troubled.

and i just had a change of heart.

[ai-papi-deactivated20201124]

October 23, 

i miss being happy. i miss feeling you. i miss feeling alive. i miss enjoying life. i miss your smile. i miss having a real smile. i miss going months without crying. i miss going months without feeling like dying. i miss being so happy that i couldn’t wipe the smile off my face. bigger than my existence, i miss you. i miss how happy you made me. god, please can i have it all back? please 

[asakira]

[comett]

hozier // shrike

[catee]

me: I’ll never text first again

me,3 minutes later,fighting back tears and texting first: I’ll…..nNever……

[thatdiabolicalfeminist]

some good consent phrases

“May I hug you?”

“When I ask you if you want to do something, you know it’s always okay to say no, right?”

“Let me know if you get uncomfortable, okay?”

“How do you feel about (x activity)?”

(When someone’s insecure about having said no and asks if it’s okay/if you’re mad or upset they said no) “I’m disappointed to not do the thing, of course, but I’m much more glad you were willing to tell me (no/that you were uncomfortable/etc.). That’s really important to me. Thank you.”

“I’d ALWAYS rather be told no than make you feel pressured or do anything to hurt you or make you uncomfortable.”

“I care about you, so when something I do hurts you or makes you uncomfortable, I want to know, because I don’t like making you feel bad.”

“You can always change your mind, okay? The moment you wanna (stop/go home/take a break/etc), PLEASE tell me and we’ll stop right away. I won’t make a fuss, I don’t wanna keep going if you don’t want to.”

“Wanna do (x)? It’s okay if not, but I think it would be (fun/worthwhile/prudent).”

(When starting a social phone call): “Hey, are you busy right now?”

(When confirming plans made earlier): “Hey, are you still up for doing (x) at (time) on (day)?”

“Can I vent a little about (x)?”

“Can I tell you something (gross/depressing)?”

“Are you comfortable talking about it?”

“Do you think you could talk me through this problem I’ve been having? If you have the time and emotional energy of course.”

“It’s okay if that doesn’t work for you.”

“I’m interested in spending more time with you. Would you be interested in doing (x) together on (y day)?”

“No? Well let me know if you ever want to do something else.” (leave it open! don’t nag! let it go!)

“You don’t seem very interested in this. Should we skip it?”

(When someone doesn’t seem interested in something you were suggesting) “We can just (do something you both want to do) instead.” (don’t try to get them to do the thing again! let it go!)

Consent culture - it’s about way more than just sex!

Give people as much freedom as possible to make their own choices without pressure or control.

Even children deserve as much autonomy as allows them to remain safe and get their needs met - remember, you can’t train a child to make good/safe/healthy choices without ever giving them choices. A child who is taught to respect consent is a child who doesn’t assault people! A child who knows they have a right to say no is a child who knows that someone who infringes on their autonomy isn’t supposed to do that.

A consent-conscious relationship is a healthier and safer relationship, and a person who is aware of and deliberate about asking for, giving, receiving, refusing, and accepting refusals of consent is a healthier and safer person.

[latenights]

if someone makes you happy, make them happier

[fairylander]

This mindset will make you the kindest you can be

[lightheartedsuggestion]

concept: we’re both in our softest pajamas. your arms are around me and our legs are intertwined. you kiss the back of neck and tell me you won’t ever let me go.

[ardhangini]

choose a partner who is good for you. not good for your parents. not good for your image. not good for your bank account. choose someone who’s going to make your life emotionally fulfilling.

[foggysuggestion]

hey reblog and tell me something you’ve been needing to say to someone but can’t for some reason

[898-deactivated20210515]

yo u mind if i care about you 5000 times more than you will ever care about me

[stuckonautopilot-deactivated201]

You. You. You. You. Everywhere I go. Every thought. Every time I think about genuine happiness. No matter where I am, what I’m doing, who I’m with. I’d rather be with you.

It all comes back to you.

[soulmatessuggestions]

you make it so hard to focus

[meaningfulsuggestion]

I will never stop trying for you.

[safesuggest]

my hands want to be holding yours

[makkaveli13]

Don’t make the girl that loves you look stupid.

[3plymike]

Gotta make em laugh so they forget you ugly

[yungbara]

todays mood is making out. I want a tongue in my mouth right fucking now

[i-raised-you-danker-than-this]

well have i got some news for you