I kind of just want to make a huge post with like bullet points of my stupid bottom surgery questions, just get a vibe check on if anyone has ever wondered it before.
If you've had ftm bottom surgery and nothing better to do than look at clumsily worded questions and maybe answer some...
I'm going to try to keep them brief with as little explanation as I can stand so please ask for clarification or tell me if my wording isn't good/is hurtful. I'm not sure what my anatomy is going to work for and I have consults coming up soon, so I am interested in hearing anyone's experiences with all types of meta, phallo, -ectomy, scrotoplasty, monsplasty, and any other procedure. I just want any kind of input though, I'm not sure what I will end up getting.
I believe that I want metoidioplasty with U/L, scrotoplasty with implants, and to get it all closed up. I have been on T since 2013 but I worry that my bottom growth has not been sufficient for what I want/need.
I don't really talk about sex with doctors, I have a complicated history with medical staff, but I'm trying to get more comfortable. I'm too comfortable on tumblr, so I am just kind of screening these and figuring out if they're actually embarrassing or real concerns I guess.
How many procedures did you need?
How long after your last procedure did it take until you genuinely felt 100%?
In what ways is sex different?
How long did you have to be in a hospital?
What portions could you have your family/spouse/chaperone with you?
How does circumcision work for this?
My biggest dysphoria trigger tbh is that my bf can't visibly see when I'm hard without me having to do something else to show it, is meta my best bet at fixing that? (Most I'm hoping for is some movement in very light boxers or when nude, I don't expect it in pants)
If I kind of liked being penetrated in front before my hysto but have been disgusted by the concept of that since (6 months ago), is it likely I'll ever want to use it again?
Does using it (PIV receptive) feel different if you kept it but got other procedures done?
What feels best now vs before?
How does urinating feel afterwards?
How far did you stay from the hospital?
If you traveled for it, how long did you stay close by?
Do you think they'd be willing to sedate me until it's fully healed?
Do you have any other issues before surgery?
What kinds of complications did you have?
How much does it actually hurt?
Genuinely, can you compare the level of pain/discomfort/weirdness/sensation/etc to something that I could possibly conceive of?
Can you wear/use cock cages meant for cis men?
Does anal feel different?
If I have a "shy bladder" in general, should I even bother with U/L and standing to pee? (I only use an stp alone/in a stall/hiking alone)
What's the hair removal situation?
How can I say "I lose my shit waking up from anesthesia unless i have a family member, preferably my partner, present in the recovery area" without them thinking I'm not otherwise okay mentally enough for surgery?
What if I get a boner during the consult? Like in fear?
Semi-related, are there non-insertable treatment options for atrophy? Mine feels like sandpaper since my hysto but I'll kill anyone (myself included) if fhey try to put anything in there.
When can i resume rough sex without any worry of complications?
When can I go to the beach?
When can I go to the nude beach?
...can I see/hold it?*
I will be adding to this as I think of more nonsense but here's to start. Please feel free to DM or reply. I'm trying to figure out how to turn off reblogs on this one post so just like be cool about it for a minute please. Think I got it.
