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[drustvar]

writing a character with an accent but without making their dialogue insufferable to read is something i as an author struggle with

[maakaniart-deactivated20221025]

For real it’s always a struggle

I’ve been meaning to figure out how to let everyone know what Iivana’s flat Finnish accent would sound like but ?? how do I explain that in text

[drustvar]

honestly the most helpful advice i found was on some subreddit and how its more efficient to convey an accent through a character’s dialect and word choice, which is why I’ve so far settled on having Rosie just typically replace ‘yes’ with ‘aye’ or ‘don’t’ with 'dunnae’ instead of trying to put accent marks or spell a majority of words differently

[maakaniart-deactivated20221025]

Yeah definitely! Word choices and grammar can do a lot already for localising an accent. It just gets harder with non-native accents because making the distinction would quickly turn into a lot of explaining or stereotyping. (Obviously the easiest choice then is to just leave it up for the readers to interpret but you know.)

[syntymatitahna]

i think often non-native accents can have kinda, well, non-native word orders and such, but… at least i personally find it really hard to rule-ify that enough to portray it accurately?

[ip2lb]

x

[thehappysnail-deactivated202210]

Holy fuck

[musingsofaraven]

This works best if you keep windows closed.

Another design is using 2 20x25x1 filters, taping them to the sides of the box fan and then to each other so they sort of make a triangle, then cutting cardboard to make a top and bottom to the triangle.

This was discovered as a more effective design during the 2020 US west coast fires.

https://tombuildsstuff.blogspot.com/2013/06/better-box-fan-air-purifier.html

Better Box Fan Air Purifier

A better more efficient and odor eliminating homemade air purifier than just taping a 20x20x1 filter to a box fan. Sometimes you need to

[super-metroid]

rock: destroys scissors, rendering them useless

scissors: destroys paper, rendering it useless

paper: hides rock from the shame of defeat

[super-metroid]

i accept this headcanon

[tiktoksthataregood-ish]

[theunitofcaring]

I don't get seasonal depression, I just get slightly sleepier and more irritable and mopey when I don’t get any sunlight, but when I said this to my doctor she was like “you should still get a lightbox” and I did and now I have way more energy.  The moral of the story is, if you spend time thinking to yourself “well I don’t actually have [diagnosable problem], I have [milder version that I can just ignore]”, you could instead of just ignoring it get the accommodation for the problem and see if it improves your life. I do not expect to remember this next time I “don’t actually have the real problem”, but maybe eventually I will learn.

[glorious-spoon]

We treat accommodations like something that you can only have if you’re really really desperately suffering and cannot function at all without them, but that’s… really really not the case. Or at least it shouldn’t be.

[comp-lady]

Not to uuuhhh highjack this post, but I have some experience with this. Not only does it corroborate the above but I have found that even you don’t have any need for whatever accommodation that also shouldn’t bar you from getting one if you just…

want it

see years ago my grandmother was diagnosed with cancer, and as happens with progressing cancer her mobility was drastically reduced. To help combat this and allow her to retain independence at home Papa (my grandfather) got a shower chair. This is about as self-descriptive as it can get, it is a chair made of metal and plastic that sits in your shower or bathtub. I’m sure those with physical disabilities are already quite familiar with them, for those of you that aren’t just google it.

Eventually my grandmother passed. A couple years after my dad had to stay at Papa’s house for a couple weeks, for his own medical reasons. While there he discovered that Papa had kept the chair. And while Papa was old he was hardly infirm, he didn’t use a cane or have any severe mobility issues. Certainly none that would have affected his ability to stand in the shower. The conversation went more or less as such:

Dad: Why they hell did you keep the shower chair, dad? You don’t need it

Papa: Kevin, you wait until you use it. Then you’ll know why I kept it.

My dad was disbelieving tbh, to him chairs in showers when you don’t need them was a thing that like. Lazy rich people had. wtf could be so great about being able to sit in the shower? Why would an able-bodied person even need to? it’s a fucking shower? wash urself and then get out. Then he used the chair, and according to him it was like he’d had a proper religious revelation. Shortly after his return home (tbh the amount of time it took for him to take a shower sans chair) my dad went out and bought a shower chair.

The ensuing conversation with my mother went as such:

Mom: Kevin why did you buy that? We don’t need it!

Dad: Just use it once, this will change your life.

And it did. After using the chair for the first time my mom straight up wanted to know why they had never thought to get a chair for the shower before. Ever since we have had a chair in the shower.

It has proven itself invaluable.

Exhausted but covered in grime from yardwork so you HAVE to wash before doing anything else? shower chair

Don’t have the spoons to stand in the shower? shower chair

Leg/hip/back injury slowly getting worse over time making standing for long periods a difficult matter? shower chair

Home from work and just want to shower but your feet are killing you? shower chair

can’t keep your balance when masturbating in the shower? shower chair

want to write fic in ur head without your feet starting to hurt because you maybe spent a little too long standing there in spray? shower chair

disassociating? shower chair

gotta shave your legs? shower chair

crying because you’ve now realized how much easier being able to sit down and prop up a leg makes shaving while in the shower? shower chair

I have no current mobility issues, and yet if I had to move house tomorrow a shower chair of my own would be one of the first things I purchase for my own home.

It’s so easy to fall into the trap of “this could make my life easier but do I really need it?” And y’know what maybe you don’t need it. Maybe you don’t need that accommodation, but maybe it would make your life easier anyway. When it comes to things that you keep in your home for personal use does it really matter? Besides there is always the very real chance that buying it now, when you don't’ need it but can afford it, will save your ass down the line when you suddenly do desperately need it.

[melredcap]

I would also like to point out: if able-bodied people start using things that were originally designed as disability accommodations, they become normalised. They become acceptable. And then all of a sudden they’re widely available, they usually become cheaper, and disabled people don’t get shit for needing them.

Buy the damn shower chair. Get a JarKey so you don’t need gorilla strength to open the pickled onions. Install soft-touch taps. Revel in your newly comfortable life while also making the world a slightly more disability-friendly place.

[biglawbear]

*banging fist on table* CURB CUTTER EFFECT

[somevirtualnolife]

[musterniillustrates]

the kicker is he was being asked if his work was coming from the approach of man vs. nature aka “THE ENVIRONMENT STRIKES BACK” but no. his literal words were along the lines of “sharks are not very scary if you are never in the water so i had to make them scarier, and now they have legs.”

[breakdownsbuttlights]

[omghotmemes]

[sabertoothwalrus]

hold the fuck up I just noticed there’s an apple juice emoji

🧃

[circusbattery]

SCREAMING

[t4tsonadow]

Thats a GRAPE JUICE BOXBDBDBDND

[circusbattery]

OH SHIT.

[compleatedsadboy]

God I wish I could have some apple juice :(

[tigwex]

what the shit is this????? boiled egg????? boiled egg juice???

[im-extremely-scottish]

its orange juice clearly

[polyam-bug-wannabe-deactivated2]

🧃

Is appl

[miserysblessing-deactivated2021]

[dualclock]

J Ü C E

[spelledslots]

Juicebox tower of Babel

[grouchythefish]

[chanseydonut]

vacation juice

[shelbys-advice-blog]

I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?

HI darling,

I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:

Home

what the hell is a mortgage?

first apartment essentials checklist

how to care for cacti and succulents

the care and keeping of plants

Getting an apartment

Money

earn rewards by taking polls

how to coupon

what to do when you can’t pay your bills

see if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill

how to save money

How to Balance a Check Book

How to do Your Own Taxes

Health

how to take care of yourself when you’re sick

things to bring to a doctor’s appointment

how to get free therapy

what to expect from your first gynecologist appointment

how to make a doctor’s appointment

how to pick a health insurance plan

how to avoid a hangover

a list of stress relievers

how to remove a splinter

Emergency

what to do if you get pulled over by a cop

a list of hotlines in a crisis

things to keep in your car in case of an emergency

how to do the heimlich maneuver

Job

time management

create a resume

find the right career

how to pick a major

how to avoid a hangover

how to interview for a job

how to stop procrastinating

How to write cover letters

Travel

ULTIMATE PACKING LIST

Traveling for Cheap

Travel Accessories

The Best Way to Pack a Suitcase

How To Read A Map

How to Apply For A Passport

How to Make A Travel Budget

Better You

read the news

leave your childhood traumas behind

how to quit smoking

how to knit

how to stop biting your nails

how to stop procrastinating

how to stop skipping breakfast

how to stop micromanaging

how to stop avoiding asking for help

how to stop swearing constantly

how to stop being a pushover

learn another language

how to improve your self-esteem

how to sew

learn how to embroider

how to love yourself

100 tips for life

Apartments/Houses/Moving

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 1: Are You Sure? (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 2: Finding the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 3: Questions to Ask about the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 4: Packing and Moving All of Your Shit (The Responsible One)

How to Protect Your Home Against Break-Ins (The Responsible One)

Education

How to Find a Fucking College (The Sudden Adult)

How to Find Some Fucking Money for College (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do When You Can’t Afford Your #1 Post-Secondary School (The Sudden Adult)

Stop Shitting on Community College Kids (Why Community College is Fucking Awesome) (The Responsible One)

How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a College Major (The Sudden Adult)

Finances

How to Write a Goddamn Check (The Responsible One)

How to Convince Credit Companies You’re Not a Worthless Bag of Shit (The Responsible One)

Debit vs Credit (The Responsible One)

What to Do if Your Wallet is Stolen/Lost (The Sudden Adult)

Budgeting 101 (The Responsible One)

Important Tax Links to Know (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a Bank Without Screwing Yourself (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting

How to Write a Resume Like a Boss (The Responsible One)

How to Write a Cover Letter Someone Will Actually Read (The Responsible One)

How to Handle a Phone Interview without Fucking Up (The Responsible One)

10 Sites to Start Your Job Search (The Responsible One)

Life Skills

Staying in Touch with Friends/Family (The Sudden Adult)

Bar Etiquette (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do After a Car Accident (The Sudden Adult)

Grow Up and Buy Your Own Groceries (The Responsible One)

How to Survive Plane Trips (The Sudden Adult)

How to Make a List of Goals (The Responsible One)

How to Stop Whining and Make a Damn Appointment (The Responsible One)

Miscellaneous

What to Expect from the Hell that is Jury Duty (The Responsible One)

Relationships

Marriage: What the Fuck Does It Mean and How the Hell Do I Know When I’m Ready? (Guest post - The Northwest Adult)

How Fucked Are You for Moving In with Your Significant Other: An Interview with an Actual Real-Life Couple Living Together™ (mintypineapple  and catastrofries)

Travel & Vehicles

How to Winterize Your Piece of Shit Vehicle (The Responsible One)

How to Make Public Transportation Your Bitch (The Responsible One)

Other Blog Features

Apps for Asshats

Harsh Truths & Bitter Reminders

Asks I’ll Probably Need to Refer People to Later

Apartments (or Life Skills) - How Not to Live in Filth (The Sudden Adult)

Finances - Tax Basics (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Copy of Your Birth Certificate (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Replacement ID (The Responsible One)

Health - How to Deal with a Chemical Burn (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - List of Jobs Based on Social Interaction Levels (The Sudden Adult)

Job Hunting - How to Avoid Falling into a Pit of Despair While Job Hunting (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - Questions to Ask in an Interview (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - First-Time Flying Tips (The Sudden Adult)

Life Skills - How to Ask a Good Question (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Reasons to Take a Foreign Language (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Opening a Bar Tab (The Sudden Adult)

Relationships - Long Distance Relationships: How to Stay in Contact (The Responsible One)

Adult Cheat Sheet:

what to do if your pet gets lost

removing stains from your carpet

how to know if you’re eligible for food stamps

throwing a dinner party

i’m pregnant, now what?

first aid tools to keep in your house

how to keep a clean kitchen

learning how to become independent from your parents

job interview tips

opening your first bank account

what to do if you lose your wallet

tips for cheap furniture

easy ways to cut your spending

selecting the right tires for your car

taking out your first loan

picking out the right credit card

how to get out of parking tickets

how to fix a leaky faucet

get all of your news in one place

getting rid of mice & rats in your house

when to go to the e.r.

buying your first home

how to buy your first stocks

guide to brewing coffee

first apartment essentials checklist

coping with a job you hate

30 books to read before you’re 30

what’s the deal with retirement?

difference between insurances

Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:

Reasons to move out of home

You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:

wishing to live independently

location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university

conflict with your parents

being asked to leave by your parents.

Issues to consider when moving out of home

It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:

Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.

Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.

Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.

Your parents may be worried

Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:

They may worry that you are not ready.

They may be sad because they will miss you.

They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.

They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.

Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.

Tips for a successful move

Tips include:

Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?

Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.

Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.

Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.

Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.

If your family home does not provide support

Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.

If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.

If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.

Where to get help

Your doctor

Kids Helpline Tel. [phone]

Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44

Home Ground Services Tel. [phone]

Relationships Australia Tel. [phone]

Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50

Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. [phone]

Things to remember

Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.

Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations. 

(source)

Keep me updated? xx

[jaubaius]

Woah. Nice!

[white-throated-packrat]

“Here’s my chicken wondering what I’m doing” 🐔 ❓ ❓

[ms-demeanor]

I’ve never seen such a succinct explanation of how to train up to going *any* flag exercise and i love it.

[hashtagloveloses]

it’s time to divest from amazon. here’s some alternatives i know of. many are related to reading, but you should add others you know:

obviously the library for books. but your local library might not publicize what services it has for ebooks and audiobooks that much. many subscribe to services like Overdrive, which has an app called Libby that is incredibly easy to use. if your library system uses it, you just log in with your library login, and can check out ebooks and audiobooks. in the US you can read the ebooks on your Kindle as well. Some books from your library may not show up in Overdrive, so also check what other services they use, like Hoopla, or CloudLibrary, or a number of other apps. They’re all fairly easy to use!

if you want to buy books and support your local independent bookstore, many people have pointed to Indiebound, but that’s mostly just a directory. My favorite site is called Bookshop. Many indie bookstores have Bookshop storefronts, where basically you use their affiliate link and can buy anything on Bookshop and the profits will all go to that bookstore. You can even buy eBooks, which are delivered via the MyMustReads app, and audiobooks, which are delivered through LibroFM. If you just use Bookshop’s regular site and not an affiliate link, the proceeds will be split between many independent bookstores. You’ll know you’re supporting your bookstore because the logo for your store is at the top of your shopping experience the whole time. 

If you need books shipped internationally/non-U.S.A., try BetterWorldBooks. They’re a great alternative to Book Depository (owned by Amazon). They have tons of used options, sales, new, paperback, hardback, and free shipping in almost every country. Plus they donate books to people in need, and offset their carbon emissions.

If you like to purchase rarer books, try Biblio. They’re a great alternative to AbeBooks (owned by Amazon), and share many of the same independent sellers, so you can find many of the same rare books without supporting amazon.

GoodReads is owned by Amazon, but if you want to track your reading and get recommendations for new things to read AND give half and quarter stars, try the Storygraph, a newly developed site with a much better interface.

You shouldn’t bother with Audible because you can get most of those books for free on Libby from the library anyway, and it’s owned by Amazon. But did you know if you’d like to purchase an audiobook, you can do so from an independent bookstore? Check out Libro.fm. They even have a subscription service just like Audible, and it’s the exact same price.

I’ll reblog with more as I find them but if people know some good ones get in there! As a general rule, before you buy anything, do a quick google of “Does Amazon own X”. Even the BIGGEST companies, you’d be surprised. (Like my mom not knowing about Zappos, or people in publishing not knowing about Book Directory).

if YOU know a good independent alternative not owned by Amazon, Walmart, Target or some other big company, add it!

[jackironsides]

Book Depository was bought out by Amazon in 2011, so they were independent when they first started. Which might be why those people in publishing didn’t know. Abebooks has also been bought out by Amazon, fyi, so they’re no longer independent (as of 2008, which surprised me. I used it back then and Amazon didn’t have a visible presence on the site like it does now). Comixology also got bought by Amazon in 2014 😔

Wikipedia actually has a page dedicated to Amazon’s many takeovers. I didn’t realise that IMDb was bought back in 1998.

If you’re Australian, booko.com.au will allow you to look for the best prices for books online. It does index Book Depository and Abebooks, but it also indexes independent retailers like Angus & Robertson and Dymocks. And yes, brickspace bookshops like A&R sell ebooks now.

Bolinda is Australia’s primary audiobook production company. Did you know they have an app? It’s called BorrowBox. You can’t buy books through it; it’s basically a shopfront for libraries. Plenty of local libraries have signed up, and you can borrow both audiobooks and ebooks though it. Overdrive still has a presence in the library sector here, though. My local council’s library system apparently uses both; I was talking to my sister about Reading in the Time of Covid the other day, and she’s been borrowing books from my local through Overdrive, whereas I use BorrowBox.

[264571956-deactivated20210621]

friendship IS romance : 1. / 2. / 3. fleabag / 4. / 5. / 6. / 7. / 8. a little life, hanya yanagihara  / 9. / 10. 

[pl4ystation-deactivated20211104]

As he should

[whitepeopletwitter]

[an-alarming-number-of-bees]

They’re more deserving of the uniform than most generals.

[mens-rights-activia]

Heroes

[roach-works]

hey so, as a man who works with other men, here’s a quick relationship tip: if he doesn’t much like cats, that might be just a personal preference. if he hates cats, if he tells you he hates cats as soon as he hears that you have a cat and love your cat, he’s an asshole. he’s telling on himself.  

every guy i’ve ever worked with that makes a point of telling me how much he hates cats as soon as i mention that i have a cat and love my cat, is always someone who is regularly cruel for fun and who laughs in the breakroom about the mean things they do for fun to their girlfriends and children. 

[villainous-queer-deactivated202]

I wish I could articulate all the ways this makes sense and why it makes sense and stuff but it’s just like… something something misogyny something something resentment of creatures that don’t need you and don’t hang on your attention and approval all their lives.

[theseancequeen]

My dad gave me this exact same advice when I was a kid. “Anyone who hates cats is a control freak and an asshole.”

[madfrisky]

I’ve seen Horny Internet Fangirls fall physically in lust with everything from standard hunks to weird cartoons to robots to monsters and every body type from potbelly bear to skeletal beanpole and it never fails to amaze me, when by comparison, straight guys seem to have trouble with any woman who isn’t hourglass shaped

[laschatzi]

at first I thought this post was going to bash horny internet fangirls, but it turned out great.