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Honestly avoiding smut involving virgins isn’t even a guarantee you’ll avoid the misleading myths, because I remember reading one where the main character was chastising herself for being nervous about consummating her marriage because she was “no longer a maiden” so it’s not as if it were going to hurt.
Which was so unnecessary because like I get it, this is her second marriage and both were unwanted, we really didn’t need to rehash the hymen myth to make this point. Sex is painful when you’re anxious and unprepared/unaroused or you have a dysfunctional condition like vaginismus (involuntary muscle spasms) or vaginal atrophy (dryness). That’s it, it has nothing to do with virginity in a physical sense.
Fanfiction is cool because you get to learn what other people's parents taught them the hymen is like
I know that I had somewhat unusually comprehensive sex ed but it still surprises me every time I'm reminded that some people genuinely think that losing your virginity is a capri sun kind of situation.
If fiction is only a commodity, then a writer is a mere content producer, or as McGurl puts it, a "servant" and a "service provider" while the reader is a "consumer." If a writer is a service working - a corporate employee/contractor - it naturally follows that a work of fiction is a service and is judged on whether it fulfills that service accordingly. [...] There's a subtle but key difference between being socially permitted to have your own opinion about whether something was good - whether it met your version of the implicit contract - and the decision that you are "owed" customer satisfaction in a literal, actionable sense. If you read a book or saw a movie and you didn't like it, you're allowed to say so: but it's not a mattress, and you don't get your money back. But on the other hand, if a novel or film or TV show isn't art, only more stuff you bought, then the writer does owe you, as does the corporation who sold you that product, from whom you can demand everything you want.
from Dangerous Fictions: The Fear of Fantasy and the Invention of Reality by Lyta Gold
finally some relatable content on ig
have you ever suddenly + involuntarily lost consciousness
yes (fainted)
yes (head trauma)
yes (substance-induced)
yes (lack of oxygen)
yes (blood loss)
yes (multiple)
no
How did a radical leftist and unapologetic fascist get over their differences and become friends? The story of their shared antisemitism will warm your heart…
when the treat you treated yourself to is mid
Once you start noticing how the incapacity to handle discomfort affects how people live their lives it's actually pretty shocking how it ruins pretty much every conceivable aspect of existence. Interpersonal relationships, romantic and platonic. Career and education opportunities. Your politics Your willingness to go anywhere. The kind of food you eat. The kind of art you expose yourself to and your ability to read it. It's never just one thing, it touches everything, and once you notice it it's like suddenly being able to see germs or something. Just this horrific catastrophe people look at you askance for screaming about. As I grow older and see what became of my friends and peers who could not learn to handle discomfort, the more I'm like. This is a genuine societal issue
Increasing my discomfort tolerance has also been one of the greatest assets to improving my mental health.
1st base: raw ethically dubious fucking
2nd base: exist in a public space together
3rd base: you witness me have a real, candid emotion
4th base: I reveal an aspect of my tragic backstory to you
This will probably be my most controversial post by far, but it needs to be said.
Gendered socialization is unequivocally real. Boys and girls are treated and socialized differently before they're even born.
Female babies are disappearing en masse, because male babies are more valued.
From an extremely early age, parents respond to their childrens' emotions differently based on gender. Mothers over-estimate the crawling abilities of their infant sons compared to infant daughters.
Mothers speak to their infant daughters more and talk them more about emotions than they do their sons.
By the age of 2, boys already show an avoidance to the color pink and other items traditionally seen as feminine, laying the ground work for early demonstrations of misogyny in childhood.
When children enter pre-school, there is no difference in math abilities between boys and girls. But such gaps begin to appear as children grow older.
The vast majority of girls report feeling unsafe going outside, and at least 2/3 of girls have reported experiencing sexual harassment at school by the time they 16.
Further on in education, women will understimate their scores, while men will overestimate their scores. Women will perform worse on tests when first told that women, on average, perform worse.
Researchers argue that the prevalence of sexual assault against women is so high specifically because of early gendered socialization. The men who commit sexual violence consistently demonstrate specific ideals about gender and perform hostile masculinity.
The patterns reach well into adulthood, influencing occupational choices.
I could literally go on and on and on. There are countless studies and entire fields of academia dedicated to researching this. The fact that children are socialized differently paced on assigned or percieved gender is really not debatable.
I am sympathetic to the fact that transphobes have warped the concept of socialization to insinuate that trans women are destined to be violent or predatory, or that trans men are destined to be submissive and helpless. However, people weaponizing these frameworks does not mean that the phenomenon does not exist.
Furthermore, individual people's nuanced experiences with gendered socialization does not mean that these patterns don't exist on a large scale. Any interaction with society will confer the influence of gender biases, especially upon children to are extremely vulnerable to both subtle and overt social cues.
Again - gendered socialization is real. This is a core aspect of feminist analysis. I am not going to pretend otherwise.
i get why people don't believe in marriage as a social construct but legally it is the best and easiest way to say "this is who i trust to take care of me when i can't take care of myself" and i'm so glad gay people fought for that right bc when shit gets scary at least i know im in good hands
This is how I convinced my conservative grandma that the gays do also need marriage, actually. My grandad died when I was 4 and I asked her to imagine not being allowed to see him or make decisions for him or be entitled to an inheritance and she got very quiet and conceded the point. Marriage doesn't intrinsically mean anything but as a legal framework it is really, really important
"trans men have male privilege" is just "bisexuals have straight privilege" all over again. it was a gross oversimplification then and it still is now.
“Do trans men belong in women’s spaces?” I hate the phrasing of that question entirely. It’s secretly multiple questions disguised as one while using a vague term that serves no purpose other than to lead someone to a specific conclusion.
So let’s rephrase it.
“Do trans men belong in women’s spaces clinics that offer services meant for those with vaginas, uteruses, etc?” If they have the relevant anatomy that needs care, then obviously yes. I’m sorry, do you want trans men to get cancer and die because it went undetected too long? Because that’s how you get trans men to get cancer and die because it went undetected too long. Also, why is that space considered a women’s space to begin with and why should we let it stay that way?
“Do trans men belong in women’s spaces feminist advocacy groups fighting for abortion rights?” Yes because leaving trans men out means the people writing the law can simply forget trans men exist and write it in such a way where some asshole familiar with the law can use the exact wording to justify denying necessary care to a trans man because he is a trans man. If the law says “no woman should be denied access to abortion care…” and the trans man is legally a man, he will find himself in the same situation as the trans man who gets that phone call from his insurance saying “hey, sorry, but since you’re a man, we’re not covering that pap smear and you will be charged the full amount.” Not just in terms of paying either. “If you were a real man, you wouldn’t need an abortion. Come back after you fix your documents so they indicate you’re a female, but like, maybe motherhood would fix you so. Idk not my problem anymore. Goodbye!”
“Do trans men belong in women’s spaces lesbian book clubs or whatever?” They’re probably already there anyway and they’re not causing any problems just by being men in what is traditionally a women’s only thing. Plus, chances are they’ve been there since before coming out as trans so you’d just be kicking him out for coming out. I don’t have to explain to anyone why that’s kind of messed up, right?
“Do trans men belong in women’s spaces Should we kick people out of our arbitrarily female-only group if they come out as trans?” I guess I have to explain after all. It’s not gender validating for us to be suddenly ejected from every space we’ve found friends in before. You’re punishing someone for being trans. That’s all they did, was be trans.
there is no intersection of oppression that trans men face but also they face an intersection of transphobia and misogyny 👍