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that xkcd meme about experts but its listening to cis women stumble through a conversation about how heterofatalism (not using that word obv) is, perhaps, maybe, if you think about it, not actually great feminism

genderkoolaid

like i AM glad to see this get discussed anywhere at all its just so draining to see people in a youtube comment make a pretty tame point about how fixating on "all men hate women men ain't shit having a boyfriend is embarassing lol" didn't actually do anything helpful for them and they are glad to have snapped out of that mindset, only to have to edit it to clarify that OBVIOUSLY they weren't making this point about men's feelings they don't care about men's feelings they are solely talking about how this hurts women & femmes!

just like. you dont need to do that actually. like it IS bad for women and its good to acknowledge that but you actually don't need to treat the possibility of caring about a man or men as a group as feminist kryptonite. its actually reflective of the deeper problem which is tied to oppositional sexism & how that is used as a tool (alongside many other tools) to prevent inter-gender solidarity and revolution.

women are not getting liberated without men & vice-versa & its just annoying how even when people are talking about how heterofatalism isn't good feminism, they still have to make sure to clarify to everyone that they don't care about men, they would never imply that men's feelings matter at all, which. i just think is not actually healthy for feminism. not because every individual needs to personally feel xyz about men.

its the implicit gender segregration. men and women are two entirely different groups, and i am going to convince you skeptics that this idea is feminist by engaging in oppositional sexism and showing that i can be anti-"men ain't shit" but in a way which never implies that there is any connective human tissue between men and women. "this is solely about how this hurts women & femmes" which of course is a group entirely distinct from men & mascs (an idea that should be on its face inane, because femmes should logically include femmes of all genders including men, right? otherwise, what the fuck is the goddamn term for????????)

if i had my way everyone would have to read the essay Collective Turn Off by Sophie Lewis before engaging in conversations around this. cause she has the guts and conviction in her feminist understanding to use the term misandry and get into the muck of women's feelings about men and call out how misandry always ends up hurting trans people, all trans people. that is what makes this conversation productive.

same with bell hooks' The Will to Change tbh. what both of these women do is never to deny the real pain and suffering and anger and exhaustion of women; instead, they respect themselves and other women as feminist enough to invite them to critically reflect on those feelings and to reflect on the world they must living and the actions that need to be taken to bring that world to life. i feel that a large amount of the damage done by pop feminism comes from this emphasis on emotional validation over actual productive consciousness-raising, replacing the goal of true social revolution with the goal of having our feelings that being oppressed hurts be validated over and over and over again. i feel like i always use this analogy but its really like an animal overgrooming out of stress; we just keep doing the same thing in the vain hope it will relieve us of the cosmic horror and stress of patriarchy, and it doesn't, and yet we keep relying on these basic repetitive ways of self-soothing because no other option feels real.

genderkoolaid

the thing about the phrase "men cannot be liberated until women are liberated" is that the reverse is also true.

there is no women's liberation without men's liberation.

alexseanchai

and even if we accept the premise that women's liberation both can and should be achieved without caring whether it helps men? our choices are, one, find or invent ways women's liberation also helps men, or two, accept that getting fifty percent of society to buy in to women's liberation is one of those long-term projects that demonstrates unrealistic optimism in both goals and methods

like. we know it's common for men to realize feminism is important when they see their teenage daughters being subjected to the same teenage boy bullshit that they remember subjecting teenage girls to. so how do we get that realization to happen earlier? how do we make it common for boys to be feminists without that proving to anyone that they aren't masculine enough to be men?

who—when given a choice between two social groups that are equally certain of something inherent and unchangeable about one, and group A hates that trait (whether one indulges it or not) while group B approves more of people who lean into that trait—will prefer the company of group A?

who is teaching boys what it means to be men?

who does it benefit to ensure the answer is never feminist men?

r2x2

The Amnesty International report that JK Rowling is trying to censor through legal threats.

It can also be found on Google Drive here and on Bluesky here.

cbarc

Please save and share this info where possible. This report has since been removed by Amnesty International due to legal threats of libel from JK Rowling. This information is no longer easily accessible.

smbc-comics

Actually, things were at their best during the last year of my life when I had no responsibilities.

Check out the bonus panel on the site.

Upcoming book signings this summer.

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SMBC ◆ PATREON ◆ INSTAGRAM ◆ BLUESKY ◆ STORE

Buy this comic as a print.

msilverstar

Things were good for white rich and middle class cis het men. What a small minority.

findingfeather

TBH often not even for them; they had proportionally even more power and effect on the world, but it's not like eg the rates of violent alcoholic or otherwise parents (an affliction that doesn't really have any respect for status or income), physical abuse in boarding schools, various forms of slow horrible death from cancer, and so on, were better for them in the past either.

In fact many of the very things that the foolish nostalgia-heads long for were actually more miserable and lead to lower quality of life even for that demographic (or were unchanged) in the very eras they're clamouring about. It's wild.

wollymight

silly comic I made this morning

pointless-letters

One of the best letters I’ve ever seen just popped up on my Facebook memories. Still makes me laugh.

pointless-letters

As today is the 50th anniversary of the moon landing, it’s a great time to revisit Dinah from Devon’s memory of this historic event. And yes, still makes me laugh.

pointless-letters

Today is the 54th anniversary of the moon landing, but Dinah’s diary entry is still absolutely magnificent.

pointless-letters

57th anniversary of the moon landing and the best diary entry in the history of diary entries. Sit down Samuel Pepys, it’s over. UGH.

rocketumbl

Mitsubishi Fuso Super Great V “SPIDER”

browningtons-deactivated2018041

This isn’t a car its a final boss

whereserpentswalk

2000s children’s toy that your parents won’t buy for you because you’re afab.

birdluvr1993

whip cream

mono-red-menace

this is, by far, the most impactful imageset on this website

big-meows

Fucking dire, man. If this isn't a call to action to stomp your consumerist urges and return to the DIY days of yore, I don't know what is.

Festive friends, I implore you. You don't need this stuff. There's a dozen reasons you don't need to buy this kind of mass produced seasonal decor and AI creeping into it is just the newest reason. Consider instead a) buying from reputable/independent/local artists, b) thrifting/buying vintage or c) just making it yourself. There is nothing I would love more than seeing a mass rejection of AI usher in a new DIY art/arts and crafts movement.

featheredcritter

Tf2 Is not even a game anymore it's like a shared cultural piece. Like It should be recognized as part of the world heritage list

ray-okumura

mousegirlheart

If you are having trouble catching that mouse, then perhaps it is not meant to be. Perhaps try something else? Maybe a cockroach, or a lizard. Mice do not taste that good, regardless. I recommend abandoning pursuit of mice altogether. Meow.

squid-girl

I think this is my favorite post on the Internet right about now! Edit: And I just needed to Edit this Photo 4 TIMES till it worked here… #youarewelcome #tumblrnoob #learnhowtotumblr

notajerusalemcricketd-deactivat

wario-land

A family

cannibalings

have you reopened the wound? will you reopen the wound? when will you reopen the wound?

prettysilkk

There’s that.

realest-slenderman

if one of my pages seems abnormally long and information dense sorry guys that’s just my birth control side effects sheet that got mixed in with the regular pages #fridays