Waiting in silence

[only-cat-memes]

[dykeselfcest]

idk thinking about how sometimes you have to show up for people you aren't that close to, because sometimes you're just the person who's there. sometimes you invite a new friend to a party and end up having to sit with them through a panic attack. sometimes you run into an acquaintance on their worst day and they need to talk about what happened. sometimes someone is crying in a stairwell and you're the only one around to ask if they're okay. and none of this is "trauma dumping" or whatever the fuck it's just being there for people because you're the one in the room with them.

[look-something-shiny-redux]

My then-coworker was pregnant with her second child. One day she mentioned being terrified she'd go into labor at three in the morning and no one would be available to take care of her toddler while she went to the hospital.

"I know it's stupid," she said, "but I can't stop thinking about it."

"Call me if that happens, " I said, because we lived 15 minutes away from each other. "I'll run over and watch her until her grandparents get there."

And I didn't think too much of it at the time, but after my coworker came back from maternity leave she told me that this conversation, where some girl from work promised to give up a couple hours of sleep if her family had an emergency, was the reason she was able to sleep at night for the rest of the pregnancy.

[the-real-seebs]

What's interesting about this is that you didn't actually get called, and you didn't have to run anywhere at 3AM. You just had to be willing to if it happened.

So often, it's not even that you have to do anything; you just have to make it clear that if you would if it became necessary.

[idhren]

So often, it's not even that you have to do anything; you just have to make it clear that if you would if it became necessary.

[thetolkiengeek]

Okay but also sometimes you do have to do it. The important thing is that people know it’s not an empty promise. You WILL show up.

I think this is very much connected to the chronically online attitude of “my friend asking me to pick them up from the airport is inappropriate”. Sometimes you have to inconvenience yourself to help someone else because it’s the right thing to do.

[kaiparker]

Lucifer Morningstar + sass (requested by anon)

[radiqueer]

Human relationships are not transactional but they are reciprocal, which I think many of you with your ‘i don’t owe anyone anything’ shtick are too happy to forget

[aromanticduck]

Transactional: everything has to be exactly 50/50 all the time, pay me back for the £5 sandwich or buy me something worth exactly £5, I refuse to make an effort for you if there’s nothing in it for me

Reciprocal: you were there for me when I needed help, and I’m going to do the same for you, it doesn’t matter if one of us needs more or is capable of less, because the point is not equivalent exchange but mutual care

[doortotomorrow]

clois + clark carrying lois

[violet-bridgerton]

Clark Kent and Lois Lane. Who knew?

I did.

[alukardtheabysswalker]

"You're so fucking crazy!...omg you ARE my girl 😍❣️💕💞"

[dakynai]

[jorongbak]

Saw this and I couldn't not draw this stupid piece.

That's probably how Vegeta found out why Goku doesn't know anything about Saiyans : intended as an insult but got "well yeah, you're actually right" as a response

[shadowseductress]

i want to be loved correctly or left alone

[kosmogrl]

[mothpines]

I love tumblr because you can see someone get obsessed with a thing in real time

[tattoosingarishhues]

[aidashakur]

[velvetvexations]

[oneheadtoanother]

[tall]

[crimsolyn]

I think the purest form of love is just wanting someone to notice life with you. "taste this. look at that. hear this song." again and again. until you can't imagine noticing life without them.