[rammy-ramface]

Why cant stop scroll when want. Need sleep. Halp

[pdlcomics]

concerned

[rammy-ramface]

Remember in school we were taught about the underground railroad and one of the ways people would show that they were underground railroad was to put a quilt on their roof? We should start this again but to show that we're open to all people who need refuge. Are you homeless? You are welcome here. Are you seeking religious asylum from your family? You are welcome here. Are you lgbtq+ and your family doesn't accept you? You are welcome here. Just as a way to say without saying you are welcome here. Here being the building, house, shed that has the quilt/ quilt pattern on it. Be kind friends.

[rammy-ramface]

I have to do neuropsychology evaluations every few years because i had a brain tumor (long gone) and part of the eval is that a psychologist comes in and does an actual evaluation and while i was talking to her she started to cry and i dont think that thats a good sign for my mental health. 10/10 i made a psychologist cry.

[rammy-ramface]

Nobody is gonna see this but I KNOW HOW TO BRING TONY BACK! Okay here we go, Steve Rogers (captain america) goes back in time to live his life with Peggy right? So we already know that Steve and Howard Stark knew each other because he was the weapons developer in the first avenger. All Steve has to do is suggest that Howard equip Tony with the same serum that made him strong but in a smaller dose (as to not make him scream in pain) maybe multiple times which would explain why when tony is a douche hes REALLY a douche (good gets better bad gets worse etc.). They could also keep bucky from killing his parents so they could be in the new timeline movies. I know theres probably holes in this theory but i really want tony back he was my favorite.

[marvelgifs]

LUPITA NYONG’O as NAKIA 

BLACK PANTHER (2018)

[depsidase]

[gumi-megpoidd]

Oh wow ur right

[disgustinganimals]

Who told you about the mind cow

[naamahdarling]

[unusualrussia]

Translate this meme for me, please.

[chestervelt]

“honk honk, your Uber has arrived”

“Oleg, what the fuck”

[watson-emma]

[thorodinsson]

MCU + CHAOTIC ENERGY

[missmentelle]

What abusers believe.

If you’ve ever had to deal with an abusive person in your life - like an abusive parent or partner - you’ve probably wondered what made them treat you that way. If you understand why abuse is happening, the thinking goes, you might be able to figure out how to make it stop. 

So why do abusers do what they do? Do they have anger issues? Drinking problems? Past trauma? Personality disorders? Do they just need to get in touch with their feelings and learn how to communicate better?

Nope. 

Abusive behaviours come from abusive beliefs. Abusers - whether consciously or unconsciously - hold specific beliefs about relationships that drive their behaviour and allow them to justify the horrible things they do. Even if your abuser has never put their beliefs into words, you’ll probably recognize a lot of these abusive beliefs:

You are responsible for my emotions. It is never my responsibility to reflect on my emotional reactions or learn better coping skills - it’s your responsibility to stop doing things that make me angry or upset.

I must act on my emotions. If I am angry, I am going to lash out. You have no right to criticize me for that, and it’s not my responsibility to learn to manage my  emotions - you have to stop making me lash out at you. Asking me not to act on my emotions is controlling and wrong.

You will always be responsible for my emotions. Even if the relationship ends, you will continue to be responsible for my emotions, and I will expect you to continue to prioritize my feelings.

If I have feelings about something, it’s my business. If something you do or think causes an emotional reaction in me, then I have a right to get involved or tell you what to do. My feelings must be the priority. You don’t have the right to tell me that it’s none of my business. 

You must judge me on my intentions, not my actions. If I didn’t mean to hurt you or scare you, then you don’t have the right to be hurt or scared. No one has the right to try to hold me accountable unless I meant to hurt someone.

I get to decide what your intentions were. If you hurt me, you meant to hurt me. If you make me jealous, you meant to make me jealous. Nothing you do is ever accidental or unintended - everything you do is intentional and malicious, even if it was a response to something I did.

My feelings are genuine; your feelings are manipulation. If I’m upset, my feelings are real and important. If you are upset, you have an ulterior motive - you’re just trying to be manipulative and get attention or sympathy for yourself.

You have freedoms because I allow you to. Every freedom you have in your life - like wearing what you want - it’s because I generously allow it. I expect you to be grateful to me for that. I have the right to take those freedoms away whenever I want, and I expect you to obey.

If you set boundaries with me, you are mistreating me. If you really loved me, you wouldn’t set boundaries with me. You are doing this to intentionally hurt me, which means I don’t have to respect those boundaries.

You holding me accountable for hurting you is worse than me hurting you. My pain at being called out is worse than your pain at being mistreated. If I feel bad about something I did, I have already been punished enough. You trying to discuss the issue or hold me accountable is just your way of abusing me.

If I apologized for something, you have to forgive me. If the relationship has ended, you have to reconcile with me. You don’t get to ask for more time apart or more discussion of the issue - once I’ve apologized, the matter is closed for good.

The relationship is not over until I say it is over. So long as I want a relationship with you, you must have a relationship with me. Your feelings are irrelevant. Even if we have broken up, you must remain available to me so we can get back together in the future. Not wanting a relationship with me means you are mistreating me or being immature. 

I am the authority in this relationship. I am smarter and more perceptive than you. I know what is best for both of us. My version of events is always the correct one. I have superior judgement, taste and opinions. If you question me or disagree with me after I’ve given you the correct answer, you are disrespecting and mistreating me, or you are simply immature and incapable of knowing what’s good for you.

I have the right to control you. It is my absolute right to decide what you do and who you associate with. You have no right to disobey me. I am owed obedience and control; if you don’t give me those things, you are wronging me and cheating me out of the relationship I deserve. 

If you resist my control, I am allowed to do whatever I think is necessary to get it back. Once you’ve resisted me, I am justified in whatever I do to regain control of you. I am not responsible for my actions when you resist my control; you forced me to do it, and it’s your own fault. 

I should be your main focus. Everything else in your life comes secondary to me. When you make decisions, my feelings should be your first consideration. You are expected to make sacrifices for me and put me at the center of your life; I am not obligated to do the same for you. 

If I spend money on you or do something for you, you are in debt to me. You spending money on me or doing things for me does not erase your debt to me, and I am never in debt to you. You are indebted to me for as long as I decide. I may decide that your belongings and earnings also belong to me, since I allow you to have them. I may also decide at any time that you owe me for gifts I gave you, even if they were meant to be gifts.

I am not abusive, and you are not allowed to tell me otherwise. I know what abuse is, and real abusers are significantly worse than me. If our relationship has ever had any good times or positive moments, it can’t possibly be abusive. If you accuse me of being abusive, you are the one abusing me, or you have been led astray by bad influences. 

Relationships should be effortless (for me). I am owed a relationship that is peaceful and requires no real effort from me. It is your job to make sure we have that kind of relationship. If there is any tension or conflict in the relationship, it is your fault, and you are depriving me of the relationship I deserve to have. 

Abusers and victims alike often buy into the narrative that abuse is rooted in anger issues - after all, abusers are frequently angry, and anger is an issue that can be treated. But this narrative just isn’t true. Abusers aren’t abusive because they are angry. Abusers are angry because they are abusive. 

A non-abusive partner is not someone who has learned how to control their rage whenever you spend time with your friends or get home 15 minutes late from work. A non-abusive partner just doesn’t feel any rage in those situations. An abuser’s rage is firmly rooted in their beliefs about relationships - they feel entitled to a relationship that meets their impossible expectations, and when they inevitably don’t get it, they bubble over with fury. Whether they know it or not, they have firmly entrenched beliefs about how relationships should be, and those beliefs are at the heart of their abuse. 

Can abusers stop believing these things? Maybe. If they can acknowledge that they have these beliefs, accept that these beliefs are dangerous and unreasonable and let go of these beliefs, maybe it’s possible for them to no longer be abusive in the future. Maybe. But it’s not your job to hang around and find out. If you’re in an abusive relationship of any kind, you deserve better. There are many people in this world who don’t hold abusive views of relationships, and you deserve to find happiness with them. 

[rammy-ramface]

its unfortunate but these kinds of abusers often transfer their abuse tactics to their children. 

[airahvee]

Mystery’s over guys. Everyone go home.

[thesassycat]

You can only reblog this today.

[askjennaflorida]

I missed my chance last year. Not gonna let it happen again

[interfacing-with-december-deact]

happy mario day

[rammy-ramface]

Mario bros. is 25 this year cant miss Mar10 day.

[taylortut]

y’all know that john mulaney quote “the things crazy people say mean nothing to them but everything to me?”

every time i hear that quote, i think about how i got this light-up pen

[taylortut]

i got this pen four years ago when i was working as a barista at starbucks. I was on the registers and taking the order of this woman, who ordered a nonfat latte, because she was “watching her weight”

so this guy behind her, whom no one was talking to, for some fucking reason says “wathing your weight? but what about the wait for your watch?“ (which is a completely unhinged response. like just complete Mad Hatter nonsense)

anyway this lady gets really uncomfortable and of the five people (me, him, her, the other checker, and the customer at the other register) who were now sucked into the uncomfortable silence, i decided that i should alleviate the tension by saying “you can’t wait for a watch; you don’t have the time”

and then he said “oh, quick girl!”, gave me that pen, got out of line, and left without ordering anything 

[patron-saint-of-smart-asses-dea]

You pleased a mad fae trickster

[mckitterick]

The patron saint of clever responses said at the relevant time rather than thought up hours later while alone in the shower.

[ink-pedia]

ig: tattooist_sigak

[rammy-ramface]

SPOILERS SPOILERS SPOILERS SPOILERS SPOILERS SPOILERS Okay I have a fan theory about the movie Moana, and idk if anyone else has thought about this so if you've read one similar I didnt know about it. I think that Grandma Tala is Maui's mother, I think that she was punished for throwing Maui away, by losing her goddess status. I think she was goddess of the sea. When Moana was born she was the next pure enough soul came through the family line, so the ocean chose her as a new goddess which is why Moana was chosen to restore Te Fiti. Grandma Tala knows this which is why shes essentially grooming her for it the whole movie, and she basically turns into a Manta May spirit which we (the audience) has never seen happen for anyone else. Theres also the whole Moana means ocean thing that seems like just a good idea on disneys part but at the end of the movie after the conflict resolution Te Fiti and Moana look eerily similar, and the fact that moana doesnt feel whole on the island, and Te Fiti doesnt have a heart until Moana ventures from the island and restores it seems like a pretty good indication that its true, which could lead to a different theory that Moana is the heart, and the "heart" is really just a rock. Ive seen this movie 900 times because its my nephews favorite so ive had some time to come up with this. Please lmk your thoughts lol.

[therealmisscocoperu]

[damnitrj]

The words of a generation