the myth of communicating with men
in the military when a solider messes up they dont pull them to a room and give them a lecture, they tell them "get down and give me 50 pushups"
they tell them they're cleaning the kitchen for the next week or that their weekend privileges are revoked
because that's the only thing that gets them to change their behavior and do better
ladies go ahead and do yourself a favor and stop trying to get men to do things or change their behavior by communicating to them and telling them that this hurts your feelings, this upsets you or you'd like for things to be different
men don't understand (or respect) the spoken language
they only understand action
you can go to couples therapy ,rant, complain, nag, give hints, or do whatever you want
but the moment, you stop cooking and cleaning
you stop giving it up in the bedroom
or completely pack your bags and walk out on them
that's when they "magically" become willing to change and do what you want
if you talk a lot of shit but don't back it up with action, men will walk all over you
that's why i never understood women who feel the need to confront their man about cheating
all that arguing, screaming and threatening, just to end up laid up next to him on the bed and to continue cooking and cleaning for him like a good little maid
do you think that man takes you seriously? as long as his "privileges" aren't impacted he couldn't care less,
stop expecting men to change while you continue to provide them with the perfect environment, a man doesn't care about how much talking you do as long as there's food on the table, his clothes are clean, and his sexual needs are met
start standing on business now
he doesn't want to take out the trash ? well guess i'm not cooking anymore, the smell is making you nauseous, go and excuse yourself to the bedroom and take a nap
he cant bother to do the groceries properly? well i guess we're eating bland food from now on cause you don't have all the ingredients you need
he stopped taking you out on dates? dress to the nines and go out on your own and don't give him a heads up
once their "privileges" are threatened, that's when men spring to action, suddenly they can do better, suddenly they remember your birthday, and they do their part of the housework, suddenly the grocery list isn't so hard to comprehend, and they take the dog for a walk and the trash out no questions asked
whenever my dad would become insufferable, my mom would take a trip to grandmas and stay there for a few weeks, being too available often makes people take you for granted, my dad would be calling and asking mom to get back within the first few days!
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