. i am not sympathetic to your plight, please find your own post instead of derailing mine.

[primrosecafe]

Hey we're super inactive here but hello how is everyone

[sweetfirebird]

Hey so this was posted on Twitter by @kbspangler and I saw it this morning and uhhhhh. Anyway, if you have been telling yourself things are fine and normal with you despite some signs that maybe they are not, please look at this.

[iron-sunrise]

How the FUCK do you get to green?! That doesn't even sound realistic!

[blackwoolncrown]

It takes a long time.

[commandercod]

[ID: A chart that ranges from green to red. Green is labeled “Thriving: I got this”. Yellow is labeled “Surviving: Something isn’t right”. Orange is labeled “Struggling: I can’t keep up”. Red is labeled “In Crisis: I can’t survive this.” Each section further describes what each section means.

Under Thriving are the examples: calm and steady, with minor mood fluctuations. Able to take things in stride. Consistent performance. Able to take feedback and adjust to changes of plans. Able to focus. Able to communicate effectively. Normal sleep patterns and appetite.

Under Surviving are the examples: nervousness, sadness, increased mood fluctuations. Inconsistent performance. More easily overwhelmed or irritated. Increased need for control and difficulty adjusting to changes. Trouble sleeping or eating. Activities and relationships you used to enjoy seem less interesting or even stressful. Muscle tension, low energy, headaches.

Under Struggling are the examples: Persistent fear, panic, anxiety, anger, pervasive sadness, hopelessness. Exhaustion. Poor performance and difficulty making decisions or concentrating. Avoiding interaction with family, coworkers, and friends. Fatigue, aches and pains. Restlessness, disturbed sleep. Self-medicating with substances, food, or other numbing activities.

Under In Crisis are the examples: Disabling distress and loss of function. Panic attacks. Nightmares or flashbacks. Unable to fall or stay asleep. Intrusive thoughts. Thoughts of self-harm or suicide. Easily enraged or aggressive. Careless mistakes and an inability to focus. Feeling numb, lost, or out of control. Withdrawal from relationships. Dependence on substances, food, or other numbing or coping mechanisms. [/end ID]

[rembrandtae]

three important things to remember right now:

1. do not share ANY information about the place, the state, and the members of Ukrainian army. don't like it, don't reblog it, don't even write about it.

2. if you want to get information, do not look for carrds or twt threads. turn on your tv, read a newspaper, look for journalists and officials. do not trust random internet users and do not spread the disinformation and propaganda that is already circulating around here. double check every account you see talking about what's happening before deciding to share it further.

3. listen to Ukrainians.

[syscoursehell]

actually no lets talk about the anti-vaxx comparison 

ignores the amount of studies behind why DID/OSDD1/UDD are the disorders they are

surrounds themselves with their (extremely insular) community

refuses to look into the science of things that they experience

gets defensive when asked for sources

has begun admitting they’re anti-psych

tells scientists/clinicians they dont know what they’re talking about

use spirituality as a way to escape criticism 

high level of racism in the community

when asked to do a modicum of research, they bring up a tumblr post or a carrd (similar to bringing up a facebook post or tweet, or hell they’ll use those too)

”ive done my own research” but has no scholarly journals to back up anything that they say

feel free to rb, add on, etc., that’s just what i can think of off the top of my head. either way, if your community begins to be comparable to anti-vaxxers, maybe it’s time to take a good hard look at your community.

[antichrister]

no but ur literally the fucking transmeds of the system community. traumagenics arent the only valid form of system, its ableist to pretend otherwise

this is very funny and extremely incorrect. so let's start with the inaccurate comparison you chose, and many endos do.

being transgender is an identity. gender is a social construct, there's no "criteria" for being trans besides identifying with a different gender to the one you were assigned. "transgender" is an opt-in identifier. anyone can be trans.

"systems", or having alters, is not an identity. it's not something you can choose, it isn't something that happens at random or for no reason. you have an extreme misunderstanding of what alters are and why they develop. what an alter is, is a dissociated self-state with dissociative barriers. that's literally what alters are. the reason they develop is because, in a young child who's personality is still developing, their ego states don't integrate the way they're supposed to - and the combination of three factors is the only thing that causes this to happen;

the child must have a predisposition to dissociate, disorganised attachment to a primary caregiver, and chronic, repeated trauma. that's what DID is, that's how alters develop. alters do not just develop "naturally", they do not develop because someone wants alters, and someone following regular identity development (which usually happens around ages 7-10, and again, literally the only thing that disrupts this development is trauma + dissociation + disorganised attachment) cannot develop alters.

(once the personality integration has been disrupted, they can continue to develop alters at any age. but someone with an integrated personality cannot.)

don't you fucking dare compare me to truscum because i believe published, peer-reviewed research over anecdotal evidence. because i think it's awful that a "community" are literally treating a serious symptom of a traumagenic dissociative disorder like an identity.

i promise, with the decades of studies that have been poured into DID, trauma and dissociation, if it was possible to just randomly develop alters this would absolutely already be documented. step back from the endos and actually take a look at some published papers to get a better understanding of DID and specifically alters and why they develop. pluralwiki, tumblr, twitter, astreas web, and "the plural association", are not reputable or even remotely reliable sources. step back from wanting to have alters and understand that you're not an exception to everything learned in decades of psychology, trauma and dissociative studies.

and just in case this somehow went over your head, leave, unfollow me and don't send me anything else.

[blueberrypdf-deactivated2025090]

help a broke depressed student out <3

hii! im collecting donations again cause i’m broke af and i can’t afford to pay rent and medication for depression, which is making everything hard for me. i can barely get out to go to uni and im missing out on so much study. i also feel physical pain which is making it really hard for me to just do normal tasks.

my parents will probably have to pay for university fees because of me not completing my exams - due to depression and depressive episodes - so if u have like 2$ to spare id really appreciate !! even a tiny reblog counts.

also shoutout to all the people suffering from mental illness or any kind of physical pain and disorders. i feel you. i know what it feels like to just not have the strength anymore to do simple stuff, like getting out of bed and staying hydrated, or even eating. i know how hard it can be and it makes me sad to know that most of our sanity depends on money - money which people in some countries don’t have access to. so i feel you, and i really hope we’ll get out of this !

please stay strong and don’t forget you’re not alone !!

here’s my p^ypal <3

[passionpeachy-deactivated202312]

what is stopping hackers from displaying jeff bezo’s credit card number on times square

[louisinart-like-cuisinart]

That just isn't right. If they displayed his credit card number, the credit company would likely waive all charges made to the account and pay for it by raising fees for everyone else. If they display his DEBIT card, though, that's a direct line baby.

[sweetsweetemo]

you. i like you.

[c0rpseductor]

academic literature will be like “in polyfragmented DID there’s a high number of parts but typically only around 5 or so play an active daily role most of the time rather than all those parts being out for equal amounts of time” and people will be like [crickets] but someone on Reddit will be like “if you had 100 alters you would never be able to even think because of all of them coming out all the time. it would be total ego death and you would be catatonic. source: me.” and people are like “yeah ill incorporate that into my belief system”

[dissociative-talks-archived]

What can you do as someone without DID/OSDD when a switch occurs:

Tip: If a system memeber doesn’t talk to you/is masking around you, they’re just uncomfortable or don’t want to talk at the moment. It doesn’t necessarily mean they have anything against you.

Remember to respect any boundaries they place.

Be patient with them. Switches can be disorienting for anyone involved. It doesn’t matter the role within the system or who it is. If they need a moment, give them a moment.

Help them acclimate to their surroundings, if you can. If they need any reminders on where they are, or basic information such as when the last time they drank, eaten, or slept. Do your best to help them figure it out. If someone just pops up, they might not be able to piece information right away. If you can help, do so, but be sure to ask if they’d like the help in the first place.

Make them feel welcomed. Be sure to ask/use the correct pronouns and names once you find out who is fronted. Having them feel welcomed into the conversation could be a nice way to help any alters who fronted unexpectedly.

Set up boundaries of your own. If the system members have placed boundaries with you, then it would be a wise decision to place boundaries if you have any. This avoids conflict in the future, if you just out right communicate it to them when you meet. Communication is key.

Ask them what they are comfortable talking about. If you are to ask them questions about why they’re fronted, or anything relating to their disorder, make sure you have their permission to talk about it first. Don’t pry too much unless they’re fine with it. Even then, don’t be disrespectful in the process.

Keep in mind. System members are individuals with thoughts, emotions, and have every right to deny a conversation with you. They are in obligation to help the host with their endeavors, because they are a system together. However, they are not obligated to do anything for you. Just because you are friends with one system member does not mean you are friends with all of them.

[letitrainathousandflames]

Y'know, some people do have a strong crying response to stress, and they might cry (even against their own will) when faced with an upsetting situation and that doesnt mean they are "gaslighting" or "manipulating" you.

There are people who use crying as a manipulation tactic? Absolutely. But that doesn't mean that every person that cries during a heated argument is trying to get under your skin. They have their own emotions and issues, and frankly, not everything other people do is a personal attack on you.

[iamnotlanuk]

what really fucking bothers me in conversations about racism and saying that some work has racist elements people always counter with "I don't think the author had deliberate racist ideology in mind" cause it's like that doesn't fucking matter. it doesn't have to be deliberate to be racist. most people don't go hee hee hoo hoo I'm gonna put racist things in this. everyone was raised in a racist society and covert racism exists and yes needs to be examined in ourselves and everywhere and yes even in works you like author "deliberate" intent or no

[iamnotlanuk]

this applies to other forms of bigotry too. listen to the voices of those who have to live under systemic oppression

[lakemichiganbaby-moved-deactiva]

tbh i feel like ppl are like "shy" abt giving small amounts but most ppl will probably really appreciate even a 2 or 3 dollar donation on mutual aid posts and if more people had the mindset of oh, let me give this person like 2 bucks cos i can spare it, ppls stuff would get taken care of pretty fast if 40 ppl gave 2 bucks or whatever. esp since like lots of mutual aid is poor ppl passing money back n forth to each other. nobodys gonna judge u

[boychic-deactivated20230922]

2 bucks has gotten me out of overdraft, every penny adds up to people being able to be safe and healthy. if im ever doing well financially (rare) i do a couple 5$ donations so the comrades can eat or get their meds faster

[thesnowsystem-deactivated202204]

OSDDID Things, Part 3

Getting into a new show to escape a traumatic event and feeling yourself hyperfixating and being unable to stop it and splitting off like 5 new alters

T h e B r i t i s h O n e

“Is this a subsystem or do I just have REALLY big mood swings”

That one alter in the OSDD-1b system with high amnesia that doesn’t understand what’s happening and you panic because this hasn’t happened before and you have to explain OSDD to them and they don’t understand and you have to keep explaining and-

“Are we big enough to be polyfragmented?”

“What does polyfragmented actually mean?”

*traumatic event happens* *all the alters retreat and leave a blurry mess in the front for three weeks*

“WHAT THE FUCK ARE ROLES”

*explaining to endos & Singlets™️ that OSDDID isn’t Fun Quirky Alter Disorder for the ten millionth time and them still not getting it*

“Is this a new alter or is this just me relating really hard to this character” *two days later* “yeah nope definitely a new alter”

Masking /neg

Wanting to say fuck it and be open about being a system but also being deeply afraid of what would happen if you were

“No no no no no you cannot front at school you are a CHILD”

*Weird inner world POV thing where it’s not quite first person but not quite third person either, it’s somewhere in between*

“Is this the inner world or am I maladaptive daydreaming? Oh- wait the inner world was made BECAUSE we maladaptive daydreamed when we were younger, ok got it”

Trying to reality shift (and failing)

“Is this alter pretending to be someone else to fuck with me or do we actually have a new alter?”

Body Feels Wrong Disorder™️