Radical Acceptance Dragon

everyone's welcome in my lair. yes, even you. i hope you have a nice day.

[smiling-like-a-snake]

i said this once a long time ago on a different blog during a different time in my life, but i think, tonight, is a good night for it to be said once more:

kindness is an action, not an emotion. you can choose to be kind, you can choose who you gift that kindness to. you can fuel it with anger, you can fuel it with rage, you can fuel it with joy and sorrow and love. it can be awe-inspiring, it can be simple, but i think, in the world we live in, to choose kindness, above all else, is the most radical thing of all. 

[survivor-positivity]

you don’t have to ‘get over it’ or ‘move on’. recovery can be slow and complicated, and that’s okay

[survivor-positivity]

nobody else can decide how much the trauma ‘should’ be affecting you

[sunflorally]

part of being an adult is living with regret and not allowing it to consume you. the older you get, the more mistakes you make, the more opportunities you missed, the more people you’ve let down. forgive yourself. don’t beat yourself up. you’re still learning: this is a journey.

[system-comforts]

Being a system can get lonely. Even if you have an internal support system, I hope you also have an external one, and if you don't right now, I hope you find that in the future. You deserve the support.

[radical-acceptance-dragon]

intrusive thoughts and dark impulses don't make you a bad person. it's our words and actions that show who we are, not our thoughts.

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

Falling in love doesn’t have to be romantic. All love has the potential to be deep and meaningful.

[radical-acceptance-dragon]

people who are in pain don't always look like they're suffering. it's especially common among chronic pain patients who've been ill for a long time, as well as autistic people.

going slack and moving as little as possible, including the muscles of the face, is in fact a sensible reaction to intense pain: it conserves energy. someone who looks outwardly relaxed or bored may be screaming on the inside.

if this is you, i just want you to know you deserve to be taken at your word when you say you're in pain. you shouldn't have to put on a fake grimace in order to give a convincing performance of what you're actually going through.

if you have never experienced it yourself, please pass on this information so more people will be aware.

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

It’s OK if you have a label or labels that mean a lot to you. It’s OK if you have any labels that are a big part of your identity.

[gentle-reminder]

gentle reminder

you are so so strong - look at all of the things you’ve gotten through

you can get through this, too

[mamoru]

there is no minimum requirement for suffering before it deserves addressing

[lostlxmb]

you are growing beautifully even if you are growing slowly, even if you are struggling.

[bealert]

It doesn’t matter who you used to be; what matters is who you decide to be today.

You are not your mistakes. You are not your mishaps. You are not your past.

You are not your wounds. You can decide differently today and at every moment.

You are offered a new opportunity with each breath to think, choose, decide and act differently in a way that supports you in being all that you are capable of being.

[anarchistsuggestion]

your “full potential” is just to be happy and safe.

[radical-acceptance-dragon]

it’s okay to take breaks. it’s important to take breaks.

it’s even okay to take a break from what you think of as “recovery” because you’re not under any obligation to devote as much as time as possible to actively working on getting better.

breaks are a part of the process. your subconscious mind can and will do good work while you’re idly playing a mobile game, while you’re asleep, during a shower, during a movie, or while you’re people-watching at the bus stop.

if you don’t seem to be making progress, there is a reason for that. it’s not laziness, i promise you. find the real reason. don’t give up if you can’t find it quickly; there is always a reason.

sometimes, the reason is simply this: rewiring one’s brain takes time. be patient with yourself and you’ll get there eventually.

[gentle-reminder]

gentle reminder

just living is progress; no matter what you may or may not have done today, you made it through the day, and that is more than enough

[radical-acceptance-dragon]

on reblogs: i cannot guarantee that all the blogs i reblog from will be as positive as mine. please don’t send me messages like “OP is an X exclusionist” because honestly, we’ve got bigger fish to fry. do tell me if i accidentally reblog a nazi or a TERF, though. (those would be the “bigger fish” i was referring to.)

known rapists and abusers are of similar concern. unfortunately, however, i have seen too many unfounded smear campaigns on here to trust in such accusations without evidence.

i won’t reblog posts made by self-identified MAPs if i can help it.

if you’re any of these things yourself, feel free to follow though. i don’t know why a nazi or TERF would follow me but maybe a miracle will happen and i’ll infect you with my kindness curse. *shrugs*