Spilled Tea

💛🤍💜🖤They/Them ♾️ Neurodivergent & Queer 🏳️‍🌈, Sad, 20-something, Libra ♎

[tintheelvenking]

Here's to the people who weren't abused by their parents, but whose parents sucked anyways. Here's to people whose parents fucked up raising you out of ignorance and not malice. Here's to the kids whose parents didn't know what to do with you so they did nothing at all. Here's to people whose parents are getting better and growing as people but still hurt you. Here's to every mean comment that wouldn't have been so bad if it hadn't come from your mom; here's to awkward family dinners because you're all trying to forget;

here's to you, survivor of a thousand 'not as bad as it could have been' hurts. I see you. You aren't alone.

[kaedegitsune]

Hey you. Yeah, I mean you, alterhuman. You nonhuman. You creature hiding in a human skin. You being, you entity, under that human guise. You critter wearing that human outfit, you there with many true forms. You, the human, but just a little to the left. I'm talking to you.

I love you. You're super cool and I love you.

[quirkylittletea]

I need to learn more .....

[wingzandtailz]

i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail i want a tail

[life-ennder]

⚠️❗️VERY IMPORTANT POST, PLEASE READ!❗️⚠️

everyone. on christmas day, december 25th, we all search up “halloween” to make it a trending search. it would be the FUNNIEST thing ever to see halloween be a trending search on christmas day. tell all your friends, repost this, do everything you can to make sure we can do this. REBLOG AS MUCH AS YOU CAN.

[careroots]

Halloween sweep

LETS FUCKING GOOO

[nixcraft]

A boy can dream, can't he?

[artsekey]

Hey, so if you have Windows 11 installed and have been losing your mind over the fact that you can't find your own files because Windows is now prioritizing internet search results first, you can fix it by following this guide:

How to Disable Windows Web Search and Speed Up Your PC

Stop the OS from pulling up web results when you just want files and apps.

As someone with over 900 GB of intentionally and properly named files on her computer (I do a lot of digital art and digital media work that requires high-volume files that function off of dependencies), this feature was making me furious. I followed the above instructions and can confirm that the method outlined solves the problem.

[prehistoric-faggot-deactivated2]

when it comes to problematic media such as harry potter or like. the twilight saga or something, we are not really saying “ur not allowed to interact with this media ever again or ur an asshole”.

u can however interact with it without promoting it or giving money to their creators. there’s this thing u might’ve heard of: do that shit in private.

i like twilight not because it’s particularly good, but for nostalgia reasons, it was one of my first full blown special interests. but i don’t post about it, i don’t buy merch or shit that gives stephanie meyer money (or anyone at all, i don’t buy merch). i do have all cds that i’ve had since forever, i watch them every now and then.

and also like. please just admit that those creators are problematic as fuck, stop defending them bc u like their shit for nostalgia. one big thing about stephanie meyer is the fact that she used the quileute tribe in her story, completely lied and made shit up about them, AND DIDNT COMPENSATE THEM AT ALL. they are a struggling community and some twilight fans seem to refuse to even believe it.

and i don’t even know where to start with jkr. there is so much of every -phobia and -ism you can think of. like could probably write an entire essay of all the shit she’s said and done, but she’s a HUGE terf and antisemite. she named an asian character “cho chang”. those are two last names. there is a “slave race” that apparently enjoys being slaves.

go ahead and enjoy your nostalgia, but don’t be an ass.

here is a link to the quileute tribes fundraiser, to help them relocate from a tsunami risk zone.

here is a link to a charity (mermaids) directed towards helping young trans people and their families in the uk.

another link to a uk trans focused (but also queer in general) charity (GI).

link to a scottish trans focused organisation that rely on donations to help scotland become a safer place for trans people.

[wandoffire]

Peaceful Sleep 🌙

Spell Bag for restful, quality sleep. Can be left under your pillow, next to or under your bed - you can even hold it as you fall asleep.

Chamomile (relaxation and balance)

Lavender (calm and sleep)

Rosemary (protection and sleep)

Grass (psychic powers/dreams)

Salt (cleanse)

Amethyst (peace and protection)

Smokey quartz (removes negative energy)

Intention

Substitute or exclude anything as you need.

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

What others see What | feel inside

Always on time — Intense distress and panic when late.

Strong work ethic — Intense fear of doing anything wrong & getting criticized, fired, or punished.

Always in control — Fearing that something will go terribly wrong if l am not in control.

Good at planning — I always need to be prepared for all of the worst-case scenarios to the point that it often overwhelms me.

Very organized — Being organized helps me manage the intense feeling of being constantly overwhelmed.

Super helpful — I'm afraid of what other people will think if I disappoint them and say no.

Zen & relaxed — Implementing coping skills feels like a full-time job. I'm always "coping".

Self-assured — Worrying that if I don't come off as capable | will let others down.

Calm & composed — Constantly in freeze mode to the point that l often check-out and feel numb.

Self-Love Rainbow

[howtobeapersonwithfibro]

when you’re chronically ill, it’s really hard to fight that fear of “ruining” fun events because you don’t feel well. 

it’s okay if you have to cancel things, but it’s also okay if you go do something fun and are only able to give it 50% or less of what you were hoping to. you still get to be there, and people are glad to have you there. I know it’s frustrating to be so limited, but sometimes it’s worth it to try and go even if you can only have “partial” fun compared to what you wanted. It’s better than no good times at all.

[hallowburn-harlot]

what's the best/quickest option to get HRT in the UK?

[quirkylittletea]

Would be interested in hearing about this too

[stjohnstarling]

Holy shit I think I just cracked the code of why people think you can’t sell things on Tumblr 😭

[stjohnstarling]

I was reading one of the Substacks I subscribe to, talking about how they promote their publication and their various sources of traffic, when I came across this paragraph:

Now I happen to also run a fairly popular Substack (about gay vampires). One whose readers are almost entirely Tumblr users. And Tumblr clicks have just never shown up in my stats, I’m used to it. Naturally I had to comment:

It’s not just Substack’s tracking that doesn’t work on here. NO tracking works on here. Tumblr is just one of the last platforms left that completely obscures its users’ data!

That’s why there’s this persistent myth that you can’t advertise on Tumblr. It's not that you can't sell things here, it's that you can't use the invasive methods that are standard everywhere else.

[obsidian-hollow-archives]

"homosexuality is unnatural! there's only two genders! it's a sin-"

I'm sorry, have you seen NATURE???

and there's so many more species than this that exhibit homosexuality, varying genders, etc. SO! MANY!

it's very much a natural thing. it always has been. unfortunately, while homosexuality is found in many species, homophobia is only found in one

ALSO THE ARTIST IS HUMON, FIND THEM AT HUMONCOMICS.COM!! was so sure I had included that but apparently I forgot, so sorry!

[quirkylittletea]

This was just what I needed after my Christian Aunt told me and my partner that we "needed to go to church because it will sort us out"

[marxism-transgenderism]

I know it's an issue that boys are not taught emotional maturity amd women are expected to take care of them but please do not think that therefore it must be true that women ARE taught emotional maturity. Like please take a look at all of our mothers and tell me you honest to god believe that

[arborealgargoyle]

a pivotal part of emotional maturity is boundaries, but being raised as if you were born to be a submissive maternal caretaker that never questions anything is antithetical to learning how to set boundaries. so yeah. girls raised to be mothers and wives and *only* mothers and wives are denied the development of emotional maturity by design.

this can then turn into a really unhealthy and abusive mindset if they don't ever question it (and admittedly, questioning brainwashing--and this *is* brainwashing--is hard) which is how you get mothers that freak out when you tell them they've done something wrong or hurtful, because they're living in this mindset that all of their value rests in their innate ability to nurture and be perfect. they don't know how to just be a human and fuck up and work that out through setting boundaries and talking to people.

the gaslighting, conversation-ending "I can't do anything right!" that some moms throw out at the drop of a hat sums it up pretty well.

this isn't to say that abusive behavior from moms (or any parent/parental figure) is ever okay. we've all grown up in a fucked up society and we all have the obligation to work through our biases and baggage instead of taking it out on others. but i do think it's relevant when discussing gender norms, and how they negatively affect all of us, just how deeply it fucks you up to be told you are only valuable if you're good at one thing but then never being taught how to do it in a healthy way.

"no one thinks they're ready to be a mom, but as soon as you hold your baby, you'll understand everything!" i don't think a newborn can teach you how to communicate complex emotions and negotiate /maintain healthy boundaries in a relationship, susan. but okay.

i could probably write a whole thesis on how the idealizing of the innocent naive mother who does everything on her own because it comes naturally to her (and has sex only to please her husband or make another baby) directly mirrors the demonizing of BDSM culture which centers communication, autonomy, and personal pleasure. But! i have other things to do today so i shall refrain.

[arborealgargoyle]

still thinking about how gender roles fuck up your ability to navigate being a human, and got to thinking about that one time, when i was a young teenager, that i described what i would later learn were the symptoms of ADHD with sensory sensitivity to my parents.

their response? they told me that it's totally normal for girls (read: AFAB people) to not be able to concentrate on things and be super sensitive to all the noises in a building because our brains are wired to be taking care of babies at all times. we need to be able to hear a baby in another room and not be distracted by whatever task we're trying to do. so of course we can never concentrate on anything and are unduly affected by every minute noise--we're subconsciously waiting for a hypothetical baby to need us to take care of it.

whatever gender you're assigned at birth, forced gender roles are literal brain rot that actively keep you from learning how to take care of yourself or exist as a human being.

[catmask]

today my bf and i were talking about visiting my home for the holidays and i was (sadly) wondering aloud if i should cut my hair and our kid was like "why would you cut your hair??? your hair is cool" and not knowing how to explain it to him i said "my family doesnt think boys should have long hair" to which he went silent, wordlessly pulled out his phone and then swiftly held it out with a picture of keeanu reeves on his phone

[ceasarslegion]

Ive noticed recently that my generation has... no concept of what the various economic classes actually are anymore. I talk to my friends and they genuinely say things like "at least i can afford a middle class lifestyle with this job because i dont need a roommate for my one bedroom apartment" and its like... oughh

You guys, middle class doesnt mean "a stable enough rented roof over your head," it means "a house you bought, a nice car or two, the ability to support a family, and take days off and vacations every year with income to spare for retirement savings and rainy days." If all you have is a rented apartment without a roommate and a used car, you're lower class. That's lower class.

And i cant help but wonder if this is why you get kids on tumblr lumping in doctors and actors into their "eat the rich" rhetoric: economic amnesia has blinded you to what the class divides actually are. The real middle class lifestyle has become so unattainable within a system that relies upon its existence that theyve convinced you that those who can still reach it are the elites while your extreme couponing to afford your groceries is the new normal.

[studentlifeproblems]

[demilypyro]

Apparently there's a show on Netflix where Rayman says fuck, eats sushi off a cow girl's ass and starts killing people???? I don't know all the details

[demilypyro]

Okay so apparently this is called "Captain Laserhawk" and it's some kind of crossover between Ubisoft characters set in a cyberpunk future? and Rayman is a villain?? and the Assassin's Creed franchise is represented by? a? frog? I'm so confused

[demilypyro]

this is like the exact diametric opposite of Nintendo holding onto Mario's brand image with an iron fist. what the fuck is Ubisoft doing here

[quirkylittletea]

I always knew Rayman was a bad guy... 🤔