"To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance."

Please find the Before You Ask! This blog is for advice, positivity, and moodboards for all queer, MOGII, and LGBTQ+ people.

[roxsiee]

Bullet journal set up 2021

[queer-positivity-and-advice]

Heyy! I really want to celebrate pride this year (I'm bi), but I don't want my whole school to find out that I'm queer .. do you know any subtle ways to celebrate? Thank you and have a lovely day!

Hi! Congrats on wanting to celebrate Pride! 

As far as subtle ways to celebrate, remember there’s no wrong way to have pride! (unless of course you’re being harmful, but that’s neither here nor there). 

Depending on what you enjoy, you could paint your nails the bi pride colors, wear some of the bi pride colors in an outfit if you have them, draw some pictures with the bi pride colors or flags, or if you wanted to take part in some Pride activities at the school (if there are any), you could always say you’re an ally!

If none of those things sound good to you, you can always just rock out in your room having Pride all by yourself, which is great too! 

If our followers have anything else to add, please feel free!

Happy Pride!

-Mod Ash 🐸

[girlfakes]

You should never have to examine who you’re sexually attracted to as long as you’re not attracted to someone you shouldn’t be attracted to, like a kid or an abuser.  Not being attracted to someone, or a ton of people, or everyone is literally a non-issue.  Nobody’s entitled to your attraction or an explanation.  Just be you.

[pridemoods-aesthetics]

Chemistry/Music Genderflux/Asexual Moodboard for @walking-talking-encyclopedia

[goodpositivitylgbt]

You know who’s amazing?

M-Specs whose attraction isn’t sexual or romantic!! They’re overlooked too often, but if you pause for just one second, you’ll realize that alone the thought of them will make you happy! Because they’re just so lovely💛

[goodpositivitylgbt]

shoutout to trans girls who are insecure over not being “girly” enough!! you dont need to wear dresses and skirts or have long hair to be a girl… you just have to be you, then everything else will start to fall into place!!

[goodpositivitylgbt]

Shoutout to fat LGBTQ+ people!!!

Fat nonbinary, genderqueer, genderfluid, genderflux, stellarian, lunarian, solarian, demigender, two-spirit xenogender and bigender people are gorgeous!

Fat gai enbies, bi enbies, pan enbies, ply enbies, queer enbies, polya enbies, ace enbies, aro enbies, dia enbies, nblw, nblm, nblnb, and questioning enbies are gorgeous!

Fat lesbians, bi girls, pan girls, ply girls, trans girls, queer girls, polya girls, questioning girls, ace girls and aro girls are pretty!

Fat bi women, pan women, ply women, trans women, queer women, polya women, questioning women, ace women and aro women are pretty!

Fat gay guys, bi guys, pan guys, ply guys, trans guys, queer guys, polya guys, questioning guys, ace guys and aro guys ate handsome!

Don’t let society’s beauty standarts convince you that you’re any less beautiful than you are.

[goodpositivitylgbt]

I love nblw and nblm💙

They’re so incredibly perfect and I just adore them!!!

[goodpositivitylgbt]

I’m so proud of trans kids who have to dress up in dysphoria-inducing clothes for picture day at school!

You’re strong and terrific for being able to go through this! And I hope you know that regardless of what you have to wear, you’re still the gender you identify as, nothing will change that! You’re valid and you’re spectacular!

[goodpositivitylgbt]

Bi guys who are only into other guys and masc-aligned NBs are valid and a precious part of the bi community and I adore them. You’re pure perfection

[goodpositivitylgbt]

If you used to be atrracted to multiple genders but now you’re het due to trauma, you’re lovely and marvelous!!

You’ve gone through so much and you deserve to be happy!! I hope your biggest wish comes true💙

[lgbtqi-support-equality]

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[goodpositivitylgbt]

Pan aroaces rock!! You’re precious, amazing and adorable and I love you with all my heart💙

If you’re a pan aroace I hope your biggest wish becomes reality. You deserve it.

[just-graysexual]

Shout Out to All Graysexuals!

To Homo-Graysexuals!

To Hetero-Graysexuals!

To Bi-Graysexuals!

To Pan-Graysexuals!

To Poly-Graysexuals!

To Demi-Graysexuals!

To Akoi-Graysexuals!

To Cupio-Graysexuals!

To Placio-Graysexuals!

To Fray-Graysexuals!

To Aego-Graysexuals!

To AceSpec Graysexuals!

To Aromantic Graysexuals!

To AroSpec Graysexuals!

To Romantic Graysexuals!

You are all wonderful! You are all Graysexual! I hope all of you have a fabulous day!

Stay Graceful, my Graces.

[girlfakes]

Trans women who post selfies online despite being dysphoric/uncomfortable with their appearance are braver than any US marine

[aspec-shoutouts]

✨ shout out to arovague and acevague a-specs ✨

[she-keeps-me-sapphic]

things people don’t say enough:

- it’s okay to be confused about your identity

- if you change your label from bi to lesbian, you’re NOT contributing to the argument that bisexuality is just a phase. it’s totally okay to do that.

- pansexuality is real and valid and great

- if you’re a trans women you sure as hell can identify as sapphic. if someone says you can’t, ignore them.

- if you’re ace/aro (or in the spectrums) you can still identify as sapphic too

- there’s nothing wrong with being also attracted to men, it doesnt make you any “less” sapphic

- wlwoc exist and are SO beautiful

- you can find out you’re sapphic with 5 or with 50 years, it’s all fine

- you can have a fluid sexuality and still identify as sapphic (at least as long as you’re attracted to women)

- you can be non-binary and still be sapphic