Where is the quiet piece of home where I could breathe?

[they/them] I love donuts. I hurt 24/7. if you need something tagged, tell me.

[merfemmedistro]

Merfemme Distro

hey everyone,

im very excited to open my Distro <3

This distro features zines by queers, dealing with different topics, like being crazy, disabled, trying to live radical vulnerability and radical softness, practicing self care and self love.

It is about struggling, coping, failing and succeeding. About trauma, processing and trying to survive this world.

It is run by a white non binary femme. Struggling with cptsd, bpd and depression on top of other annoying stuff. Their plants, two pugs and fairylights keep them alive. Oh, and making zines ofc! If you have any questions, please dont hesitate <3

[queerestmarshmallow]

I opened my own distro <3

please share and take a look,

thanks <3

[queerestmarshmallow]

I opened my own distro, please have a look if you like

[queertrashdistro]

Thoughts of a Queer Marshmallow #4

Queer Marshmallows fourth perzine!

by a white queer disabled non binary femme

Again many thoughts about relationships, self love, self care.

Radical softness and radical vulnerability.

About femmeness, boundaries, consent connected to care work and emotional labor and many other things.

A6, 64 pages, full color

available at our shop!

[queerestmarshmallow]

my 4th perzine is out <3

[queertrashdistro]

Queer Zinefest Berlin!

Now you can register for tables here!

we are so excited to join!!

[queerestmarshmallow]

Yayay

[bpdpoc]

I’m a social vampire u gotta invite me into ur conversation or I cannot enter

[queerestmarshmallow]

This is so annoying. I'm like this with so many things. If I'm not asked, I think I'm not welcome. I'm always so scared of being a burden.

[1aju-archive-deactivated2017121]

me: haha im so mad that this person hurt me

me inside: reevaluating every single action that happened from the exact beginning of us interacting so that i can in some way blame it on myself because clearly, if someone hurt me, i did something wrong to deserve it 

[queerestmarshmallow]

I would never do that.

[danger]

[queerestmarshmallow]

I need more of this in my life.

[abuelitalesbiana]

a reminder

that theres nothing “neurotypical” about saying that “your mental illnesses are no excuse to be toxic and to abuse/manipulate your friends/partners”

and yes, this applies no matter your circumstances lmao you dont get a free out of jail card because your unhealthy behavior is caused by symptoms - if someone tells you that your behavior is hurting them or you YOURSELF realize that your relationships arent healthy on your part, its on YOU to

1) communicate with the other person to try to work around it, so that you can see whether your needs are compatible with what theyre capable of giving you in terms of friendship/partnership. sometimes needs are incompatible, and sometimes relationships dont work out despite mutual (platonic or romantic) affection because there are too many factors that make the relationship more harmful than beneficial - even if its harmful only to one party.

in a relationship, it’s the responsibility of both people to make sure that there is enough communication and safety for people to establish boundaries and voice their needs so that theyre heard. voicing needs doesnt mean that they HAVE to fulfill them even at the cost of their own wellbeing; it means compromising and discussing what can be done so that the relationship isnt draining for either party.

2) apologize for hurting them, take accountability and look into resources to change your behavioral patterns (if it’s a persisting thing). google is your friend. talk with a school counselor/therapist/etc if you have one available for you. go to a library, see if theres any books on mental health and relationships that might help you out. there ARE resources for mentally ill people and for people who need help at unlearning toxic behaviors caused by trauma or other similar factors. Use them.

trying to opt out of responsibility because your shitty behavioral patterns are caused by trauma/mental illness is you excusing your toxic and/or abusive behavior and at the least makes you an abuse apologist. it should be obvious why that’s not something the ND tumblr should encourage.

we need to be better and STOP protecting abusers and excusing abusive/toxic behavior under the guise of “mental health positivity/acceptance”

[queerestmarshmallow]

This.

[amargedom]

Daily reminder!

[jafastnej-deactivated20201029]

@queerestmarshmallow

[queerestmarshmallow]

Gosh, I'm crying, I love you so much and I miss u so so so much. <3

[runcibility]

[shanology]

Mansplaining: The tweet.

[andallthatmishigas]

This is performance art.

[motiya]

[jafastnej-deactivated20201029]

@queerestmarshmallow ☺️

[queerestmarshmallow]

I love you!!!!

[queertrashdistro]

Kreuzberg Soli Radical DIY Fair @ Erreichbar

Hei alle Zine-Freund_innen,

diesen kommenden Samstag (11.3.) tablen wir endlich wieder! Und zwar in der Erreichbar beim Kreuzberg Soli Radical DIY Fair von 11-19 Uhr. 

Wir bringen alle unsere Zines und noch ein paar neue Überraschungen! Unsere Freund_innen  SchwarzRund und  fokzaret sind auch dabei!

Wir freuen uns drauf euch am Samstag da zu sehen <3 

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Hey all zine-lovers!

This coming saturday (March 11th) we’ll be finally tabling again! This time at the Kreuzberg Radical DIY Fair at Erreichbar from 11-7 pm.

We’re bringin all of our zines and some new surprises! Our dear friends SchwarzRund and fokzaret are also tabling.

We’re looking forward to seeing you all there on saturday <3

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[queerestmarshmallow]

YAY, cant wait, come and visit uuuus!

[neoromans-archive]

people who can be femmes definitely - lesbians people who should research the history of femme and decide for themselves how they feel - bpq women people who can’t be femmes - non women - men - non sapphic women

[agendertrashcan]

wow no. non binary femmes are femmes

bi/pan/queer femmes are femmes

gay male femmes are femmes

femme can be a gender identity

femme is so much more than just a lesbian category

[queerestmarshmallow]

This.

[fuckthisbloganditscurses]

Happiness Will Come To You.

[12goblins]

when tho

[fuckthisbloganditscurses]

When You Least Expect It. Probably Late March

[wizardshark]

reblog for happiness to come for you in late march!

[queerestmarshmallow]

I’m taking it in my own hands and will be visiting happiness ( @jafastnej ) myself

[queertrashdistro]

2017 - Growing To Become Myself

A mini zine about being kind to yourself, loving yourself more and caring for yourself as well as you care for others.

Cute reminders that your needs and boundaries matter and you deserve support as well.

Mini Zine (A7, 8 pages)

Now available in our shop

[queerestmarshmallow]

My new years solutions.

I needed to remind myself that I am worthy. Inherently and unconditionally.

[queerestmarshmallow]

Finally new tattoos!

Radical vulnerability and radical softness are two concepts that are extremely important to me.

Struggling with a lot, I still want to remain soft for myself. I will and want to be hard when necessary, but I want to be soft to myself.

I want to be vulnerable and step away from hiding my emotions and my struggle.

[queerestmarshmallow]

And a small tattoo for my petty bitch persona <3