yea let's hear it

Please only submit quotes, no paraphrasing. If you want to submit a real life experience, acephobia-is-real or acesanonymous is a great blog for that! also don't laugh at us behind our backs, it's really anxiety inducing and ur all adults. so grow up already and leave us alone

[shit-acephobes-say]

I don't wanna trigger anyone but what does SGA mean???

same gender attracted. it’s a term used by mormon/christian churches that carry out conversion therapy, thats what they call gay/bisexual ppl (and maybe trans ppl too but dont quote me on that cuz i havent read it anywhere, but ime if they see homosexuality as a sin they probably are transphobic too). 

and it’s ableist bc sga holds the belief that homosexuality/bisexuality are mental disorders. google probably has more info also it’s cisheteronormative bc its p much relying on binary genders too and using it as a label for lgbt+ ppl is really disrespectful and erasing to ppl who’ve had to face conversion therapy and it can be triggering

[bi--keith]

you’re thinking of ssa. sga is closer to same gender loving which is a term in the black community. it also stands for same/similar gender attraction so for a wlw, sga says that she’s attracted to women, demigirls, and women-aligned people.

[shit-acephobes-say]

is sga closer to sgl than ssa. is it really

also dont ever mention wlw and sgl in the same sentence as sga again. wlw and sgl are actual aave and to say sga is aave too is disgusting and probably racist.

[spookyprincet-deactivated201908]

“Sga is ableist” lmao

Anyway, sga (same gender attraction) is used all the time by LGBT people. Want to know how I know? Because I’ve literally only heard LGBT people use that. Both gay and bi people experience sga. Asexuals experience sga. What are you even talking about right now?

[shit-acephobes-say]

i mean if u wanna be a homophobe/biphobe and call gay/lesbian and bisexual ppl a term that lit means our sexualities are mental disorders but go off when i didnt even ask??

like the evidence is literally all above u so if ur gonna come swinging at least be able to connect lmao

[shit-acephobes-say]

"You have not had rocks thrown at you. You have not been killed. You’re a bunch of teenagers with oppression fetishes. Fucking kill yourself. See what I just said? To kill yourself? That’s probably the most oppression your “group” has EVER faced. Fuck outta here."

ngl im  a little confused on this one bc there are aphobes who are calling this random out for being ableist alongside suicide baiting, 

but thats sus to me cuz afaik they havent tried to tell popular ppl like sco/taboo or other discourse blogs to stop suicide baiting or spouting ableist bs so.. .ijdk why suddenly theyve started acting this way to an unknown… 

i mean im glad theyre evolving and all i guess but tbh ive been told one death threat too many by them to believe theres not some ulterior intention :/

[shit-acephobes-say]

"There’s no aro/ace “spectrum”… You either don’t feel romantic/sexual attraction or you do…."

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[jerkwillems]

is wish i had good enough life to worry about fake problems such as "being queer enough"

unlike you, anon, im not going to make any assumptions. im not going to make assumptions about your gender, your sexuality, or your status

im just going to tell you that asexuals face that same discrimination and violence that the rest of the LGBTQIA community face.

we are victims of RAPE http://www.huffingtonpost.com.au/2013/06/20/asexual-discrimination_n_3380551.html?ir=Australia   http://prismaticentanglements.com/2011/04/05/do-you-want-to/#more-1058

we are victims of BURNINGS http://www.sdgln.com/news/2013/11/08/oakland-teen-be-tried-adult-alleged-hate-crime-against-asexual-student#sthash.TZ5DVK91.dpbs

we are, apparently, GOING AGAINST RELIGION (for NOT wanting to have sex?!) http://www.landoverbaptist.net/showthread.php?t=84162

we face DISCRIMINATION from within the LGBTQIA community http://www.queerty.com/tell-queerty-do-asexuals-have-it-harder-than-glbts-20090825   http://lgbteen.org/2014/05/an-outcast-in-my-own-community-obstacles-in-being-asexual/

and yet, when people do bother to add the “A” to LGBTQIA (”omg its just soo long why do ppl keep adding made up sexualities to it omg”) they have the NERVE to say “A” stands for ALLY???

sorry anon, but as far as I’m aware, asexuals being considered “not queer enough” is a REAL PROBLEM

[shit-acephobes-say]

"q slur // cishet aces: am I queer in a box? Am I queer with a fox? Am I queer on a train? Am I queer in the rain? Am I queer in my house? Am I queer with a mouse? am I queer on a boat? Am i queer with a goat? I do not like the allos Sam, I do not like them, sam-I-am"

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[shit-acephobes-say]

"gay people can't oppress aces"

“Because allosexual gay people can’t oppress aces on the axis of sexuality”

[heterophobiclesbean]

Use of word “allosexual” to describe an orientation which could very well lack any sort of “sexual attraction”: ✔ Use of word “allosexual” to describe an orientation that is horrifically sexualized by straight people who then punish those they oversexualized: ✔ Somehow not understanding that it literally is not possible to oppress people when you a) have no societal, political, or financial power over others and b) are literally oppressed for the thing mogai Tumblr claims gives you privilege: ✔ Three strikes and ur out

[shit-acephobes-say]

u really wrote all that for nothing lmao yall cant even agree with ur own crowd

edit: i guess lateral oppression (transphobia and biphobia from cis l/g ppl) cant happen then according to ur logic lmao foh 

[shit-acephobes-say]

"Personally I have seen no misgendering, this is the LGBT community and we support our trans and nb fellows. If you’ve seen misgendering it’s clearly from someone we don’t want involved in this. If someone like a terf agrees with our side of the discourse, we tell them to fuck off and not get involved, or block them, because this entire discourse is about protecting the safety of lgbt people." (I've been watching for 7 mo. and I've never seen a Discourser call out TERFyness on their side...)

.me neither and u know what else is rich? “we support OUR (what???) trans and nb fellows”... but theres no misgendering lmao

[shit-acephobes-say]

"That’s how unless you are asexual-aromantic, using ‘(blank)sexual-(blank)romantic’ evokes a sense of weird hypersexuality into gay terms and messes up things even more for kids who are just starting to figure out something that’s already very confusing and scary enough. You want a gf/bf someday but don’t really wanna have sex unless you know them? Bi/pan. Are you a girl who feels like you’re unable to form real romantic relationships, but really like sex with girls? Lesbian." (bi = gay term?!)

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[shit-acephobes-say]

"@the acearo community: i fucking hate you!!" A few reblogs later... "And he tagged it ace positivity because??" "Its so ya asexual fucks saw it"

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[shit-acephobes-say]

why do u hate trans ppl

[shit-acephobes-say]

"hi, sorry if you don't do this - but do you mind promoing my new discourse sideblog? i'm [username] and i'm finding it hard to join the community of #aphobes" [tagged: #ace positivity]

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[shit-acephobes-say]

"You need to stop spreading these boring liberal interpretations of sexuality, cuz now we have actual cishet people barging into our community, which is really hurtful and is going to ruin all the work we've done in the last few years. Yikes."

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[thatqueerweirdo]

Tbh the fact that romantic love is seen as inherently sexual, and sexual desire without love is considered selfish, should be enough to show you how straight people see aro/ace people when they do see us

[shit-acephobes-say]

"On top of that, aro/ace people being in lgbt spaces often sucks up resources actual lgbt people need, so it really is harming us. What resources? Scholarships, funds, beds at homeless shelters, lgbt suicide hotlines, pride clubs and other safe spaces with limited space, food that’s handed out at lgbt centers and clubs, et cetera."

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[picolaine-chats]

[picolaine-chats]

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Maman chatte et son chaton

Défendre les animaux et protéger la nature

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[officialaphobe]

“actually asexual” more like “what other communities can we steal shit from”

[yourlocalangryqueer]

The person who proposed this WAS an autistic person but alright

[cursedskull-666]

As an autistic person I wanna say something here:

The #actuallyautistic tag was created out of necessity because the #autism tag was and still is a very unsafe place for autistic people. A lot of ableist people post in there quite regularly and we dont want to have to see a flood of ableism every time we go into the tags.  The #actuallyautistic tag was created as our safe space where we could post more safely.  Ableist people still post shit in the #actuallyautistic tag sometimes though and it makes us quite upset and furious that they keep invading our tag after they already flooded the others.  

As an asexual person who is autistic I want to say that the situation is very similar right now for asexual people.  The recent exclusionary hatekeeping behaviour has brought on a flood of aphobic hatred and harassment into our tags.  The #asexuality tag is now pretty much a danger zone. Just like the #autism tag it is no longer safe. I know for a fact that some aphobes stalk the tags waiting for ace posts to attack and I know for a fact that aphobes post hatred into the ace tags. Since the #actuallyautistic tag was created the #actually_ thing has spread to a lot of other disabled and neurodivergent communities and thats a great thing and I see no reason why it cant be extended to asexual people too when they are also facing so much hatred and harassment in their tags.  Ace people need a tag like that,  though just like with the #actuallyautistic tag there are bound to be assholes who will not respect the rules of #actually_ tags. 

Ace people creating an #actually_ tag isnt stealing from the autistic community at all. 

Not to mention that there are a lot of autistic,  nd and disabled ace people so if there was really a problem with using the #actually_ thing then you can bet we wouldnt have stayed quiet if we didnt want it used. In fact it WAS an autistic person who proposed the idea. 

I’m allistic, so I’m sorry if this overstepping, but I’d also like to add that, when the #actuallyasexual tag came into use, the ‘asexual’ tag was being bombarded with troll posts, porn, gore, and combinations of all three. Say what you want about the ace community, but I find it hard to believe that any group deserves to have their tag deliberately flooded with extremely upsetting images. Furthermore, the use of “#actually__” tags (and lot’s of communities use them!) in no way detracts from the usability of the original tag?

[cursedskull-666]

Yup! It actually makes me personally quite happy that the #actually_ tag thing has become such a big thing. Personally Im more than happy for other minorities whose tags are being attacked/harassed to create their own #actually_ tags if they feel like they need them. 

[shit-acephobes-say]

"this post is literally just “why won’t those big meanie gays let asexuals in their club??? :(” written in the form of a jargon-filled essay for a philosophy class"

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