Greetings!

-Demeter/Chara -she/her -22 y/o -aromantic asexual -a menace to some, a guiding light to others, perhaps both -lazy (read; chronically exhausted) -not ready to be an adult in the slightest -SFW tk/regular blog

[aro-ace-culture-is]

Aroace culture is seeing people flirting with you as a joke at your expense, and not understanding the difference between complements and kind flirting, and playing dumb about every innuendo when you do understand them to make people uncomfortable and stop.

Just come out and tell me what you want so we can get back to chilling. If you're going to ask me out just do it and don't worry about me breaking your heart. Even if I did like anyone like that I don't like living knowing that telling people no is not taken seriously when you have boobs.

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[aro-ace-culture-is]

aroace culture is seeing a character (who is pretty much canonically aroace, like. its pretty much stated. the ace part was actually stated the arp part is soooo implied its crazy) and still seeing people go “oh but hes not aromantic-“ DUDE. THERE IS A LITERAL ARC WHERE HE IS CONFRONTED WITH AN EMBODIMENT OF HIS FEAR THAT HIS ALLO FRIENDS WILL LEAVE HIM BEHIND FOR ROMANCE. HOW MORE OBVIOUS DO YOU HAVE TO BE??? And then theyll go around and use qprs as a way to try and put him in a monogamous relationship even if a big point of his character is being able to grow old with his friends and it just be platonic. I dont have anything against qprs, but it just. Ive seen qprs used as a guise for pushing the desire for a relationship onto characters who dont evem want it way too often.

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[aceoftickles]

saying “sfw tickle bloggers actually have a kink for it and are just denying it/trying to be subtle about it” is to me like saying “you’re not asexual you just haven’t met the right person”

[lettuce-from-the-salad-bar]

My proposal for one of the reasons ralsei hates flowery

[peachducy]

[brightgoat]

BLOODBATH

Minecraft: My World AU - Nether Arc Part 17

[aro-ace-culture-is]

aroace culture is going to a party where everyone there is gay and someone said “oh everyone here is gay except for ___” and I already came out to them as aroace. Then questioning afterward if aroace was really LGBT+ or just a weird separate thing…

If they meant "gay" as in homosexual then I can kinda get them saying that, but if they meant "gay" as in queer that's just aphobic imo.

[your-favourite-red-dragon]

Farmers are always irritated when local dragons curl up in their fields and destroy valuable crops.

Thus they learned to give the dragons attractive new opportunities like a big pile of blankets or a suspiciously unguarded cow.

[bloggingboutburgers]

I feel like we need to bring back, once more, the definitions of the different bits about sex/romance for some people.

Sexual/romantic orientation: Who you are/aren't attracted to (in general, usually based on gender).

Sexual/romantic attraction: Who you are/aren't attracted to, whether you are attracted to someone or not (individually). <- Not experiencing this, or only a little, is what makes you ace/aro/aroace.

Sex drive: How much you want/need sex physically (simplified definition).

Libido: How much you want/need sex psychologically (simplified definition). <- Either of these (sex drive/libido) can be high or low, regardless of orientation or individual attraction. They're also often used interchangeably.

Sex positivity: Moral/ideological stance on sex (Sex positive: Sex is a good thing, do what you want. Sex neutral: No stance. Sex negative: Sex is a bad thing and to be avoided - closely associated with purity culture). <- Note that this has nothing to do with one's own, personal relationship to sex.

I assume romance positivity/negativity exists too, but I've never seen anyone talk about it.

Sex/romance favourability: One's own relationship to/physical stance on sex (Sex/romance favourable: Likes it, may have it. Sex/romance indifferent: Doesn't really care either way; may engage with it though, for example for partner's sake. Sex/romance averse: Does not like it, will likely not engage with it. Sex/romance repulsed: Finds it gross, will avoid it.) <- These may apply differently to any one person, depending on context (look up aegosexual/-romantic, for example).

Positivity and favourability are unrelated to and independent from orientation and attraction.

All of these are normal and healthy (with the arguable exception of sex negativity, which can cause real life harm through purity culture, and sex positivity when it goes into the extreme of making sex into a mandatory thing that everyone should want) and not to be pathologised.

In fact, I personally would argue that not being able to accept that people feel differently about it than you do is something you should talk about with a therapist, but what do I know...

Just, you know... "You're equating being aro/ace to being romance/sex repulsed. Being aro/ace is normal, being romance/sex repulsed is not. Go to therapy."

That sure is a thing you can say on the internet, huh.

Sorry you had to deal with that.

Thank you very much for this. Yep. That's pretty much it.

Heck, never considered the idea that sex positivity COULD become its own bigotry if pushed to such such an extreme before this post (and I doubt most sex-positive person WOULD turn it into that, but it's something to think about, for sure).

Thanks for the kind words as well.

[akikazeume]

[writing-prompt-s]

You served as a paladin. You saved the world, but crossed a line. You fell. You denied repentance, you didn't think you deserved it. You go home to be a farmer. 50 years later goblins attack. You pick up your sword. Again, it glows with divine might. But not the god you served before.

[bloggingboutburgers]

yo don’t follow you but i just checked that exchange that last ask was talking about, EEEYIKES!! yeah just ignore them, they clearly have some bad opinions about what aromanticism/asexuality is (they seem to think it’s a choice?? loud incorrect buzzer) and also not understand how representation and public perception makes minority groups feel (genuinely don’t understand how that could be, unless maybe they aren’t part of ANY minority group so they can’t fan them the concept?? the idea of a straight white english-only speaking guy participating in ace discourse is too funny to me, that can’t be it right?? i digress—)

anyway tldr; they’re not worth your time, honestly. if they really can be convinced of the truth through enough sources and back-and-forth someone else can do it

Yes, yes and yes, honestly. You're right. It's the kind of perception that'd probably take years to change, and multiple people, if it changes at all.

[aro-ace-culture-is]

Repulsed aroace culture is when you have other queer friends and still feel like none of them respect your identity and that your aroaceness is inferior to their queerness in some way because all they do is talk about their attractions and how they feel, but as soon as you talk about being aroace get shut down

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[bloggingboutburgers]

Hey, reading the exchange on your recent comic is breaking my brain and I wanted to say all of that was crazy to say and you aren’t alone. The way aro and ace people are treated in fandoms suck and I appreciate your comics talking about it.

Thank you for this.

It does become a lot when "let people do their own thing" and "respect queer representation and what said representation does for the people that share these queer identities" seem to be able to coexist perfectly for most queer orientations and identities, but suddenly when it's aros or aces we're "killjoys" for wanting to be acknowledged. When the lack of acknowledgement is precisely one of most prevalent issues we face.

I dunno. It's like, those things should be able to coexist, that's all I'm saying, and when we say it it automatically gets treated like we're telling allos/shippers/whatehaveyou "STOP EVERYTHING YOU'RE DOING RIGHT NOW". Like, dude, no. Making room for all queer identities isn't taking shit from anyone. The idea is to ADD to the diversity. Of course, if people aren't interested in adding to the diversity, that's their decisions, but we're not the ones taking something away in this case.

🤷 Iiiiit's a lot. Thank you for the kind words though, it's the kind of thing that reminds me that as much of a shitshow as it is, it IS somehow still better than it used to be, because at least some people are actually acknowledging it for what it is, and that gives me hope for the future.

[trina-makes-an-entrance]

I genuinely thought that after chapter 5 more people would gain some sympathy for Kris and give them some grace, since this chapter really puts into perspective just how isolated from everyone they feel, but I'm being serious when I say that nowadays I'm seeing more and more people hating on them and acting as if they were this horrible, evil person for being all secretive or opening fountains or experiencing jealousy.

Guys that's a teenager. You're putting all the blame on a depressed 16 year old who was most likely manipulated into doing the things they do. I just don't understand how one could play this chapter, listen to Ralsei when they confronted Kris about the fountains, see every small Susie - Kris scene where it's very obvious they feel like she's leaving them behind (even if it's not the case), and still think that they are a demon from hell. That's a child.

[writing-prompt-s]

“You call us livestock, but you don’t treat us like livestock. You don’t make sure each of us has been fed, you don’t protect us from predators in the night, you don’t help deliver our young or tend to our ills. You’re not a farmer, you’re a parasite, and we will deal with you accordingly.”

[manglestar]

you make me want to be selfish