LurksLikeABoss

Space where I mostly reblog things, not much original content. He/him they/them le/lim/ler/lers/limself pronouns, born in the '90s. I'm really shitty at tagging stuff, so if you need specific warnings, let me know! Adulting for a decade+

[rebornfromsea]

Any requests for money will be flagged as spam and blocked

[pjotwitter]

[goldensunset]

ok i’ve been curious about something. can you name a character who is, all three at once,

1. canonically female (no variation)

2. canonically the protagonist of her story (if it’s an ensemble cast you have to say you can legitimately see her as The main character)

3. your personal #1 favorite character in that story (ties are acceptable)

?

yes

no

super nuance bald extract button (use this wisely)

Remaining time: 5 days 12 hours

[depsidase]

[transfemme-shelterdog]

Just another way to force people to not be able to leave work.

"No excuse for missing the meeting. Even if you're off the clock and driving home, you can use Teams in your car. Miss another meeting and you'll be reprimanded."

[trailertrashgrog]

i often wish my faves were more popular but then i see how people act about popular characters and i don't wish that anymore

[trailertrashgrog]

when i posted this i didn't realize people would think i mean that people are too mean or weird about popular characters in a negative way. i was thinking about the fact that popular characters get turned into boring homogeneous sexless avatars with no edge or depth who are only allowed to be a representation of fans' personal experiences and therefore cannot do wrong without it being explained away or somehow someone else's fault because otherwise it's a personal attack upon the fan

[blondebrainpowered]

Cat paw prints in the medieval floor tiles of the 12th century CE St Peter Church in Wormleighton, England

[thememedaddy]

[thelovers-thedreamers-and-me]

also-

[ancient-string]

And also

[manicpixienitemaregirl]

Idk who OP is but yeah

[transunity]

Transphobia types and their meanings

I decided to gather the terms you can come across while browsing trans Tumblr and give their definitions, since some of them describe more or less the same thing, but through a different lens. I grouped them into "most common" (the ones I come across regularly), "less common" (the ones I see rarely).

Most common terms

Antitransmasculinity is a type of transphobia targeting features associated with transmasculinity and trans manhood. This term's usage likely changed from the original coiners' intention, since they proposed it as compatible with the TMA/TME framework.

Enbyphobia is a type of transphobia targeting features associated with nonbinariness.

Exorsexism is a type of transphobia targeting features associated with nonbinariness and intersexuality, with a focus on how such identities are seen as impossible to exist.

Transandrophobia is the way that the fear of men impacts the material reality and mental/physical health of transgender men.

Transmisandry is a type of transphobia targeting features associated with transmasculinity and trans manhood. Contrary to common misconceptions, usage of this term has a long history of opposition to the MRA understanding of misandry. However, it likely was not conceptualized as inclusive of nonbinary transmascs' experiences initially.

Transmisogyny is an intersection of transphobia and misogyny primarily targeting features associated with transfemininity and trans womanhood. Sometimes it may be defined as a type of transphobia experienced by trans women and transfems or, separately, as an intersection of transphobia and misogyny. However, it was originally coined and defined in a way that highlights both.

Less common terms

Adandrophobia/adandromisia is hatred of and discrimination against people who transition towards manhood and/or masculinity.

Agenphobia is the prejudice, discrimination or hatred directed towards agender/genderless individuals.

Angoriogyny is the systemic oppression of people who are not women, being forced, compelled, or pressured into womanhood, femininity, or the "female" reproductive role.

Antitransfemininity is a type of transphobia targeting features associated with transfemininity and trans womanhood. It may have been coined analogously with "antitransmasculinity", an early example of usage suggests parallels.

Antixeninity is a type of transphobia targeting features associated with xeninity (xenogenderness).

Isomisogyny is an intersection of transphobia and misogyny experienced by trans men and transmascs. It likely was the first ever term coined in replacement of transmisandry at some point in 2014, but I personally have not been here for long enough to be sure about that. This word used to be obscure, but recently someone put it into use again.

Misandrogyny is a type of oppression of nonbinary and gender non-conforming people that primarily manifests through denying them a place in the society.

Multigenderphobia/multigendermisia is the discrimination and erasure of multigender identities.

Transandrodia is discrimination against transmasculine people that exists on an intersection of transphobia, misogyny, and ancandry (masculinity as a vector of marginalization due to being embodied by a "wrong" type of a person). Ancandry seems like a very interesting concept.

Transandrosexism is sexism against transandrics (presumably people aligned with trans manhood/masculinity) and transmasculinity. The author proposes it as augmentation and improvement of the transandrophobia theory.

Transemasculation is the feminization, infantilization, misgendering, belittling, and overt emasculation of people in relation to their trans masculinity. This term was initially coined as congruent with the transandrophobia theory and merely describing a specific component of it, but later recoined by someone who tried to pitch it as a replacement for all other terms describing transmasculine oppression.

Transenphobia is the discrimination against trans people who do not desire to transition or transition "completely".

Transfemmephobia is a type of transphobia targeting features associated with transfemininity and trans womanhood.

Transgynephobia is bigotry directed at transfeminized individuals wherein the target of the bigotry is actively being transfeminized in a derogatory manner. The term coiner later regretted coming up with it and considered it a synonym of transmisogyny.

Transhystericism/transhysteria is discrimination, oppression, or bigotry directed at any and all trans people who possess uteri, have possessed uteri, and those who were otherwise assigned "AFAB", including intersex trans people perceived as "AFAB" and some intersex people with no claimed "AGAB" at all.

Transmascphobia is a type of transphobia targeting features associated with transmasculinity and trans manhood.

Treiphobia is hatred and bigotry against trans men, along with man-aligned and masc-aligned individuals. Likely the term did not catch on because "trei" is not a very intuitive part.

Viderephobia is the discrimination transgender and nonbinary individuals face from the differences of what society perceives their gender as and how they themselves act and present themselves.

Virilmisia is hatred of trans men based on traits of virility being perceived negatively.

Xenicphobia is a type of transphobia targeting features associated with xeninity (xenogenderness).

I have not included terms that are specific to GNC, intersex, or altersex people and not directly related to transness, as well as terms that mean a type of transphobia intersecting with a non-gendered form of bigotry. Beside that, these are all the terms I am aware of at present. If you have seen a term that's not here, feel free to suggest. I feel like putting them all together will help people discover if something they are thinking about has already been approached by someone else.

- mod Sun

[ancientson]

One thing I want to add:

Don't use enbyphobia.

The word "enby" has a history of pejorative usage against nonbinary people dating back to the mid-2010s, especially against nonbinary transmasculine people, and many nonbinary people resent its usage and do not want it applied to them.

Using a term for our oppression that includes a pejorative many aren't comfoetable with having applied to us forces us to use that language, language that has been used tk infatilize and dismiss us, when talking about our oppression.

Furthermore, frankly, the behavior of people who use that term for themselves, especially newly-out and very young nonbinary people directed at adults who have been out long enough to have had th a t term used against us, is childish, aggressive, and unreasonably hostile. I have seen these kids force other nonbinary people out of trans spaces over their insistence that enby and ONLY enby should be used to refer to our entire community. That alone is reason enough to shelve it. Communities don't choose words for themselves by silencing and excluding their own members.

[transunity]

I sympathize with your feelings and believe you should be allowed to use the terminology you're comfortable with. However, I would like to point out that you're not correct about the significance of the word "enby" for the nonbinary community as a whole.

According to the data collected by Gender Census, "enby" is in the top 10 genderqueer identity labels, with nearly 1 out of 3 of respondents identifying that way (and I am included in that count). And for the past two years, it has been more popular with respondents aged over 31 than with those 30 and under, and while its popularity with the younger demographic was having ups and downs, the amount of older people using it has been stably increasing over the years.

We had "enby" before we had "enban", "nonbin", "unbier" and other similar nouns denoting a nonbinary person, and we also had "enbyphobia" before "exorsexism" (an early example of usage suggests at least 2013). This word has reached academic use by now. This terminology provided a necessary service to our community by filling a niche before there were other options. Trying to erase it right now would go contrary to wishes of 30% of our community and lead to loss of our history.

To be frank, I do not think there exists a singular more or less known queer label that would not have some bad background with queer people trying to bully each other in or out of it. We have the bi/pan discourse, the "is queer a slur" discourse, the artist behind the nonbinary flag made it due to desire to steer nonbinary people away from the genderqueer identity, there is a trend to force nonbinary people under transfeminine/transmasculine based on their AGAB. I believe that, while this kind of behavior needs to be opposed, it does not mean all the labels affected by it need to be put out of use or approached with more caution than we give to regular, non-queer terminology. If we can tactfully handle the topic of misogyny being experienced by people who do not identify as women, we can also, perhaps, separate the concept of enbyphobia from the enby identity.

None of it means you need to identify with words you dislike or personally describe your oppression with these words. There are, as I pointed out, words like "exorsexism" or "misandgrogyny". I also posted some nouns I found that may be used for a nonbinary person. I simply don't think you can make this kind of a decision for the genderqueer/nonbinary community as a whole.

- mod Sun

[ancientson]

I don't actually care if other people, most of whom haven't been out as long as that term has been around, like it for themselves. They can call themselves enbies, but they don't get to decide for the rest of us how we discuss our oppression. I and other nonbinary people who were actually out 10+ years ago when it first emerged remember how it was used against us, and I've seen a lot of children outright bully people out of nonbinary spaces, usually teenagers bullying 30+ year olds, simply for expressing discomfort with it on multiple occasions. The level of vitriol against a polite "Please don't call me that" is astonishing, and you'd think they'd called these kids slurs. Not even asking not to use it for themselves. Just saying, "You can call yourself that, but please don't call me that; it's been used to infantilize me in the past." Again, I've seen this happen in like five different communities across three different social media platforms.

Also, last I checked, 30% is less than 70%, and you're making a huge and erroneous assumption when you imply that the 30% all agree with calling it enbyphobia. They don't. A lot just like that identifier for themselves but don't use it for the whole community. I've also encountered people who do call themselves enbies who agree that it is NOT an umbrella term or a proper term for our oppression; for example, I remember a transfem, who liked the term because it made them feel cutesy and they had never gotten to feel cutesy in their girlhood because of transmisogyny, who was also bullied relentlessly by a gaggle of college freshmen for saying they remembered it being used to infantilize people and that while they liked it for themself, they didn't think it should be universal.

What you believe is that I and people like me do not deserve to have our oppression talked about without insult. We deserve to be forced to choose between giving ground to our oppressors with the language we use or risk going unheard and unlistened to because change would be inconvenient.

You don't think that actual, existing, affected nonbinary people deserve to argue against the use of a hurtful term, but you DO think that the childish bullies who actively force us out of our own communities for asking for more inclusive terminology to be used should be the ones who get to make this decision for the community as a whole.

You do not speak for the nonbinary community as a whole. You do not speak for me. Especially when you appear incapable of doing so without using language that has never been and never will be inclusive.

Don't try to force and normalize a term that has never been universally used agreed upon for all of us just because you were four years old and not out yet when the rest of us were being infantilized and told we weren't really trans by the transmedicalists you claim to oppose. You know alternatives. Exorsexism is the one I see used much more often than enbyphobia. Enbyphobia is a term used by kids who don't know their community's history or respect their nonbinary elders.

[transunity]

That's a lot of assumptions about my past with the nonbinary community and amount of experience with my identity. I don't think this conversation will go anywhere.

- mod Sun

[moniquill]

[juju-fisher]

First the avocado toast, now the rotisserie chicken... When we will we learn?

[jediplinth]

Lazy enragement headline writing. This is exactly the type of headline that for me makes we want to read the main article NOT AT ALL.

Here's why - Costco sells rotisserie chickens as a loss leader. They're $5 which is substantially less than the cost of the chicken itself, however, with some care and planning that chicken can be used to make 3 to 4 meals that will feed 3 people. Here are things I do with one chicken:

pull the meat and separate light from dark. Put the skin and the carcass and put into an instant pot with leftover wilty vegetables, bay leaf, and peppercorns and make chicken broth.

Use 1/2 the light meat for a protein in a salad

Use the other half of the light meat in either a stir fry or in filling for crepes or enchiladas. There usually enough leftovers to make at least one or two lunches.

Use the dark meat and chicken broth in soup or making chicken pot pie. There is usually enough leftovers to make two lunches.

I am not kidding when I say that the each of those meals is filling and delicious and costs well under $5 a serving.

This is called being frugal where you're not necessarily cheap, you're just not wasting anything.

So the headline is written to either enrage people and make clickbait or to generate "LULZ those poors can't afford things because they're (checks notes) eating".

As a side note, a bag of avocados at Costco is also a loss leader at $0.75 per avocado. Don't believe me? My local grocery store sells avocados at $1.50 each when they're on SALE. It's, frankly, a good deal. Two pieces of bread, one avocado and some pepper or "everything but the bagel" seasoning and you've got a pretty damn good, filling breakfast.

Here is part of a meal I made for my family: coronation chicken - which is a chicken salad made with chicken breast meat, mayo, yogurt, apricot jam, curry, and almonds.

Here is a video about turning a whole chicken into high end chicken broth (he uses the entire chicken, but TBH you can use just the carcass and skin and end up with very good broth):

Even if you use the whole chicken, his recipe will make several quarts of amazing broth that ends up costing way less than grocery store broth. Even with just the carcass and skin, this makes better broth than store bought. And it freezes well. To freeze broth, after it's cooled, you can portion it into silicone muffin pans. When frozen, pop them out into put them into an air tight freezer bag. The silicone is to make it easier to remove and the reason for the using them is that each cavity is usually 1/2 C so you're preportioning. Need 2C of broth? Grab 4 pucks. Also, the puck form factor melts reasonably quickly.

Here is a recipe for savory crepes that use chicken:

With regards to the crepes, if you understand the basics of cooking, this recipe comes down to: crepes filled with chicken and gruyere topped with a mornay sauce. Now a traditional mornay sauce is made with gruyere, which is expensive, but you can substitute so many other cheeses that will work just fine, like cheddar, havarti, jack, or gouda.

If you watch Jean-Pierre's videos, he's doing very traditional French cooking, but he's simplifying a lot of the steps to make things more approachable. What he's omitting are the things that you might do in a restaurant when you have the resources to dedicate to them in prep because you're going to make dozens of servings. At the same time, he injects a bunch of hacks that really smart. For example, if you don't have home made beef stock on hand (which, like the above chicken broth is far, far, better than store bought), he shows how you can make it better by adding tomato paste. He doesn't explain why this works, but its actually really simple: tomatoes are rich in glutamates and store bought beef broth is heavily salted. When you mix the two, the tomato past thickens the broth and gives it more body and the salt in the broth and the glutamates make (tada) monosodium glutamate - instant umami. And no, MSG is not a bad thing in reasonable quantity.

tl;dr - the economy is fucked and the wall street journal is writing clickbait and fuck them because with some planning, you can use some knowledge to eat in a way that's healthy and frugal.

[this-is-weird-behavior]

i really do not think it can be overstated how much hatred against trans men on this site is driven by people finding trans men Just Kind Of Annoying. people have pipelined themselves into posting on the daily about how tmes should be raped to death because 6 years ago a teenage trans boy was somewhat overexuberant on a fandom post, and other such minor irritations. finding someone (and therefore their entire segment of the population) Just Kind Of Annoying is a direct line, especially on the internet, to completely unpersoning them. nothing one of those people ever says or does should be taken seriously, even if it's a matter of life and death. because they were kind of annoying :/

[this-is-weird-behavior]

hang on yeah i want to talk more about this ^ specifically. been seeing people here discuss the phenomenon of the fascist "right to comfort" mostly in terms of people not wanting to have uncomfortable conversations or not wanting to be exposed to topics that are harmless but make them feel weird. and cringe culture is very much an extension of that perceived right to comfort. if you cannot extend your tolerance to someone who is really fucking annoying, not to be best friends with them or anything, but just to protect their basic rights and dignity, you lack principles. point blank. you need to build a bulwark of values that prioritize autonomy and dignity for everyone and it needs to be strong enough to weather the most irritating person you know, or else you will also inevitably become a fascist or part of the fascists' body count.

[captain-price-returns]

The difference between "There used to be hot summers too,” and a climate crisis.

[penandinkprincess]

"cooking with heat is the breakthrough technology" is a phrase that made me fucking CACKLE

[gandalfsbignaturals]

learning to notice an absence of people of color is crazy. you start seeing it everywhere. ill see a random pic of characters or people or whatever and be like "these are all white people. why"

[gandalfsbignaturals]

all the babies in those baby youtube video memes. humanized character posts. like. its the little innocent shit. and like, the people making those baby memes probably arent seeking out white babies. maybe theyre just easier to find. but why are they easier to find? a complicated question, surely... but you know what it probably comes down to. someone, somewhere, maybe a lot of someones in a lot of places, made a choice. maybe knowingly, maybe not. but they made a choice. it starts to make you feel like a conspiracy theorist!!

[gandalfsbignaturals]

its really funny that after 2 months this post is still making racists come into my askbox treating me like im a horrible person for pointing out that sometimes people of color are excluded from things in visible and offputting ways. cry about it

[flightrising]

It's August and that means the return of Warrior's Way!

Warrior's Way is a battle-themed event calling for warriors, smiths, armorers, and other ferocious creatures to prove their metal and their mettle! What are you waiting for? Let's go!

[burning-gray-mon]

My dearest fellow trans men and mascs you need to realise that you do not need to diminish yourselves to make others feel better.

[anti-transmisogyny-hub]

A moment of silence to the trans women & transfems who never got to live authentically.

(PT: A moment of silence to the trans women & transfems who never got to live authentically. /end PT.)

To the ones who spent their entire lives in the closet.

To the ones who were out, but existed before the time of modern silence, and spent their lives unsatisfied yearning for a physical transition.

To the ones who were out, but too poor to access the resources needed to live happily, or lived in a country where it was illegal.

To the ones whose lives were stolen from them due to transmisogynistic violence before they had the chance to spread their wings.

To the ones whose lives were lost due to other forms of violence, accidents, or illness before they had the chance to soar.

To the ones who never felt safe enough or hated themself too much to accept their transness, and died in denial of who they were.