Queer Confessions + Discussion

A blog dedicated to discussion within the LGBTQ community and connections over shared experiences and values. (Blog owner — Canine/K9, they/he)

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LGBTQ+ CONFESSIONS + DISC

This blog is a safe space to talk about your identity, orientation, experiences, hold discussions on topics/issues within the community, etc.

THIS IS NOT A DRAMA BLOG. Submissions with the purpose of being hateful/invalidating others' identities will be deleted. This is a place for respectful discussion, not gossip.

This blog is ran by a single person. Posts may take a bit because I have a life outside of this.

BLOG RULES

☆ No homophobia, transphobia, racism, xenophobia, sexism, etc, will be tolerated. Hateful asks, comments, etc will be deleted.

☆ Discussing labels is fine, but do NOT send in submissions that have no substance and only exist to question the validity of others.

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☆ Erasure/exclusion is not permitted anywhere on this blog

☆ Respect others' pronouns and identities. Misgendering or dead-naming is not allowed, INCLUDING towards "problematic" people.

☆ No witch-hunts. Any submissions mentioning a specific user MUST have proof of what they did, and must be reasonable. Otherwise, leave it anonymous.

☆ Absolutely NO slurs, even reclaimable ones. They could get you and my blog banned, and there's no way to prove you can reclaim them.

☆ Microlabels should be treated with the same respect as "mainstream" labels are. Someone's identity doesn't have to make sense or cater to YOU to be valid.

Overall, be respectful of others.

I DO NOT HAVE A DNI.

Everybody — whether they be gay, lesbian, bi, xenogender, use neopronouns, otherkin, lesboys, transgender, intersex, cisgender, an ally, etc — is allowed to interact.

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🔔 i'm gonna explode i dont think a guy has genuinely ever had a crush on me before what do i do i'm too much of a woman liker for this !! navigating love in life is hard what if we were just cartoon characters in a silly world where things are easier or something... what if!! sobs

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I love being transmasc, but I leaned too hard into passing and made myself miserable. I traded the prison that was imposed on me in my youth for a prison of my own creation (with the help of society making me feel less safe being visibly queer). I know I'm genderfluid or agender at my core, but I think I'll probably be trapped by the binary in my outward presentation forever.

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you're transphobic if you refuse to respect neopronouns.

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Hi so this isn't an ask sent in at all but rather just the blog owner speaking with my OWN confession! under the cut!

So I really, really, REALLY hate when people describe "nonbinary" as "genderless", because that's simply not what it means. I, and many other nonbinary people, do have gendered feelings. My gender just so happens that it doesn't fall into the typical "binary" that the wider population wants me to fall into. I use many other terms to describe my gender, especially microlabels, but nonbinary is sort of like my "catch-all" term for my gender.

Nonbinary people don't have to be completely neutral, genderless, or androgynous. We can have a gender too! The "nonbinary means genderless" is a common stereotype that cisgender people have put onto us. Now, I'm sure some nonbinary people DO feel as though they're genderless, but it's important to recognize that not all of us do.

Don't expect every nonbinary person, or any person really, to fit into this neat line of what you think their gender should look like. It feeds into transphobic rhetoric. Also on that, nonbinary people can identify as transgender as well.

THANKS FOR LISTENING TO MY RANT! <3

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i liek kissing bouys

Love this

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I feel so out of place in this community as a lesboy :(

I feel like a bunch of others are after me and I hate it so, so much. Why are people policing my identity?? I thought the point of LGBTQ activism was to push back against hetero-normative gender roles or wtv...so why are they so mean?? I just don't get it.

My gender is complex, alongside my identity. I like girls, and feel feminine, so I'm a lesbian. But I'm also not fully a girl, and usually identify as a boy!! So hence, lesboy! What's so bad about it? :(

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Fucks me up to think about how trans men’s rights to things like education, voting, employment, etc. are all dependent on cis women having the same rights but trans men’s rights to healthcare access (including gender affirming care and gynecological/reproductive care), protection from abuse (aka access to shelters for DV victims), or even basic inclusion in activism, legal protections, and even fucking language, are not even a little bit cis women’s problem despite cis women often seeing us asking for these things as somehow an attack on them.

I can vote in favor of legalizing abortion. That’s awesome. But they can easily write the law in such a way that only if you’re legally female do you get to have access to abortion. Meaning trans men who legally changed their gender marker can be denied. Or if they aren’t then insurance companies can decide not to cover it because of the aforementioned gender marker while they would have no problem providing coverage for a cis woman. And when trans men try to draw attention to this and beg to be included so that we can have the same rights as cis women, we’re making a women’s issue about men and we’re raging misogynists and gender traitors and TMRAs. Because god forbid we consider that maybe a man might need an abortion too.

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A moment of silence for the trans men who, due to their assigned gender at birth, have been legally banned from speaking in public in areas under Taliban rule.

A moment of silence for the trans men who, due to their assigned gender at birth and religious backgrounds, have been taught that they are forbidden from being anything but broodmares to a man they may or may not consent to marriage or sex with.

A moment of silence for the trans men who died in childbirth from a pregnancy they may or may not have consented to.

A moment of silence for the trans men who dropped out of high school after getting pregnant.

A moment of silence for the trans men who only knew their desire for masculinity, but were beaten to death for it and told they were going to hell.

A moment of silence for the trans men who had their clitorises mutilated by female genital mutilation.

A moment of silence for the trans men who died without ever once getting to wear pants or cut their hair the way they wanted.

A moment of silence for the trans men who committed suicide rather than be seen as a woman anymore.

A moment of silence for the trans men who never were allowed to learn how to read.

A moment of silence for the trans men with perfectly treatable conditions who were allowed to die to avoid violating "modesty" rules.

A moment of silence for the trans men subjected to honor killings.

A moment of silence for the trans men who were murdered by abusive partners.

A moment of silence for the trans men who were subject to "hymen checks."

We remember all of you, past and present.

[malwareproductions]

hey. you have to love your trans brothers of color okay. and your trans sisters of color. and your nonbinary siblings of color. you have to okay. its simply non-optional