Quiet 'n' Queer

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Socially Distant

Exploring those of us who don't need other people (that much)

For writing on solitude, schizoid personality and (extreme) introversion, visit: www.sociallydistant.xyz

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The socially distant brain

Science suggests certain neurochemicals & genes influence how social we are.

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Working at home should be ideal for an introvert like me…

Working at home should be ideal for an introvert like me. So why am I not entirely comfortable with it?

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Broken - when it comes to being social, I don’t work properly.

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The schizoid dilemma

What is ‘the schizoid dilemma’?

The schizoid experiences some degree of pain whether they are alone or attached.

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‘Tis the season to be… alone?

Why some choose solitude over spending time with others on Christmas Day.

There are people for whom the social pressures and expectations of the festive season can prove just as difficult, and be dreaded just as much, as the loneliness experienced by those who don’t want to be alone. 

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Why I hate talking at the hairdressers

Why I hate talking at the hairdressers.

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Humans are social – but they can be solitary too

It’s not ‘unnatural’ to be a loner.

Loners are not ‘sick’ or ‘strange’ - they are just another way humans can be.

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Quiet at school

Quiet kids face prejudice in an education system that favours extroversion.

It’s time to end ‘Quiet Prejudice’ in our schools.

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(A)Sexual / (A)Social

The asexual ‘awkward nerd’ stereotype reflects a broader prejudice that exists against people who are socially atypical.

Sexuality and sociability are inextricably linked in our society - hence why asexuality is often associated with social awkwardness.

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Schizoid or Avoidant?

Some thoughts on the schizoid/avoidant distinction.

“When I look at the criteria for SzPD versus the criteria for AvPD the biggest question that comes up for me though is this: can’t you be schizoid AND avoidant?” 

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Introspecting (2): On love

On love.

“I’ve never been in love, in the romantic sense; but even when it comes to platonic love, familial love, I question the depth – existence – of any real-love-emotion. I think to myself, I ‘love’ my family, for example. But what does that actually feel like?”

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Schizoid resonances: Jude in ‘A Little Life’

The character of Jude in the novel ‘A Little Life’ has strong schizoid tendencies.