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Hi! My name is Ruby, I use She/Her, I’m 25, and I’m trans

Welcome to my main blog!

18+ cause occasionally horny on main

TERFs DNI, and feel free to trip and fall down the stairs on your way out

Mostly reblog random shitposts but occasionally do some creatives

My random thoughts will be tagged #rubyrambles

My short stories and such will be tagged #rubywrites

Answered asks will be tagged #rubyreplies

Music or game recs will be tagged #ruby’s recs

I love various video games (I’ll try to keep the list up to date with my current obsessions) - huge Guild Wars 2 nerd, heavily modded rimworld and stellaris enjoyer

Massive magic nerd who’ll talk your ear of if you let her about her silly pet interactions and commander decks

I like metal and adjacent music, but I like lots of songs from all sorts of different genres - I love when I can trade music recs!

Will shill shamelessly for Seven Spires, Brothers of Metal, Starkill, and Beyond the Black to anyone who’ll listen

Currently in the middle of Wind and Truth

#rubyrambles #rubywrites

preyanimal

the princess of darkness had requested a half-hour hair-brushing session

parisetya

shark seg

parisetya

shark seg

catboybiologist

My apparently wild and radical take is that trans women can literally just dress like women without much "accomodation"

"but what about hiding your-" I guarantee you women's clothes already does that, and you need it less than you think

"but what about adding padding to-" there are women's clothes that do that, also you need it less than you think

"but I don't think women's clothes will accommodate my proportions" I'm guessing that they will, and if you've been in HRT for any noticeable amount of time, they will likely fit better than men's clothes

Like I had my whole "femboy guide" pre transition, but that was a different vibe entirely.

If you want my advice on how to dress now, it would literally just be:

Take what you currently wear

Look at the woman's cut version of it

Size it properly

Wear it the correct way (eg, use the waist that women's clothes are made for)

There's a lot of clothes that's made "specifically for" trans women. Aside from very specific things (like tucking) I think most of it is garbage. Not to mention the absolute horrible ways that they're often marketed, rolling in trans women's everyday clothes with crossdressers and fetish gear.

When a trans woman first transitions, I've found that they're immediately BOMBARDED with "fashion advice" that is A, extremely othering and sometimes dysphoria inducing, and B, oftentimes outright garbage and uses old school crossdressing/drag advice that often fails to account for the effects of HRT, or doesn't come off as a more casual look.

I do think there's value in guides that are more in the zone of "hey, you've only been taught about men's fashion and clothes your whole life, here's the basics of women's fashion to catch you up to speed" but I've yet to find one that doesn't devolve into a weird "hide everything about your body, tran" kind of tone.

Quick preemptive Q&A

Are you saying that trans women CAN'T wear men's clothes and/or be butch?

No, I'm saying that women's clothes DOES fit and accommodate trans women's proportions, but most people refuse to believe that.

So you're a gender conformist then? Just molded to the binary system of fashion?

The last thing society wants a trans woman to be, is a woman. The most radical thing you can be is yourself, and sometimes yourself is a woman.

But what if I don't want to dress in women's clothes?!?

Good for you, then don't

catboybiologist

Fuckit, here's my bullet point fashion guide for trans women. This is stuff that applies to ALL women but trans women specifically will not have learned earlier in childhood.

Your waist is high. Higher than that. It's over your belly button. Yes it'll feel high waisted. Yes it'll also feel good. If your hips are getting wider, this is where pants will try to sit naturally anyways, and anything else will be uncomfortable.

On that note, the lack of pockets on women's pants actually does have a functional undertone. Having pockets at the waistline creates a VERY uncomfortable "pivot point" between your stomach and your legs, meaning if you put your keys or phone in pockets of women's pants, they're gonna jab you in the stomach.

THAT SAID, if you DO want pockets, I'm not gonna stop you. But get cargo pants!!! Women's cargo pants look SO nice, and thigh pockets are a godsend. They're more functional and more comfortable with growing hips.

Yes, women's cuts actually do make a fair bit of difference, and yes, you will fit and look more feminine in a women's cut. Even if it's a women's cut of jeans and a t shirt.

"unisex" clothing is oftentimes just men's clothing rebranded. I'm sorry but it's true. A lot of it will drape over you in boxy ways, since the "visual size" of a men's cut is almost entirely defined by the shoulders and upper body. This looks bad if you have wide shoulders or large boobs. It looks REALLY bad if you have wide shoulders AND large boobs, like I do. (Side note, the solution to degendering this should probably be something along the lines of giving the two cuts neutral names, like "shoulder cut" and "waist cut")

Bra sizing is a mystic art. No chart, calculator, or online tool will get you anywhere close to just trying on a variety of them yourself. They're a necessary starting point, but they're not going to get it right. Doesn't have to be an actual fitting, doesn't have to involve another human being, just grab a couple and try them all on. Hell, order them online and return the ones that don't fit if you're too nervous about being seen at all.

Don't make any fashion goal to "hide" anything (apart from tucking tbh, but tucking is less dramatic than a lot of other stuff imo). This isn't even primarily a self confidence point (although that's a great side effect) it's a point that if you spend too much effort or emphasis in "hiding" something, the rest of the fit is going to fall away from you or be guided by that in restricting ways. It also might call a lot of unnecessary attention to the exact thing you're trying to hide- and oftentimes, the only reason you wanted to hide it is because you're overly self conscious about something that's falling within normal variation. Choker to hide an Adam's apple? Now you're both calling attention to your neck, and are limited to outfits that work with that choker. Too much stuff over the shoulders to hide them? Now you're limited to things that cover the shoulders, and are also adding more padding or material to them. This point is deprogramming. The fashion choices that trans women are having imposed upon them to look more cis are not only a result of cis bullying, but oftentimes achieve the opposite effect than what people want.

sea-mists

literally though if you feel like your life is slipping through your fingers and every day goes too fast… try doing hard things, not just taking the easy route, like reading and making art and exercising and cooking a meal from scratch and journaling, doing these things without distraction, without being absorbed on a screen… the time will stretch and you’ll be reminded that life is long and beautiful if you make it so.

queriesntheories

Reblogging this with these tags because oh my goodness

To the person I reblogged this from THANK YOU i am now going to stick this on my pinboard where I’m gonna see it every single day

“Life is long and beautiful if you make it so”

fates-wings

Pride outfit Ica

nicothespy

oh tumblr staff definitely noticed the transphobe allegations and put the entire lgbtq+ in it LMAO

ilikewritingandspeedcore

EXCUSE ME THERE IS A PLANT THAT CAN MIMIC FAKE PLANTS?????

IT'S CALLED A BOQUILA TRIOFOLIOLATA AND IT'S FUCKING WITH MY BRAIN

IT APPARENTLY CAN MIMIC OTHER PLANTS AND AT FIRST I WAS LIKE "oh cool man it must take it's genetic code and copy it or feel the roots or something like that!! :3"

AND THEN I READ AN ARTICLE ON IT AND THESE FUCKING PARAGRAPHS HIT ME LIKE A BUS

LIKE READ THIS SHIT

WHAT THE FUCK MOTHER NATURE

rhyperographer

I went to find the article. It's fascinating.

digital-magus

In retrospect, consider the number 1 thing every grade-schooler knows about plants is they take in light, the idea they might be able to see should not wreck my shit as hard as it does

whalesharkcat

"yeah I'm doing okay haha, just going through it ^^'" - girl who will burst into tears if you give her a hug

orochislayer

Positive affirmations:

I shall cut down all who stand in my way

heartattackinblackdye

bites bites bites bjtes wait no im sorry come back i wont do it again bites bites bites bites

daughter-of-sapph0

"HRT IS BEING FORCED ONTO CHILDREN AND UT HAS AN INCREDIBLY HIGH REGRET RATE" they scream, denying all the facts and the actual amount of people who stop taking hrt (which is roughly 1%), ignoring how incredibly expensive it is, refusing to acknowledge the difficulties in actually finding a doctor to even prescribe it to you at all, and pretending that this button isn't a requirement for literally everyone taking it

the only reason someone would "regret" hrt is if they changed their mind (which yeah, that happens), or they lied and didn't read the box before taking it.

hon, its not the hrt thats dangerous. its you. dont choke on arsenic because it looks like candy

daughter-of-sapph0

detrans cisgirl after taking the medicine that makes you a man, reading all the benefits risks and side effects of the medice that makes you a man, and telling a doctor that she wants to be a man: "I dIdNt KnOw ThAt ThIs MeDiCiNe WoUlD mAkE mE a MaN!!!!"

daughter-of-sapph0

i think this can be taken as proof that detrans grifters are lying and almost never actually medically transitioned. because if they did they would know a) that its not actually as easily accessible as they say it is and is not being forcefed to children at the same school they have litter boxes in the bathrooms or whatever, b) that the medicine that makes you transition actually makes you transition, and it does exactly what it says on the tin, and c) that if they hate their male transition so much they can just take estrodiol. instead they're trying to ban estrodiol????? i know transmisogyny is by definition an ideology harbored by the most illogical douchebags ever, but like... come the fuck on

virtualgirladvance

isn't a 1% regret rate also just amazing low compared to pretty much most medical things? especially when paired with how much it improves patients lives? like if any antidepressants had a 99% chance to improve a patients life then no doctor would be against it