it is a mystery

mostly this is just a identity help blog for folk who don't feel comfortable identifying with the more popular orientations. (also has gender-help stuff too!)

[queercodedkid]

sorry we haven't been posting much! running two blogs gets tiring aha

[genderoftheday]

Today’s Gender of the Day is: Literally every single bird

[gungan-gundam]

Just took my sexuality test, you could say I aced it. 

[klingonsarecute-deactivated2015]

I can't believe it's not gender!

Gender substitute available at a store near you

[runagays-blog]

thinking abt gender and i realized that if youre a 1/4 genderpunk and 3/4 agender, you could literally call yourself a subpunk

that sounds like some cool new music genre

[queercodedkid]

hey please tell us if your identify as ghostromantic/sexual/ect. or genderglitched! cus thatd b super neato

[queercodedkid]

plvntgender yep! that would be ghostsexual !

[queercodedkid]

genderglitch

created mostly due to the fact that i'm techk!n, but can be used nonk!n folk

genderglitch is similar to genderfluidity

however while genderfluidity is normally described as your genders changing smoothly, genderglitch ismore sudden and confusing

feel free to ask any questions ! we're sorry that the description is so short

[scruffyqueer]

of course im pro-gay, i didnt practise this much to stay an amateur gay

[peloriq]

I just discovered the term “spectrumslide” as an alternative to the term “genderbend” and I REALLY think people should start using it and loving it as much as I do. It takes into account both the gender and sex spectrums, so not only is it not transphobic, it also is a lot more interesting and fun to experiment with.

[queercodedkid]

so we've thought of a new term? not sure if it'll make sense but here we go!

ghostromantic/sexual/ect.

so basically, i used to be panromantic. i now identify as pretty much non-allo. but aromantic doesnt fit me and greyromantic is too allo for me, so i thought ghostromantic would be a neat term.

as im sure a lot of you know, ghosts were once alive but now they're dead(sorry for being obvious). however, just because they're dead doesnt mean them existing is over!

thats just how ghostromantic works! you once identifying with something allo but now you identify more on the grey-spectrum, but you're still not %100 aro.

idk feel free to use it, this work for sexuality or whatever too!

if you have any questions we'll try to answer them as best we can

[thestolencaryatid-deactivated20]

passive aggressive family members

"guess i’ll never be a grandma"

"guess i’ll never be an aunt"

"guess i’ll never be able to dress a niece/nephew"

stop feeling so entitled to my hypothetical offspring. it is not yours. it is mine. i will grow it if i grow it. and it will be mine. not yours. i am not an incubator which grants you familial titles. jesus. go away. this “have a baby i can play with” thing is so impersonal and insensitive and annoying.

[aromanticaardvark]

Not aro-specific, since obviously there are some aromantic people who want children and some alloromantic people who don’t, but I thought it’d resonate with quite a few people here.

[queercodedkid]

there are also a few asexuals who do want children!

[neoliberalismkills]

contrary to popular (read: straight) belief, choosing your gender or sexuality instead of being “born that way” is both possible and valid

[genderoftheday]

My birth assignment? That’s easy, I’m DTRTPAB, designated Toad ready to party at birth

[arodorable]

Saying ace and aro are the same thing is like saying brown hair and brown eyes are the same thing.

Yes, they have some similarities.

Yes, some people have both.

But they’re very, very different. Neither is a prerequisite to the other. Neither is an umbrella term for the other. People can have one without the other.

They are different things.

[robotytalk-deactivated20200321]

Maybe we just make fun of things we don’t understand

[queercodedkid]

reminder that asexuals/folk on the grey-spec sexually can call others sexy without wanting to have sex with them

reminder that aromantics/folk on the grey-spec romantically can call others attractive without actually being attracted to them

reminder that anyone on any spectrum can call anyone pretty or cute or whatever without actually wanting to do something with them