I feel there has been a reversal of comptop in some circles of theyfabs/TME lesbians or what have you who have sort of like. Become obsessed with topping/domming trans women and treating it as morally pure, when it’s a similar sexual objectification and denial of agency as comptop, just overcorrected in the other direction. Much like the people who read Fucking Trans Women and treat it as a bible or treatise on how to acquire a transgender sex doll girlfriend, it sort of denies sexual agency to trans women and relegates them/us to being toys for you. I have no doubt these people are talking to their partners about their wants and needs, but these attitudes about the moral purity of one way of having sex with a tranny -and let’s be honest that’s what you think of us- are proof to me that those wants and needs are either going ignored or don’t come out in the first place because your partner doesn’t feel safe expressing them. If your response to comptop is “oh well I fuck my girlfriend, I don’t make her fuck me” and not “I have honest and open communication with my girlfriend about her desires and ensure that she feels safe enough to express them in entirety” then you should not be having sex with trans women in the first place and are, in truth, a chaser
To elaborate on what spawned this post. The sexual politics of the average lesbian tiktok user who is willing to grace transgender women with their touch are uh. Rather dire!
Related but the current discourse of the week over there is wether a “crypto” terf should be discounted when talking about feminism, and the cisbian and theyfab brigade are now litigating if calling someone a terf amounts to censure. But they’ll let their trans sex dolls bottom so who can say.
Also for posterity the transmasc butch lesbian this post was initially spawned by in particular turns out to know the word transmisogyny and has proven to not be an idiot. TikTok commenters however are not legally recognized as people
