idk what to put here

23 year old bi grill constantly having an extisential crisis. Inconsistent posting is gonna happen gamers.

[robofucked]

i wish you didn't treat real human being as if they were just one dimensional side characters who only exist to prop up your life. That's the most painful thing about you.

[sarahpxige]

“People have to pretend you’re a bad person so they don’t feel guilty about the things they did to you.”

— Anonymous

[yourhealingjournal]

you dont have to stay for people who are hellbent on misunderstanding you. yes, even if they’re “good people”.

[lohver]

sometimes people pretend you’re a bad person so they don’t feel guilty for the things they did to you

[itsallenergy]

I think one of the hardest parts about releasing a friendship that no longer serves you is when they perceive themselves as the good one.

This isn't high school anymore. There isn't a good guy or a bad guy. There aren't sides. Mutual friends shouldn't have to pick. Just because you were a shit friend to me doesn't mean you're a shit friend to everyone. It's hard for me to imagine you being a good friend to anyone, but that's not up for me to decide.

And that's the toughest part for me. Because I grew up. I know all of this. And none of my released friends have. They think they have. They have this bizarre perception of the person that I am. And I've tried to find the signs. I've tried to prove them right simply because I thought maybe they know me better than I know myself.

And then it hit me. It's not that I'm the problem. It's not that I am the horrible person that they made me out to be. It's that I befriended them in a period of my life when I was desperate for friends. They recycle friends constantly. They find a problem and they blow it up.

The biggest realization for me was that they can think whatever they want. I know the truth and I have some amazing friends. They were just life suckers and I'm better without that energy.

[naturaekos]

“Care about people’s approval and you will be their prisoner.”

—

[bakwaaas]

You gotta understand that some people never really grow. They never learn their lesson. They never recognise their mistakes, they never acknowledge their faults, they never admit they were in the wrong. You will never receive an apology from them, and you will never see their behaviour change.

[lohver]

you’re not selfish for wanting to be treated well.

[n-oturbab-y]

Rewatching Bojack Horseman is a different kind of self sabotage. They did a great job at making Bojack both the victim and the perpetrator. It’s kind of like having a toxic parent. You feel bad for them because you know what they went through and you just want the best for them. For them to get better. To be better. But at some point you realize that isn’t an excuse for them. It’s like this aha moment where you kind of say to yourself, “Oh. Terrible things have happened to me too. But I haven’t been terrible to others.” And it’s a heartbreaking moment because you realize how easy it is to be kind and you can’t help but wonder why they’re taking the hard route. Bojack Horseman went through horrible things and he’s also a horrible person. Even so, you find yourself rooting for him. Because you see all that potential and by the time he really tries to be better, the show ends. It’s like in real life when you want the best for someone but they hurt you so much you can’t stick around and wait for the best to happen. This show about this alcoholic horse was probably the most human thing I’ve ever seen.

[shitivelearned]

Some people don't care about hearing the truth or how you were impacted by something they did because they were looking for any reaction you'd give to be a scapegoat for a narrative about you they've already decided is true. Try to explain your perspective? Pushy and overstepping. Apply logic and reason? Harsh and unempathetic. Defend your boundaries? Narcissistic and egotistical. Don't focus energy into people that are dedicated to intentionally misinterpreting you.

[fuckedupguybutchill]

I just know that if I started treating you the way you're treating me rn, you'd be really hurt.

[selfhealingmoments]

[deartoxicfriend]

“When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. This misinformation will feel unfair, but stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth just like you did.”

— Anonymous (via forsakenswallow)

[vijara]

look: the right people will get it. the right people will see you and appreciate you for the person that you are. the right people won’t require you to dilute, censor, or edit yourself in order to be worthy of their time and affection. you don’t need to waste your time on people who are committed to misunderstanding you 

[thecelibateshoewhore]

❗️❗️❗️

[selfhealingmoments]

[sorenkierkeggard]