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Positivity/self care/recovery blog

[lastoneout]

Ya know when people told me "when you're finally safe enough that you can leave survival mode and start to let go of and process your c-ptsd/trauma things are probably going to get really, really bad before they slowly start to get better" I thought that was reasonable. I did not understand that by "things are going to get bad" they meant "you're going to find yourself in the worst mental state of your entire life, but dw, that means it's working" and tbh I simply wish someone had been more clear.

[lucineblue]

Not letting these stay in the tags, damn. Let yourself be Goop.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Often when people seem annoyed, it's because something unrelated is bothering them and not because they hate you. Often when people leave you on read, it's because something important distracted them and not because they don't want to talk to you. Often when people don't answer your calls and texts, it's because they're busy or otherwise preoccupied and not because they're intentionally ignoring you. Often when people are distant and quiet, it's because they're tired or in a bad mood and simply need a break from socializing and not because they don't like you anymore. Try not to take everything negative others do personally - cause it rarely is.

[furiousgoldfish]

trauma processing information ahead: you doubt your feelings relating to a certain event because when it happened you don’t remember as if it hurt you, you remember it as it maybe it wasn’t that traumatic, maybe it didn’t affect you so much, you feel like you handled it just fine and you weren’t so scared or pained by it back then and you don’t feel you can call that traumatic but then in present you suddenly get overwhelmed with pain and fear and grief and even anger and you try to stuff it down because NO IT WASN’T THAT BAD and you keep convincing yourself you’re overreacting because you can remember that it was not that bad and you keep thinking it didn’t even matter

So now try to remember when it first happened, it could be that you were still really small, or you were directly faced with the abuser/danger, or you were in unsafe environment where you couldn’t freely express, but the thing is, it didn’t hurt so bad the first time because you were unable to both survive and feel that amount of pain. Children’s bodies are not capable of withstanding traumatic amount of pain and survive, that pain is repressed and dissociated for later when bodies are big and strong and able to survive it. You cannot allow yourself to experience pain and fear that would make you extremely vulnerable and thus less likely to survive in traumatic situation so in that case too, your body represses the emotions and settles on dissociation until you’re safe enough and strong enough for these to be properly processed. 

Only reason it “didn’t feel so bad” back then is because your body repressed the pain and fear to save you. But the amount of pain and terror and anger you’re feeling now is exactly how bad it was. You’re only now experiencing on your own skin how actually bad it was! That’s how badly you were hurt. You’re not overreacting or making a big deal out of it now, you were unable to feel how bad it was before. Your feelings are always there for a reason, they’re generated inside you by harm that was done to you and you can trust them. Your reactions are not wrong, your feelings are not wrong, it was exactly that bad.

[xenxone]

[kindnotestoself]

[lets root for each other and watch each other grow 🌱]

[bakwaaas]

You gotta understand that some people never really grow. They never learn their lesson. They never recognise their mistakes, they never acknowledge their faults, they never admit they were in the wrong. You will never receive an apology from them, and you will never see their behaviour change.

[felinesassosaurus]

And that’s ok. Not because it doesn’t matter - sometimes those people are your family and that hurts like hell I know - but because their behavior is not a reflection of who you are or how you’ve treated them. If they won’t grow and apologize then you’re better off without them so let them and all that hurt go.

[mandalorianreynolds]

https://xkcd.com/154/

[pucket]

made a music video for a song i made half a year ago. contains an uplifting message i think i needed to hear from my self for a long time, especially before the end of this decade. so if you’re feeling down right now, i highly suggest hitting play

hope you enjoy! i made it on a whim this afternoon and spent about five hours putting it together. 

you can buy the track too

[furiousgoldfish]

abusers tell victims it’s their fault

abusers tell victims they asked for it

abusers tell victims they can’t get away, but it’s their fault abuse is continuing

abusers tell victims they wanted it

abusers tell victims they provoked it

abusers tell victims it was not that bad

abusers tell victims to let it go and stop living in the past

abusers tell victims they’re too sensitive

abusers tell victims they overreacted

if you catch yourself saying any of that to abuse victim, you are making it very clear where you stand. Stop lying to yourself. Stop lying to victims. Abuse can happen to anyone. It could have happened to you too. 

[recoversuggestion]

breaking news!

you are not wrong for wanting to eat. 

you are not wrong for eating (even if you’re not hungry).

you are not wrong for making progress.

you are not wrong for wanting to feel better.

you are not wrong for gaining weight.

you are not wrong for liking yourself.

you are not wrong for eating more than others.

you are not wrong for weighing more than others.

you are not wrong for ignoring calorie labels.

you are not wrong for sleeping during the day.

you are not wrong for letting yourself heal.

your recovery is never wrong.

[nothingherehesgone]

Sʜᴀʟʟ ᴡᴇ ᴘʟᴀʏ? Fᴏʀ @slowtofu ! ᴾˡᵉᵃˢᵉ ᵈᵒⁿ’ᵗ ʳᵉᵖᵒˢᵗ, ʳᵉᵇˡᵒᵍ ᶦⁿˢᵗᵉᵃᵈ ;__; ᴹʸ ᵏᵒ⁻ᶠᶦ

[fairycosmos]

self reflection is a good thing but too much self analysis is so exhausting. constantly questioning your own motives and how you're being perceived and whether or not you're being real and what's authentic leads to such a convoluted mentality like. u don't even know who you are cause you just end up being a case study and not a person. i just want to let myself move through the world for a moment

[lingrix]

“If a person can’t get out of bed, something is making them exhausted. If a student isn’t writing papers, there’s some aspect of the assignment that they can’t do without help. If an employee misses deadlines constantly, something is making organization and deadline-meeting difficult. Even if a person is actively choosing to self-sabotage, there’s a reason for it — some fear they’re working through, some need not being met, a lack of self-esteem being expressed. People do not choose to fail or disappoint. No one wants to feel incapable, apathetic, or ineffective. If you look at a person’s action (or inaction) and see only laziness, you are missing key details. There is always an explanation. There are always barriers. Just because you can’t see them, or don’t view them as legitimate, doesn’t mean they’re not there. Look harder. Maybe you weren’t always able to look at human behavior this way. That’s okay. Now you are. Give it a try.”

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— “Laziness Does Not Exist” by E Price on Medium

(And a footnote I didn’t see explicitly covered in the article: laziness still doesn’t exist when it is you yourself making no progress and not knowing why. You deserve that respect and consideration, too, even from yourself.)

[mementt0mori-deactivated2020051]

stop saying yes to the shit you hate

[dejavuindigo-deactivated2023071]

stop saying ‘its fine’ to the shit that aint

[shephardatwork]

Stop saying ‘don’t worry about it’ to the shit that makes you uncomfortable

[untitled4022]

Quick facts about ADHD:

Females most commonly have inattentive ADHD (But often go undiagnosed)

Hyperactive ADHD is most commonly found in children and males.

Combination type is thought to be about equal to both male and females, but has most commonly been found in males (as a result of testing being done primarily on boys)

People with ADHD are valid and we should stop referring to ADHD as a quirk or a fun disorder

The term inattentive ADHD has actually been around since 1987!

People with ADHD are on average about 3 years behind developmentally in some areas of the brain, but are expected to catch up to non-ADHD peers in their early 20s

RSD is believed to be linked to a smaller amygdala and thinner prefrontal cortex

Almost 100% of ADHD patients are believed to have experienced symptoms of RSD, but don’t even realize RSD is a thing

About 50% of people in court mandated anger management have previously undiagnosed ADHD

RSD can be internalized or externaized. Internalized makes a patient anxious, depressed, and sometimes even suicidal. An externaized response can be described as an “instantaneous rage”

RSD used to be misdiagnosed as rapidly cycling bipolar disorder.

[voidwitchcupid]

holy crap 

[selfcarememes]

why don’t you ask your belligerent, angry inner voice what purpose berating you serves? that when you’re in a social situation and your inner voice wants to pop out and say how you’re carrying yourself makes everyone in this room hate you. like you won’t know that until you find a time and place to ask, so what’s the actual purpose of your inner voice telling you you suck and you’re so awful? 

seriously, next time your inner voice is going off just ask it how the hell you think it’s going to actually help you improve? if it says some shit like “well if you shut your mouth no one would think you were annoying” that is an OPINION. in this brain we do FACTS. ONLY. THAT IS HOW WE GROW, opinions SET US BACK

[sweetlilreminders]

❤️ Stop putting pressure on yourself to be perfect.

You don't need to be.

Nobody is.

You are lovable as you are. ❤️

[pigmenting]

sometimes i forget how many times i’ve picked myself off the floor, how many times i’ve washed away smudgy makeup and put myself to bed. how many times i’ve said no to something unhealthy. said yes to something good. how many times i’ve treated myself with kindness and patience. i forget how many times i’ve tended to wounds and made peace with my own anger. if i was taking care of a body that was not my own, i’d believe i was doing everything i could. so here’s to remembering that i’m doing the best i can.

[mental-health-recovery]