I thought you watched all those alt/lolita inspo fits.
I thought you supported me.
and NOW you are telling me to "tone it down" even though i have explained MANY TIMES that maximalism is my ideal style?
JUST because you're scared ill get bullied?
Look, i understand, but the way you tell us to "keep our peace" is slowly making us weaker and handle conflicts worser.
You think im wrong, but that's only because the so called "conflicts" you handle are family based.
And when it's now including someone else, YALLS suddenly don't know how to act and start distancing instead of solving it.
Sure, distancing is a much more peaceful way, but it NEVER gives you the satisfaction of teaching someone a lesson of their lives whether they'll take it seriously or not the same way unlike when you actually handle the conflict.
I understand. you're like... 30+ already.
I get it. Old people get tired more easily thus want peace.
But i hate how you decide to retain the quiet instead of your skills of handling tough situations, thus making you more adapted to being quiet than speaking up as loud as you can just because you feel that way and every wrong feeling in your gut is valid and needs to be let out too (but given the right timing and moment.)
Being quiet makes you all weak. IF that's the only thing you're keeping.
You need to learn how to handle actually INTENSE conflict whether in family or not and you need to do it for your wellbeing too and perhaps, others.
Sure, i may be the type to get overwhelmed immediately since i am a HSP, but that DOES NOT mean i either go silent or start crying at every situation. i KNOW how to fight back when the time is right. And atleast even if i cry alot, i also KNOW how to distinguish what's wrong even if my perception could either be blindsided or wrong. I atleast try my best to understand it within not ONLY my view but also others.
So. Yeah, stop worrying about me getting bullied, im fine, im not dressing for attention, i am doing it for the sake of expression and whimsy.
If i DO get bullied or even MURDERED just for what i was wearing, stop thinking that it's all your fault. That is MY responsibility. You can mournz plan my funeral or whatever BUT i don't want you to blame yourself. You love seeing me happy, right? THERE. You saw me being happy because atleast i was wearing something that made me feel like myself. Then you'd tone it down. Wow. The irony. I'd rather handle things by myself. You keep nagging me with this and that, and the you wonder why I can't be independent. Stop.
I thought you understood me because i tried to communicate EVERYTHING from now on. I don't want to do things your way. You could've gotten a mirror instead if you wanted someone to be the same as you.
