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Wow I’m so much more stable than when I was using this account in 2017, 2018, 2019

I haven’t been suicidal in a couple years (!!!)

not even during the death of my partner March 2024

I take Escitalopram and Quetiapine every day

I live with my friends in a nice house

Things are okay, finally

lvndscapes-blog

#deneb

gorps

watching a ton of people on twitter trick themselves into being scared of a themed dark ambient album is interesting

asundergrowth

If you played xiu xiu for these people it would actually traumatize them

inkyzuzi

listens to this and receives 20 points of psychic damage

#im embarrassed for them

valtsv

i never check my email because then i will have to reply to some of them and that is how you get more emails

valtsv

if i stay very still and don't make any noise maybe they'll forget that i'm there and leave me alone

#this is my approach to life

theunitofcaring

A lot of the advice I got about learning to enforce my boundaries was framed as an adversarial thing. Like, ‘yes, it might upset and disappoint the people around you, but you have to learn to tell them ‘no’ anyway.’ At best, ‘good people will still like you if you enforce your boundaries’.

What I wish I’d been told is that good people will think it's awesome that you enforce your boundaries, that there are people who will respect the hell out of you for it, that there are people who will admire you not despite you telling them no, but because of it. That most people don’t want to make you do something you don’t enjoy,and so they’ll actively be happier and more relaxed around you if they know they can trust you to decline to do things you don’t enjoy and to ask them to stop things that bother you.

It helped me a lot, personally, to stop thinking of ‘enforcing my boundaries’ as something I did for me and more as something I did to empower the people I was close with, to build a situation where they and I felt sure everything that was going on was something we all wanted.

Most advice isn’t good for everyone and this advice seems maybe bad for people in abusive situations, because sometimes you do need to learn to enforce boundaries against people who will try to violate them. But if there are other brains like me out there: your partner will be really happy you can say no to them. your friend will be really happy you change the subject when you hate it. your roommate will really appreciate that you tell them to turn down the music. most people will feel safer and more comfortable around you if they know you’ll reliably express your needs, AND they’ll feel better about voicing theirs.

#hm

ghostpoot

happy clown week!! i made a collage of (most of) my clowny looks! IG: ghostpoot

straighthater

someone: hey how are you

me: moderate to severe

narutwitter

#lmfjdjsg?

valtsv

the best part of being a kid was when you realized that birth is a curse and existence is a prison but instead of being sad about it just ignored it entirely for months or even years by roleplaying being a horse or a mythical creature or a warrior cat or something 24/7

valtsv

oh to be 8 years old and capable of ignoring all my questions and insecurities about my body and identity by simply imagining that i'm a feral cat living in the woods again

shortnervouswreck

Intrusive thoughts: What if-

10 yo me: Can't hear you. I'm a dog.

mazzystargrrl

bitches be like *reconsume media from childhood to cope*

creekfiend

About ten years ago I decided that the next step I needed to take in my life was to accept and explore what it meant to be a failure and to have failed. This infuriated almost everybody in my life and clearly terrified a lot of people. People do not want you to accept failure. They dont want you to like… Sit with and think about it and pick it up and turn it arpund in your hands and really examine it. They want you to keep throwing yourself against the impossible walls until your body explodes! They do not want you to say “alright then, I’ve failed. What does that mean for me? Im still here. What does the life of someone who has failed look like?”

This makes people very angry and panicky.

My mental health improved in ways it had not in the previous DECADE once I stopped. And. Sat. With failure. And thought about what my failure … Was. And looked at the structures that produced it and examined them critically.

It is so taboo to fail and admit it openly and talk about it. It is so taboo to talk about or think about failure in an accepting way rather than hiding it shamefully until you experience a degree of success in some area which allows you to present the past failure as “a stepping stone” to your current situation. Fuck that. We are put in positions of guaranteed failure by society every day and then punished and shamed for it. Lets fucking talk about failure

lifeafterpsychiatry

Can we please stop associating being a good person with how much you're willing to suffer in silence for other people? You can be a kind person and still say "no, I don't have the time/energy to help you with that." You can be a kind person and still say "this makes me uncomfortable, please stop." You can be a kind person and still say "I disagree and here's why." You can be kind and still say "I'm not okay with this." Being kind is about treating people with kindness and respect, not about being the human equivalent of a doormat!

#guh