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yeehawpim

I can be shaped by more than the things that hurt me

no-one-offical

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exhuastedpigeon

Happy Pride all the queers in my phone. But an extra happy pride to all the bisexuals in straight passing relationships. To the trans people still living in the closet for their safety. To the nonbinary people getting misgendered. To the ace and aro people who sometimes feel like Pride isn’t for them. To the BIPOC people who face discrimination in the queer community. To everyone who feels like they aren’t queer enough.

You are enough. Pride is for you.

sleepnoises

i want to do a painting of a tiger taking a bath to put in a bathroom (bathroom-themed bathroom) and to this end i made a little maquette out of clay and i suspect this will scope creep into having both a painting and sculpture of a tiger or perhaps only a sculpture of a tiger. if i do both should they be displayed together or separately

sleepnoises

Tiger maquette by the way 🐅

sleepnoises

Working on cutting out a large piece of wood to do the painting on, which is a constraint that will either be really fun or really annoying. Maybe both

sleepnoises

Wood primed and underpainted and sketch transferred mostly by cutting it out in different chunks and tracing around them. Stripes to be determined. Nobody let me work on this again for at least two weeks

sleepnoises

The finished Ms. Tigers

dragon-in-a-fez

one of the funniest conversations I ever had with my ex was when they were still getting used to Celsius and asked me "what's 20 degrees?" and instead of converting it, I said "it's the highest your dad will ever let you set the thermostat and when you say you're cold he tells you to put on another sweater, we're not made of money" and they went "oh, 68"

the fact that this reference was that fucking precise was something they went on to tell people about for years.

wifegideonnav

“bits to use in everyday conversations”

#“have fun” when someone says they're going to the bathroom

#lowkey hilarious #supernatural

queermania

PLEASEBPLEASE PLEASE WHAT IS YOUR CYBERTRUCK QUESTION

oh! right! okay so the scenario is this: you meet someone who is as perfect as another human being can be for you. your politics and values align. your interests align in whatever way works best for you. the chemistry is off the charts. the way they smell is the best thing you've ever smelled. you want the same things out of life. your friends/family love them and their friends/family love you. your lifestyles are perfectly compatible. they are, if such a thing existed, your soulmate. they also, however, drive a cybertruck. by choice. they feel the same way about elon musk as you do but they just "think cybertrucks are neat" *casual shrug*

is that a deal breaker for you?

no but i would never get in the truck myself

yes

Voting ended onMay 22

no nuance/see results button. if this doesn't apply to you in any way (you're already in a monogamous relationship, you're aro/ace, etc.) do your best to imagine or just sit this one out. i don't want to skew the results with nuance.

maybe-someday-eventually

artsekey

I was telling my friends that for years I couldn’t take Star Wars seriously because “Darth Vader looked so stupid under the helmet”, and they were confused so they asked me what I thought he looked like. I proceeded to describe a purple, alien-skinned thing with horns all over its bald scalp. They informed me that was not, in fact, what Darth Vader looked like, and so I did a deep dive.

This lead me to realize that I conflated the face of Darth Vader with the face of a toy featured prominently in commercials around the time when I was a kid, so allow me to introduce you to what I thought Darth Vader looked like for 25+ years of my life:

Darth Boo-Bah.

artsekey

I want you all to know that I went to post this on the Star Wars Reddit and they fucking hated it. That’s why I stay here, where people know what’s absolutely fucking hilarious.

purgatorybfs

cosmogyros

At what temperature do you prefer to keep your home?

less than 20 degrees Celsius

20–21 degrees Celsius

22–23 degrees Celsius

24–25 degrees Celsius

26–27 degrees Celsius

28–29 degrees Celsius

30 degrees Celsius or higher

I use Fahrenheit and don't know how to google F to C conversion

Voting ended onApr 13

pangur-and-grim

accepting the whole autism thing has actually brought me so much calm, because when I was kid everyone seemed instinctively repulsed by me and I never understood why. ESPECIALLY the adults! which is a little fucked, because who are you supposed to go to about bullying if the teacher is participating? and even my family members seemed disgusted by me on some level, so I was like a cartoon parody of a human being where my closest friends were my pet rats. but reading studies on autism now, and learning about the double empathy problem, and about how neurotypical people ARE repulsed by autistic people in an uncanny valley sort of way and DO dislike them upon first encountering them (unless, ironically enough, they’re told that they’re autistic) - that’s actually been so cathartic. especially now that I’m older and have an okay-ish handle on masking, and so am no longer live in a nightmare world where literally everyone in my life seems icked the fuck out. I don’t have to discount my early memories. I can be like ohhhhh yeah that’s just something that happens. I didn’t do anything particularly bad and it’s not that I wasn’t trying, I was just born with the cursed sigil on my forehead. like ohhhhh they were reacting to the curse, ohhh okay, cool cool, that’s actually fine. I’m actually alright with that.

pangur-and-grim

it also helps to look at old photos, because it’s like jesus christ, that’s literally just a little kid. like nobody that small should think that they’re that hated

ahedderick

This is HUGE for me, because it explains over 50 years of confusion I've had surrounding my attempts to be social. That INSTANT dislike I frequently encounter, which may be overt or much more subtle. I've tried to describe it to friends and family and met with a lot of pushback; people who already know and like me either don't believe me or argue that I'm misinterpreting.

This. Is. Huge.

I checked here to read more about it:

https://www.simplypsychology.org/autism-double-empathy-problem.html

@pangur-and-grim thank you from the bottom of my hypothetical heart for posting this.

violetrosepetals

I'm not autistic but I do have ADHD, and this is absolutely my experience with...pretty much everyone I've interacted with in my life. I am in my late 30's and I have 4 people who are not family who have interacted with me by choice for over 3 years. 4 people in almost 40 years on this planet living in 5 different cities who aren't repulsed by "that weird girl".

Thank you for shedding light on this OP. Maybe I'll find it cathartic in the future. For now, having been ghosted by 2 people I thought were friends for the last couple months, it just reaffirms my decision to stop trying to make connections. Because connections hurt.

#I very much encountered this in school as well.#ADHD but could be audhd - I'm not pressed on that point as I've thankfully found my people as an adult #but when I was in elementary school - before my (autistic) brother was born #my mom banned my (then) best friend from coming over because she got creeped out by her #what my mom described is that she asked her a question and her face/attitude changed “like she was possessed”#my parents sort of assumed bipolar and thought she was dangerous or something #that's the best the could articulate it when later talking about it #I've randomly thought about it in recent years (nearly 20 years after the fact) and #realized that she was almost certainly autistic #tbc we still hung out at school and events - we eventually grew apart in middle school - my parents didn't cause that with their decision #but it's crossed my mind to tell my mom “hey do you remember this? well she was probably autistic”#bc my parents don't seem to be very self aware generally when it comes to their behavior (they are bullies by nature)#(I realize that may also speak to the post here in terms of my childhood with them)#point being I don't think she would have independently connected the dots #but that if I tell her it might click (after 20 years with my brother)#the only thing that will accomplish though #is to make her feel bad for what is apparently an instinctual thing she did back when she did not know better #they have shown some character growth in recent years #(though I can't tell if it's only bc of boundaries I've set - leading them to other incremental improvements to maintain our relationship #and possibly with their future old age in mind #or if it's genuine growth)#I also think maybe I did mention my thought that my friend was prly autistic - like in my 20s maybe.#and that I don't particularly remember it due to the conversation going nowhere #who knows #adhd #autism #neurodivergent #neurodiversity

Got invited to whatnot and am actually liking it, so now I'm going to see if I can sell my excess Squishmallows this week.

Referral link if anyone wants to check it out:

Whatnot - The Live Shopping Marketplace. Shop, sell, and connect around things you love. Explore 250+ categories, including coins, sneakers,

And seller version of you've got stuff to offload too:

Whatnot - The Live Shopping Marketplace. Shop, sell, and connect around things you love. Explore 250+ categories, including coins, sneakers,

The idea is that it's faster than eBay. Really though it's a lot like Twitch meets the Flea Market/ outlets.

#this will be a short show #but I also have clothes to maybe sell. so if this goes well I may try that on whatnot too. and then just donate whatever is left #rambles

bridgetoon

Castiel is like what if you were going through puberty and the discovery that your parents are flawed individuals but you were billions of years old and an atomic bomb. And every test you failed really was the end of the world and every time you break the rules your parents really are gonna kill you and your best friend is the weird kid that all your other friends make fun of who is the first person ever to show you kindness and everyone keeps saying you have a crush on him and making fun of you both for that too. And by 'making fun' I mean 'trying to kill'.