auDHD ftm ship-wreck

💛🤍💜🖤⛈ 👾 joy gremlin 👾🙃🙃 spreading weirdness since aug 1995

[quietly-optimistic]

if y’all don’t read the tags on my posts, you’re missing out

[infectiouspiss]

kids deserve so much more respect and it turns out that saying that is a great way to locate the horrible people in any community <3

[infectiouspiss]

you'll say something as simple as "no child deserves to be hit" and people will crawl out of the woodwork to explain why they should be allowed to beat a 6 year old for spilling some water

[infectiouspiss]

you'll say "i think it's weird that adults literally have control over when children are allowed to use the bathroom" and up pops a teacher to say that when they're not shouting at the kids they teach, they're trying to stop them from hiding in the bathrooms

you'll say "i think children shouldn't be forced to eat food they hate" and here comes someone who feeds their kids plain rice and boiled chicken (while eating a nicely seasoned stirfry) claiming that it's okay actually and kids shouldn't be allowed to taste things

you'll say "i think kids should have bodily autonomy" and in comes someone who pierced their babies ears before it was even 24 hours old, frothing at the mouth because their kid wanted a haircut and thats somehow an insult

[infectiouspiss]

children are an oppressed class and everyone should be looking back at their own childhoods and making sure they don't ever make a child feel the same way they felt.

[wizardsexmachine]

POPEYE?!?!??

[wizardsexmachine]

[memecucker]

[oops-all-birbs]

Let's not forget this gem

[lady-only-in-black]

[gaynfl-moved]

being so staunchly anti generative ai while everyone around you is "i used chatgpt" and "i asked grok" and google search is useless and every company is implementing ai and every single celeb is taking ai money and partnering with ai is like... it's so jarring. why can't you see the harm like i can? why are you so lazy? why are we making society this stupid? can we please stop? it's killing people does that not matter to you?

[redstonedust]

may be a hot take but i think the fact minors can access 18+ content by just clicking a button that says 'yes im totally over 18 trust me' is like. totally fine tbh. its a non-issue. i dont care if curious teenagers are looking at porn. they've been doing that for as long as porn has existed. id rather teens explore their sexuality through images on the internet than rush into real life experiences when they're not ready for it yknow. the UK is trying to put stricter age verification in place (which in turn is becoming an online privacy nightmare) and like. for what. who is it helping. why is this a problem.

[indigosfindings]

i really like this thing where websites will have separate "log in" & "sign up" buttons and if you click "log in" it takes you to a sign-up screen anyway so you have to click "i already have an account" and then it will ask if you want to sign in with your facebook account or with instagram or linkedin or deviantart or whatever, and if you choose "username & password" it asks if you want to put in your username or use your thumbprint, and once you put your username & password it emails you a confirmation code, and once you put in the code it says "do you want to give us your phone number for future sign-ins? do you want to sign up for facial recognition? do you want to give us your bones? give us your fucking bones?

[woobifiedvillain]

Maybe it's just my former neglected child swag but I really hate it when people act like iPads or some technology or whatever is an independent entity which can in and of itself cause what are literally just symptoms of child neglect. Like. Come on. Put on your thinking cap. If a child literally cannot hold a pencil by the time they enter school, if they have absolutely no emotional regulation skills or situational awareness, if they don't know how to entertain themselves to an extent that it's interfering with basic developmental milestones. And the parent either doesn't understand or doesn't care or simply hasn't noticed that this is maybe not fine. Do we think the sole and primary issue going on here is rooted in. The evil technology that melts your brain or whatever. Like sorry does the iPad have legs. Is it gonna sit up and run and start eating people too

[palimpsest00]

I do aggree, it is child abuse at that point. And I've always thought it had more to do with the parents.

But the thing is, the tech is so easy. The seeming solution to all the parents frustrations is right there. It definitely makes it more accessible. People are a lot like cannons, we often take the path of least resistance. And not that the tech is bad either, it's how it's used that's a problem. And people dont think of it as abuse becuase distracting your kids with something is an age old tradition. It just used to be on fewer occasions and in a better way (but otherwise the kid figures out their own thing to go do).

[fishingisuniversal]

Honestly the "but Peeta wanted kids so bad" line from the Mockingjay epilogue is really funny to me because for three books Katniss has been projecting her desire for children onto a guy who hasn't really ever verbally expressed any interest in having kids, so I do genuinely think the whole "kids vs. no kids" debate happened entirely internally for Katniss and one day she just went "ok, you win, let's have kids" and Peeta's at the kitchen table like"?????? Ok??????"

[goldensunset]

advice i think we should tell children is that when adults say stuff like ‘now that i’m an adult i get really excited about stuff like coffee tables and bathrooms and rugs etc’ they don’t mean ‘and now i don’t care about blorbo and squimbus from my childhood tv shows anymore’ bc your average adult still loves all the same pop culture stuff they always did; they just have a greater appreciation for the mundane as well. growing up just means you can enjoy life twice as much now. you can get really excited about a new stuffed animal AND about a new kitchen sponge. peace and love

[byjove]

cis people will say “I found out I’m having a baby girl at my anatomy scan and I’m experiencing gender disappointment” but be mad when you say “who knows? maybe you’ll end up with a son anyway”

[maaikeatthefullmoon]

I found out the gender of both my children at the 20 week scan. One boy, one girl. I didn't have a preference and didn't have any disappointment. This was before I really thought much about gender, to be fair, was still very much in my conditioned cisgendered, heteronormative mindset.

We found out because neither of us like surprises. Although, thinking back, why gender should be a surprise, I don't really know. We mostly got secondhand clothing for both kids. The baby's room did have a decor theme (it's my job, after all), but it was pretty neutral. The clothing was pretty gender neutral as well.

I've never liked gender stereotyped clothing, toys, interests, etc, even before I became more passionate & aware of gender issues. If it were up to me, I would've had bright, rainbow coloured clothes for both babies - but those were, at the time, only made by the really expensive brands. And even secondhand, those were too expensive for us. So I just tried to get as much neutral stuff as I could. Tried to push the very gendered stuff to the back, to be used only when the nicer stuff had all been puked & shat on.

Yes, both of them ended up in gendered stuff regularly, they both had (different) digestive issues which frequently exhausted my abilities to clean clothes fast enough. I'll never forget my daughter in a pink onesie that had an actual tutu sewn onto it. I apologised while I put her in it.

Anyway, I'm rambling.

I'm 40. I've recently started using she/her pronouns. My son asked me about it yesterday, he was completely cool about it. Both kids are extremely aware of gender issues, ask about pronouns, and are just so...cool about everything. They know about pansexuality (me) and understand it. They know about same sex relationships & marriages and it's exactly the same to them as hetero relationships & marriages. And best of all, they talk to their friends about it.

I couldn't care less what their gender or sexual preference is now, or in the future. It's up to them. I will only encourage them to be themselves and to be true to themselves ALWAYS. And not to have to wait until they're 40 to do that.

[hinamie]

newest issue of first years fashion just dropped

[abyssaldyke]

It seems like the older I get, the more irrationally angry casual censorship makes me. And it isn't just the "unalive" "grape" alleged filter-dodging vernacular, but the way normal words will be peppered with asterisks, or screenshots will have words like "gay" "hell" "fuck" etc either partially or entirely blurred. Who is this helping? What is the purpose of it, except to reinforce shame and elevate a flimsy perception of purity and safety, however those things manifest. It's so tiresome and I'm sick of it.

[butchfagminotaur]

saying “i wouldn’t be a good parent” is a morally neutral statement and i’m sick of whenever i say it people replying “noo no you’d be a GREAT mother i know you would!!!” like… no! being a good parent requires a certain set of skills and traits and i know that i don’t have them and that’s a good thing!!! i think people should figure out if they would be good parents BEFORE having kids and maybe we’d have less shitty parents in the world! fuck!

[olderandweirder]

We need to stop encouraging people to dive into parenting before they’re ready. Raising children is an enormous, endless, high-stakes task that requires an incredible amount of time and resources, especially in the United States where we have literally zero parental support from anybody ever. It’s okay not to want to have kids, it’s okay to wait to have kids, it’s okay to listen to yourself and honestly analyze whether or not you feel up to the insane task of parenting.

[minicy]

I love talking to kids about disability bc

1. they often just Get It, and

2. they have 0 concept of disability as a tragedy or something pitiable.

I've watched kids get into an argument with a teacher bc they thought wheelchairs were cool. I told a kid that I can't stand for too long sometimes and they replied, "That's okay, I can't do cartwheels sometimes, but I just do other stuff then. You can sit down with me if you want". Today a girl asked me what the headphones on a classmate's desk were for and I told her that headphones are important for some kids because noises bother them, and she said she wished she had headphones at home, because her baby brothers make a lot of noise and it makes it hard to think. The idea that different people could use tools at different times is intuitive and simple and when accessibility aids are explained neutrally, kids don't see them as bad or unfortunate, they're just things that are useful.

Even mental disability!! In Kindergarten the other day one of the kids asked me why his table partner got stickers when nobody else did. I started off by saying, "Well, when you do your work well, it feels good, right? That's your brain giving you a reward," and the kid just right away went, "Oh, and the stickers are like his reward?" YES! You are 5 and have a better grasp on ADHD than most adults! Kids blow me away every day.

[mortalityplays]

hi, a lot of you need a perspective reset

the average human lifespan globally is 70+ years

taking the threshold of adulthood as 18, you are likely to spend at least 52 years as a fully grown adult

at the age of 30 you have lived less than one quarter of your adult life (12/52 years)

'middle age' is typically considered to be between 45-65

it is extremely common to switch careers, start new relationships, emigrate, go to college for the first or second time, or make other life-changing decisions in middle age

it's wild that I even have to spell it out, but older adults (60+) still have social lives and hobbies and interests.

you can still date when you get old. you can still fuck. you can still learn new skills, be fashionable, be competitive. you can still gossip, you can still travel, you can still read. you can still transition. you can still come out.

young doesn't mean peaked. you're inexperienced in your 20s! you're still learning and practicing! you're developing social skills and muscle memory that will last decades!

there are a million things to do in the world, and they don't vanish overnight because an imaginary number gets too big

[homunculus-argument]

The people who go "well who's going to look after you when you're old?" when you say you're not having kids are breathtakingly naive. Our next-door neighbour, somewhere in her mid-80s, has a son, grandkids, and a grear-granddaughter, and who's the one she calls when she needs help, and checks that she's not spending christmas alone? Me and my boyfriend.

Having kids is irrelevant if the answer to that question is still going to be "the mentally ill faggots next door."

[onepiecebouquet22]

too many people treat having kids like an investment, it's ridiculous.