[wetheurban]

May you be deeply loved, well-rested, and genuinely at peace.

[hermajestyimher]

I’m done intellectualizing my life. I’m ready to feel it. I’m done living in my head. I’m ready to simply embody and be. I’m allowed to be human. I’m allowed to be imperfect. My worth is not defined by anything external to me or the things I’ve gone through. My worth is inherent because I exist.

[goldcoasthoney]

Truth is you will never go back to your old self, life is about redefining and relearning to live with all versions of yourself

[aetas-aurea]

No luxury items is worth sacrificing your self respect.

Your body is not a bargaining chip. 

Building your own income reduces pressure to accept uncomfortable situations.

That bag will not heal emotional damage. 

Your physical health is worth protecting. 

Your mental health is worth protecting. 

Your sexual health is worth protecting. 

You can find someone you are genuinely attracted to who is also financially stable.

You deserve relationships built on mutual attraction and respect.

You are not required to stay in any situation that makes you emotionally or physically uncomfortable.

There are paths that don't require compromising your values. 

You can rebuild your life at any point.

You are capable of creating your own success. 

The more self-sufficient you become, the less you have to tolerate what doesn’t feel right.

Real security includes emotional safety.

You can pause and reassess instead of committing to something that feels wrong.

Your dignity should have no price tag. 

You are allowed to change your mind when something doesn’t feel right.

Happiness can not be wrapped in a shopping bag. 

Being admired for your possessions is not the same as being valued as a person.

Support systems can help you leave situations that feel unhealthy.

Your body and boundaries deserve full respect in every relationship.

A relationship should not require you to suppress your instincts or feelings.

Travel, hobbies and community can expand your options and perspective.

You don’t owe anyone access to you because of what they provide.

[2productive]

Finding offline hobbies you enjoy

* Revisit activities you loved as a child to uncover interests that may still bring you joy today.

* Try a variety of hobbies without pressure of committing to one, just allow yourself to explore and give things a shot. Ideally this will be done for free or with minimal financial input.

* Choose hobbies based solely on enjoyment rather than skill, productivity, or recognition. Don’t go in with the idea that you will get money or likes or followers from it. You are doing it for your own enjoyment and nothing else.

* For mind engagement, try reading, sudoku, word searches, crossword puzzles, seek and finds, cryptograms, and logic puzzles. 

* Try movement-based hobbies such as walking, running, dance classes, hiking, biking, skating, or recreational sports. You’d be surprised how many rec teams for adults may exist in your area that could become a huge part of your lifestyle if you join! It’s great to have physical opportunities that aren’t the standard “workout routine”.

* Experiment with creative outlets like writing, drawing, painting, photography, or learning an instrument. 

* Spend more time outdoors through hobbies that connect you with nature and fresh air, even by taking a hobby you’d typically do indoors and instead doing it at the park.

* Notice which activities make you lose track of time and enter a flow state, as these could be indicative of true passion and may be something you want to devote to making a bigger part of your life. 

* Look into joining local groups, clubs, or classes to make hobbies more social and motivating. This could be your new ‘3rd place’

* Consider a hobby sampler challenge by trying something new each week or month.

* Sometimes you may need to give new hobbies multiple chances before deciding whether they're a good fit for you. 

* Ask yourself how you want to feel, then choose hobbies that support that pursuit. Maybe you want to feel more artistic but feel frustrated by drawing and painting. Don’t abandon your artistic goals, instead try different styles (watercolor, colored pencils, acrylic, oil pastels, markers, pencil only etc), different starting points (rather than a blank page try coloring books or paint by number canvases), or other mediums like pottery, sewing/embroidery etc

* Remember that the best hobby is one that makes you excited to spend less time on screens and more time engaged in real life.

[2productive]

For those who self-sabotage on your health journey 🍵

* Identify your common self-sabotage patterns and notice what situations, emotions, or thoughts tend to trigger them. Prepare a battle plan ahead of time when you are in the right frame of mind.

* One off-track meal or missed workout does not erase your progress. 

* Set realistic goals that fit your current lifestyle rather than aiming for an all-or-nothing approach that requires an insane level of discipline and long-term self denial that you have literally never possessed.

* Keep healthy foods easy, quick and convenient while making less healthy choices less accessible.

* Create a backup plan for busy or stressful days, such as healthier take-out choices, pre-packaged meals kept in the freezer, and 10 minute equipment-free bedroom workout videos saved in your playlist.

* Never think that you’re above celebrating your small wins, including drinking more water, adding vegetables to meals, or completing a quick workout. Even if it's the same old same old. You should keep celebrating these new habits because a year or two ago you were striving to be this version of yourself.

* Avoid using food as a reward or punishment.

* Track habits instead of just outcomes so you can recognize progress even when results are slow.

* Remember your deeper reasons for wanting to be healthier and revisit them regularly.

* Surround yourself with supportive people who encourage your goals and healthy habits, even through the content you consume.

* Acknowledge your habits that lead to a setback and focus on your next positive choice rather than dwelling on mistakes. Get up, move forward.

[theambitiouswoman]

We resist what we subconsciously believe we don’t deserve. It doesn’t always look like resistance though. It can sound like..

“I’m just not ready yet”

“Now isn’t the right time”

“What if it doesn’t work out?”

“I don’t want to mess it up”

“I’ll start when I feel more confident”

It can feel logical. Mature. Responsible thing to do. But underneath it all, it’s fear wrapped in self protection. Because when something good, aligned, or expansive comes into your life, it will challenge the identity you’ve been operating from. And if a part of you doesn’t believe you’re worthy of it, you’ll hesitate or pull back because receiving it would require you to see yourself differently. So create reasons that sound valid enough to stay where you are. Because staying the same feels safer than stepping into something you’re not fully convinced you deserve. Until you realize that you’re not actually protecting yourself from failure but from expansion

[2productive]

Becoming the person who reaches their goals

* Focus on being the kind of person who follows through, not just someone who feels good setting goals.

* Keep promises to yourself. You set out to do them for a reason so stop delaying your own happiness and success.

* Make your goals part of your daily routine rather than relying on motivation.

* Take action even if you don’t feel ready. It’ll probably turn out better than you expected.

* Stop delaying progress by making purchases. Yes, you can work out in your comfy clothes you already own. You don’t have to wait until next week when your skims package arrives. Get a week of progress in the meantime.

* Small efforts repeated daily create big changes so start prioritizing consistency above all.

* Setbacks aren’t failure, just hiccups, so drink some water and overcome it.

* Replace "I have to" with "I choose to" to strengthen ownership of your decisions.

* Spend more time tracking your habits than obsessing over outcomes.

* Surround yourself with people, environments, and content that support your goals.

* Celebrate the progress itself, not just milestones, so you stay encouraged along the way.

* Stop waiting for the perfect time and make the most of the time you have today.

* View every choice as a vote for the person you're becoming.

* Remember that lasting success usually comes from making “hard” things into a daily habit so that it becomes a natural lifestyle, not just a 1 month phase where you locked in.

[quietlyclearwellness]

Watching Physical 100 for motivation >>> Watching my 600lb Life for motivation

[winged-thinged]

You have to let people love you. You have to let people get to know you. You have to let people help you. Being so completely selfless that you try to erase yourself off the face of the planet and never ask for anything and reject everybody's offers of support makes you very hard to love! Unfortunately. Emptying yourself out of everything that makes you, you is not actually what your loved ones want from you, generally. They want to make you happy! They will be so so sad if you don't give them the chance. It's not all selfish. I promise.

[quietlyclearwellness]

The goal isn't to "eat perfectly," it's to eat in a way that regulates inflammation, stabilizes the nervous system, protects emotional digestion, supports steady energy, avoids overstimulation, & keeps the body grounded.

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

“do i deserve this?” “am i good enough for this?” “do i want this”

[thatbitchery]

You wouldn't have to start over so much if you didn't keep giving up so much.

if you kept learning that language from Covid youd be a speaker by now. if you kept that tiktok hobby youd be monetized by now. if you kept with that calorie counting from 2023 youd be kgs down by now. if you kept-

If you started five weeks ago you'd be five weeks better by now.

literally just stop giving up thats it.

[shamebats]

[revcleo]

[eisenvulcanstein]

Please for the love of fuck eat fiber. I was diagnosed stage 4 colorectal cancer at 43. Forty fucking three! That's two years before the begrudgingly updated recommendation to get screened starting at 45.

And make sure you're getting enough vitamin D. There's recent research linking insufficient vitamin D to colorectal cancer, especially in women. (I'm not sure if they meant only cisgender women. If you are a trans woman or were AFAB please make note as well.)

And in case this turns into a conversation about how no one who eats right needs supplements,

Lab results showed my vitamin D was one third the minimum.

Taking proton pump inhibitors long term (which I was, on doctor's orders) severely curtails your body's ability to absorb nutrients. Studies show that the body only absorbs one third of the vitamin D you ingest if you're on proton pump inhibitors. Interesting, in light of #1.

Being fat, which I am, also reduces the vitamin D in your blood, because vitamin D is fat soluble, so your fat absorbs a lot of it.

So, please eat fiber. Please eat veggies. Please eat probiotic foods and yes, probiotic supplements. Please make sure you're getting enough vitamin D.

And, interesting results from cancer studies, eating watermelon and okra regularly, as in once a week, reduces colorectal cancer risk.

And mushrooms have anticancer benefits. In Japan they use a mushroom extract in conjunction with chemo and it reduces the rate of recurrence.

Oh! And exercise activates the body's repair function. They think that's why exercise is associated with decreased cancer risk. Also a recent medical finding.

Thus ends my rant.

(I recently completed my course of treatment and had my colostomy reversal. I'm still waiting on the all-clear from my doctors but I'm hopeful. It was caught very late so. I'm scared for the future. But I'm still here.)

[taylortut]

you know what’s wild is that all these crazy standards we hold ourselves to are things that we don’t even value in another person? like i’ve never been like “wow I love that this friend of mine is too proud to ask for help and never complains about their feelings” or “my favorite quality about this friend is that they get straight A’s and never get overwhelmed and has never told me about a problem” or “i love that this friend has never been wrong about anything or slipped up and said something embarrassing once in their life” and yet here we are, pushing ourselves past our limits for and beating ourselves up over slipups of things that our friends probably wouldn’t even rank in the top 50 reasons they like us

[thesweetiepienovels]

Actually, you are enough. Even if you don’t work. Or study. Or go out. Or have friends. Or have family. You’re enough because you exist and your existence is enough to be enough because you are not a product. You are not a sum of output. You are not a task to complete. But because you are something the universe wanted and put here even if you’ll never understand why. Somewhere in the cosmos your existence makes a difference, even if it’s not the way others existences do.

[thevirgodoll]

as a night owl with an aversion to made up rules and hustle culture, i truly hate to admit this but maybe the elders chewed with their daily routine. getting their day started early, drinking coffee or tea, going shopping and running errands before noon, with a little nap as a sweet treat… cause now i have time to lollygag without rushing myself and frying my nervous system. is this…slow intentional living? like, life isn’t meant to be rushed? wow