Call me rott. This is my mental health sideblog where I rb posts relating to skills I learn in dbt. I also rb posts about Palestine and other mental health related topics. Please don’t interact if you are a minor.
I have autism, adhd, depression, anxiety, and ocd. Currently in talk-therapy, but I don’t know how effective it is.
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I’m not great at tw content, but I do try to tag relevant content. I do talk about mental health struggles, specifically with ocd and past memories.
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autism
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rott.personal - posts that i make
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free Palestine - tag can include graphic imagry and descriptions.
identifying a maladaptive coping mechanism is so bitter sweet like that’s great now i know what i need to stop doing. but that’s literally my something
edit: huh i didn't expect this to get more than like 3 reblogs. should i write up how i found/developed/boiled down these reminders?
edit 2: ok here's the process
tbh i would not recommend anyone use this one as i made it specifically for myself, it contains a lot of unexplained references, and i totally discounted a lot of other tips bc they were not super applicable to me while they might be to you.
i would recommend making a fully personalized set of reminders yourself. here's how:
1. think constantly about unmasking, have no idea how to do so because you don't know who you are unmasked, and come across basically no tangible, executable advice on the matter
2. watch this video and this video
3. while you watch them, pause at every item, write it down, and write down your initial thoughts on whether you feel like it applies to you, how so, and whether you feel like it's worth doing something about. the videos covers a lot, which is overwhelming but ultimately a good thing. there's something for everyone but there is also perspective to be gained from the things that don't resonate with you. but i'll let you have those epiphanies urself.
4. write any other things you think of that are not in the videos as you go. anything you think of. even if it feels like bullshit. or embarrassing. or childish. write it down.
5. once you take notes, you will find that many of the video items do not resonate with you. cover them up in some way. but do not discard them.
6. now you have eliminated the chaff and you are left with the wheat. it is likely that many of your wheat items will be basically the same thing phrased in slightly different ways. identify those. start a document. now you will make your own list. write down the items that do not overlap with others. combine the ones that are saying the same thing into one summarized item. add the thoughts of your own from earlier, summarize if needed.
7. forget about this project for several months
8. return to it and review the items you initially discounted. find that your perspective has shifted somewhat over time and one or two of these actually does have merit for you. add them to your list.
9. look at your list. you now need to categorize them somehow. experiment with different groupings of item. see how they seem to fit together. i initially tried situation based: at home/at work/out but didn't feel that many of my items were limited to just one. the categories seen in the graphic ended up working for me. you may find something else that will work for you.
10. [optional] after you have categorized, turn every item into the most succinct phrase that you possibly can. ex. on paper, i had 'kill the imaginary audience: rotate blorbos/stop, where are your hands.' i know exactly what this means. nobody needs to understand it but you.
11. decide how you want to arrange it. could be just notes on a page, could be notes with mini doodles, could be a full graphic. mine went through all those stages.
sorry but i don't really get the point of trying to frame 'morality ocd' as a fixation apart from the drive for social inclusion when if you listen to someone talk about their scrupulosity for .5 seconds it's basically invariably related to fear of ostracisation (& often but not always in the context of religious rules). it's like when people try to frame 'rejection sensitive dysphoria' like unique adhd brain chemistry and not the result of being excluded for being weird and annoying, or like conceiving of restrictive eating as a kind of asocial food fear with no relation to the systems of punishment for fatness... like, these are specific terrains of doubt & guilt for reasons. im not saying it magically solves your problem if you analyse its causes but it definitely won't solve your problem if you're just getting told, like, obsessing is unhelpful without acknowledging what's actually at stake in any given relationship & why you're invested in other ppls moral approval of you
i should leverage my romani identity to charge a premium for tarot readings. hey who wants a tranny gypsygirl* to do a tarot spread for u for the low low price of [please whatever u can spare i need funds rn im tryna escape my current awful abusive living situation]!
(*IM ROMA. I AM ALLOWED TO RECLAIM. DO NOT CALL ME A GYPSY.)
ok couple things: yes i am genuinely willing to do tarot readings to anyone who donates to help me out. and yes i am currently in the weeds of getting the fuck out of my abusive household and on my feet. DM me for the tarot shit if youre like actually interested, and pls share this around cuz this helps not only me but my close friends and loved ones who are putting in a lot of legwork to save my ass from turbo hell. thank you <3
If, when you get your annual exam, you have a lot of discomfort and/or pain during your exam you can ask for a pediatric speculum. You don't have to 'suck it up' if it hurts, if it's distressing, if you avoid making an appointment because of it. Ask for a pediatric speculum. Not all vaginas are the same size, and you have options! Your health and comfort matters, at any stage of life. ♡
I have a bartholin cyst. I know this because I have a hard to semi-full circular lump inside my vagina right over my bartholin gland. When I press on it, sometimes it drains a little bit.
I HAVE GONE TO THE DOCTORS ON THREE SEPARATE OCCASIONS. NONE OF THEM HAVE BELIEVED ME. THEY HAVE ALL SAID IT'S A NATURAL PART OF MY VAGINA.
The last one said it was because it wasn't hard (at the time). Fine. Then explain how it can harden into a circular ball.
I have been dealing with this since before the pandemic. I have tried using hot compresses, which haven't been able to remove the sack. There's always a lump, no matter how much I press on it.
I want to specify that the US government ICE agents rapelled from Blackhawk helicopters to take over an apartment building, breaking open apartment doors in the middle of the night to drag barely-clad residents from their homes and detain everyone in UHaul trucks with the children zip-tied to each other. Regardless of citizenship.
There was too much traffic today, and an ICE agent deployed a tear gas canister in traffic in response.
