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Today’s episode: EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE!

Self-control, persistence, self-motivation are just a few characteristics of those who have emotional intelligence. It consists of a psychological concept that analyzes the human being's ability to deal with one's own emotions and with the feelings of others.

To achieve emotional intelligence, there must be a balance between the areas present in the two hemispheres of the brain, the right and the left.

Emotional intelligence is able to accept different aspects of life, such as:

- Work performance:

It has greater control over the factors of motivation, leadership, interpersonal relationships, conflict resolution and problem solving;

- Physical health:

The lack of emotional control contributes to increased blood pressure, infertility and immune system problems, so well-resolved emotions can YES prevent physical health problems;

- Mental health:

Anxiety, depression, panic syndrome are just some emotional disorders that manifest when there is no monitoring of emotions;

- Interpersonal relationships:

Emotionally intelligent people can better understand and express feelings, which contributes to building stronger relationships.

Before we talk about how to develop emotional intelligence, it is IMPORTANT to know that this is not about always being well or happy, because that is impossible. We human beings have a very large amount of emotions and they are very complex, the true meaning of emotional intelligence is not NOT TO FEEL but knowing how to deal with what you feel.

Tips on how you can improve your emotional intelligence:

- THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU’RE FEELING:

There are times when we totally shake and lose control of our emotions. It is very important to do a self-assessment, like, why do I feel this way, what was the thought that I had to react in this way. The deeper you go into assessing your emotions through questioning, the more you will discover about yourself.

- INCREASE YOUR KNOWLEDGE ABOUT EMOTIONS:

That's right! Of course, the ideal is ALWAYS to have a psychological follow-up from a professional. However, in life, we walk with our own legs and we need to know how to express our emotions. The problem is that most of the time, we know almost nothing about emotions. So how are we going to express ourselves? Read, research, study about emotions, seek help from a professional who can help you on this journey. The more you dedicate yourself, the greater your results and the faster you will be talking much more easily about how you feel.

- PRIORITIZE YOUR EMOTIONAL:

Don't leave a situation to solve for later, if something bothered you, express yourself. If you're angry, show it, if you're sad, cry, and if you felt bothered by something COMPLAIN! Don't keep the feelings to yourself, it will become a snowball and will be much harder to resolve later.

- EVERYTHING IS A PROCESS:

No matter where you are, and where you want to go with your emotional intelligence, perhaps this is the theme that most covers the other themes of this journey of self-knowledge. And just like this program, emotional intelligence is also a journey! Everything you go through during this journey was responsible for building what you will become, so DON'T BE AFRAID to strengthen your emotional as much as to know yourself!

I wish everyone who read this post a great journey! 🤍

Ps: Don't forget to comment here, how you're doing and what you're feeling today. We are willing to listen and support! ☺️

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Today’s episode: SUPPORT IN DIFFICULT SITUATIONS!!

As we are in a material world, we experience loss, the loss of matter, which can be a person, your pet, moments, memories, or even some object, such as that T-shirt you like so much or that crockery that has been passed down from generation to generation in your family. All this causes us a feeling of grief, in its due proportions of course, but the essence is the same. As we are very vulnerable to this and it is known that loss is inevitable for all of us, the important thing is to let go and not get attached to what has been lost. But how??? If it's hard enough to comfort someone who has gone through this, how can we face such a situation?

First of all, it's important for you to know that it's not possible to ignore this phase of loss, we just have to go through it as best we can. Everyone reacts to grief differently, it will always leave some mark, this is inevitable. However, many times this wound can be very deep, causing some to be unable to move forward and get stuck in this atmosphere.

Before knowing how to go through grief in the least traumatic way possible, let's understand how we can comfort others who go through this phase. There are no words! Your presence is enough, show yourself willing to help with anything, when someone is grieving, she needs people, she can't feel alone, listen to what she has to say, about how she feels, let her vent, let her cry, this is all part of the cleaning. Tell him you're there with him, show him that there's no problem that he's vulnerable, show him that you CARE. In no way tell the person to calm down or anything, try to be safe and strong (if the loss doesn't affect you directly), this person needs to feel safe and welcomed.

Important steps if YOU are grieving:

- SAYING GOODBYE

If you feel that someone special is leaving, tell that person everything you feel, be grateful for all the moments you've spent together, regardless of what they've done to you. Not only will she leave in peace, you'll feel complete for not letting this opportunity pass you by and avoid feeling remorse and regret. Sincerity, forgiveness and gratitude will help you to let go.

- BACK TO THE BODY

The first support and resource to energize your body is the earth, grounding yourself will help calm your mind making it present in your body, restoring your internal balance. This can be done by walking on the grass barefoot, on the sand on the beach, and also by lying on the ground.

- PRAY

Regardless of your religion or if you don't have one, praying is nothing more than sending the energy of unconditional love to those who are gone. Make sure she/he gets it! Regardless of where it is in space-time.

- ALLOW YOURSELF TO FEEL

It's important not to internalize grief, in addition to becoming something unresolved, the pain and weight will be much bigger. The grief passage consists of five stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. It is necessary to go through each stage, it is also always good to have a follow-up by a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist.

- DISTRACT YOURSELF

It's great to reorganize your routine, trying things you've always wanted to do, keeping your mind and body active is very important. Maybe, learn new skills, discover hobbies, redecorate the environment, get rid of things, change your look, any activity that brings you pleasure and happiness.

- LAUGHTER

The best medicine for your health in these dark times is to laugh. Remember the funniest moments you witnessed with the loved one who passed away, and also, try to surround yourself more with humor and joy.

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✨Hello everyone!! I know I've been away for a while. But next week, the journey of self-knowledge series will continue!! There will be fresh posts every day! So stay tuned! 💫🤍

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Today’s episode: THE INNER CHILD

To understand the child that lives inside you it is necessary to have an understanding of the states of inner child, parents and adult.

Inner child: it is the state that begins to consolidate in the mind of a child between 4-8 years old, it is responsible for the formation of the individual's character, his preferences, personality, creativity and curiosity.

Parents: it is the state that puts into practice the information received during its creation, (when it was just a child). That is, your way of seeing the world and society, applying your values and teachings, showing your character and morals. The main messages of the Parents state are, I have to, don't be stupid, it's necessary, you can't do that.

Adult: is the state in which the mind is most peaceful, because it has the ability to interpret reality based on its own expectations and observations. When an individual becomes a calm and self-knowledged adult, he develops skills to make quick decisions and behave appropriately with himself and others.

The inner child is a part of our mind that is unconscious, it is where we carry our unmet needs as a child, and repressed emotions in childhood. It is the part that manifests itself in us and whose experiences have not yet "did gone". Often, we still see our world through the eyes of a child.

We all have an inner child, for some people it is very difficult to get in touch with him, because he may have experienced traumatic moments during childhood.

The relationship we had with our parents and the world in our childhood shapes every relationship we have in adulthood. As children we should learn to express ourselves, saying how we feel. We need and want to be seen and heard by our parents, but unfortunately a large majority of us were born to parents who carry their own unresolved traumas, inherited from their own parents. Thus, it is also difficult for them to know how to regulate their own emotions and therefore cannot cope well with ours.

As children, we seek to adapt to this reality, and for this we seek to please our parents, aiming to become what they expect us to be.

The most common causes that manifest themselves of an injured inner child are:

-Low self-esteem

-Distorted body image

-Fear of criticism

-Resistance to change

-Deep fear of abandonment in relationships

-Fear or shame to express oneself in some situations

-Tendency to wait for other people to speak first to know what is "right" to do or say, or how to position themselves

-Put themselves in situations where they try to help or "save" someone

-Difficulty saying no

-Feel responsible for the emotions of others

To help in the way of healing your injured inner child, the best thing to do first is to seek help from a professional. As much as this is a process of self-healing and acceptance, the ideal is always to have a follow-up of a specialist, who can guide and clarify this path.

But the first steps you can take to start your healing process are:

-Understand why every emotion and feeling, when you are displaced from yourself and feel that you are acting in a way that does not correspond to your true self!

-Writing down your feelings, having a diary to document this process makes you understand more easily and faster what are the blocks and wounds of your inner child

- Create a safe place for your inner child. It can be a cozy place, a park or any place where she can be welcomed and make herself feel safe

- Another way to welcome yourself is to perform tasks you liked very much in childhood, such as watching your favorite movie, listening to a song that reminds you of that time, playing football, drawing, swimming in the sea, any activity that refers to your childhood.

Book recommendation: The Little Prince (author- Antoine de Saint-Exupéry)

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Today’s episode: SHADOW

Persona means everything we like about ourselves and what is positive about us. Everything that does not fit into our persona belongs to our shadow as emotions or characteristics that we do not like about ourselves.

When connecting with primitive thoughts "thinking with the reptilian side of the brain" is a way of expressing our shadow side.

Shadows are formed along with the personality of the individual, from there, they are shaped through standards imposed by society, also by those that are told to us about what we can and cannot do. We feed the shadow through the information we receive from the movies we watch, the books we read or even with whom we communicate, this creates a limit on what we can and cannot do.

The shadow is natural to everyone, both sides "shadow and persona" are part of our identity.

There is a lot of energy on the shadow side, which is why we cannot silence that side, suffocate its manifestation, because by doing so at a time it will explode, and probably your reaction will be wrong and impulsive and may even discharge all this energy on someone who is not related to the situation. After the storm you will feel sorry for what you did.

When you accept the shadow side you learn how to deal with these impulses, using anger, aggression and fury in your favor, transforming them into motivation and energy to move forward.

When we come face to face with our shadow, the best thing to do is to accept these feelings and not judge or criticize yourself, ask yourself why I feel that way? What am I missing? To better understand its two sides, you can divide a paper into two parts and write its manifestations on the persona side and shadow side.

It is impossible to get rid of the shadow side, if we try to do this we are not being honest with ourselves and those around us.

Accepting your shadow means being your true SELF.

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Today’s episode: BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELF!

Today I am releasing a series of posts about self-knowledge. To start this journey, the first post will be about inner honesty!

Being honest with yourself is the first step to progress, when you assume and accept the current situation you find yourself in, it becomes much easier to identify mistakes and correct them. You need to know where you are to know where you want to go.

When nothing is hidden from yourself you end self-sabotage and become more responsible, which causes you to stop blaming others for your failure. An awareness is created that everything depends on you, no one will do anything for you, only YOU have the power to transform yourself and also transform your life! An honest person is not afraid to be who he/she is, no longer submits to doing things he/she does not like, much less admits to being mistreated or behaving as others want!

1- The first step to becoming more honest with yourself is to accept yourself as imperfect. The most unhappy people are those who try to be perfect for others, and end up losing their own essence.

2- Act with confidence in your internal perception instead of acting according to the expectation and opinion of others. When you have honesty, you no longer need to prove to others that you are correct or be afraid of the public opinion.

3- Say NO! Focus your energy on what is really worth and what is of interest to you!

4- Listen to yourself and be more observant. Writing your emotions and thoughts daily also helps!

5- Forgive yourself and others

6- Join conversations in help groups! Social communication is very important, especially nowadays when people feel disconnected from others. Social contact decreases stress and anxiety and increases self-esteem, confidence, motivation and guess what?! HONESTY with you and with others. I recommend looking for a support group in which you feel comfortable and safe to exchange ideas and experiences!

Honesty is the essential element to be who you really are!

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Meditation 🧘🏻‍♀️ X Social Media 📱

1- Meditation: you bring out your feelings and are aware of them

Social Media: you hide your feelings because it's easier not to deal with what hurts you

2- Meditation: you learn to accept how you feel and allow yourself to feel it

Social Media: there is an obscure pressure that you should be a machine in which you will only be accepted if you are perfect in every way including feelings

3- Meditation: one minute equals one hour

Social Media: One hour equals one minute

4- Meditation: so boring is stimulating

Social Media: so stimulating is boring

5- Meditation: you find yourself

Social Media: you get lost

6- Meditation: you become grateful and happy for who you are and what you have

Social Media: you become ungrateful and unhappy for who you are not, and for what you do not have

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Hello guys!!

The EKADASHI 🇮🇳🧘🏻‍♀️

In a time of so much instability, the best thing to do is to internalize and reflect with ourselves. Today is a very special day, Ekadashi means 'eleven' from Sanskrit, it is the eleventh day of the full moon and new moon that happens twice a month. Between January 12/13 and 27/28, remembering that the day may change depending on the location, and today is even more special because it is the first Ekadashi of the year! This unique moment when the moon is as close to earth is ideal for doing an energetic cleansing, reconnecting with your soul and universe and getting rid of negative energies. It is known to be the oldest fasting practice in the world, it starts at sunrise and focuses on spirituality, they are divided into three levels:

-The first is the one that is allowed a meal after 4 p.m. until sunset, but only a few foods are allowed *at the end of the post I will leave a list of allowed and not allowed foods

-The second is one that no food is eaten but only water is allowed.

-The third and the most restricted does not allow any type of food or liquids, it is better known as a dry fast.

Remembering that Ekadashi focuses on spirituality, take the day off to do an energetic cleaning of incense environments, do several meditations throughout the day and if possible try to connect with nature!

List of foods allowed in Ekadashi

Water, fresh and squeezed juices at the time of consumption, fruits and vegetables (except those prohibited) nuts, dried fruits, dairy, olive oil, black pepper, ginger, salt, potatoes and roots, brown sugar, milk, ginger and saffron.

List of foods not allowed in Ekadashi

Meat, fish, seafood, eggs, legumes, honey, coffee, sweets in general, caramel, eggplant, beetroot, tomato, onion, garlic, cabbage, broccoli, corn and mushrooms.

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Only I think this water tastes like shit?! 🙁

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After seeking professional help I realized how blocked I was, and what were the situations that led me to get to that situation. I was a jaguar stuck on a collar, and people did what they wanted with me, I was a trained jaguar, all that potential that energy that was my essence as a person was stuck to iron chains by blockages of the past, from when I was a child. However, the beast has freed itself and now without chains, without a collar I can and will be whoever I want. Now I make plans for my future, I managed to be HAPPY. Honestly, there are thousands of things that are said to be responsible for bringing happiness, but for me the genuine feeling of being happy and much more is that you DO NOT CALL WHAT OTHERS THINK AND BE YOU!! This is the most liberating thing in life I finally felt really free and it brought many other positive things! From that moment of rebirth, I realized several things about life that we all knew before but now I was FEELING and seeing it happen. Among all the things that most marked me and made me grow and be FREER IS STILL that no one will be there for you. And it's the purest truth, do what has to be done and when you learn to master yourself, be the commander of the machine itself, it's liberating, and you're reborn again. However, this is not possible if you are trying to be someone else! I learned that during life you need to be reborn several times to be able to take the reins of your life and assume who you are to the world and is one of the most difficult things, but when you have this taste, you will NEVER want to go back, and it will be very sad to find people who were like you, trying to be someone else. And that's why you MUST help those who first, want to be helped, and who are in the same situation as you were, because you've already got out of the hole. That's why I decided to share my story, for those who are in the hole but want to leave, and now you have a ladder and an outstretched hand to help you. No matter what you're going through, comment here on your story and we'll go up together, destined for life.

This page is not intended to portray bad times, I tried to summarize what happened to me in two posts just to show readers who are in the same situation that I was, that is possible! and that you can do it!! This page is a safe place for when you need help getting back to life! 🦋

A song to help you get energized!!

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How many times I lost myself and worst than that do not believe In myself anymore. I don’t really had a perspective in life…. What am I going to do with my future and present, well It doesn’t really mattered. To me anything was OK , live an ordinary life, have no dreams, no ambition just letting the time taking my life away, and then well… I got in a stage that nothing had taste, color or emotion and then I entered the beginning of a very subtle and even imperceptible depression but deep down I KNEW something was wrong with me, something bothered me a lot. In addition to my mental health being destroyed, my health was going from bad to worse and that was another reason for me to "wake up" from that delirium and realize where I was. The worst part about you being in a dark hole is that you never know how deep you are, we are not clear about what is happening to us. But something came up in me, a blind anger, well…. I understood that I had reached that stage for some situations that had happened to me and everything was fine, but from that moment on I had two choices to continue where I was and aggravate the situation or seek help! I appreciate that feeling of anger and nonconformity in which I thought "life can't boil down to that, I don't accept it" so I sought professional help and it was definitely the best thing I could have done.

Sorry for this gigantic post but I would like to share how my transformation went, I want to help people who are where I was and help move on, tomorrow in the next post I'll tell you part 2!

This is a song I used to listen to when I was in the hole

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One day I'll say good morning to you guys from a place like this.

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Hi there! Not gonna lie that I definitely don’t know what to say in my first post…. I even don’t know what is the purpose of this account. Well what I know is that sometimes I will just say some random shits… just thoughts at first BUT I’ll be pretty happy if I could help someone anonymously if possible! 🦉🤍