refusing to do as your parent says is not a provocation for them to abuse you.
standing up to your parent and telling them they’re wrong is not a provocation for abuse.
doing things in your own time and not on the exact timeline your parent wants you to is not a provocation for abuse.
asking for what you want or need and sticking up for yourself is not an invitation for abuse.
reacting to insults and getting angry and demanding them to be taken back is not a provocation for abuse.
refusing to participate in something that hurts you, even if your parents want you to participate, is not an invitation for them to force you.
defending yourself when attacked, fighting back, getting away from them, protecting yourself, hiding and getting out of reach is not a provocation for them to hurt you worse, to trap your movements, to hold you down, to lock you up, to hit you harder, to force you to accept the pain.
accepting parent’s challenges of “just you dare” and “do it and see what happens” isn’t a provocation on the child’s side, it’s actual provocation from the parent who is trying to find an excuse to abuse the child.
being mentally ill is not an invitation for them to force you to act normal and hide your symptoms.
keeping personal things private and wanting some things to stay private is not an invitation for privacy breach.
refusing to forgive your parents for what they’ve done to you is not an invitation for them to do worse.
refusing to be eternally grateful to your parents for feeding/clothing/sheltering you is not an provocation for them to threaten, insult, humiliate or blackmail you
calling your parents out when they’re harmful, cruel, neglectful, sadistic, toxic and abusive isn’t a provocation for them to show you how they could do worse.
holding your parents responsible for their actions is not a provocation for them to lash out at you and demand endless gratitude
letting your parents know when they’ve hurt you is not an attempt to hurt them.
having an opinion that differs from parent’s opinion isn’t an invitation for them to insult your knowledge or humiliate you.
being your own person doesn’t give them right to shut you down and force you into a role of what they want you to be.
You should be able to do every single of these things without your parents hurting you. If your parents consider this behaviour a “provocation”, and respond with abuse, they’re abusive. If they tell you it’s your fault because you provoked them or asked for it, they’re manipulating and brainwashing you to take responsibility for their abuse.
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