gem

Addictive personality. Feminist. Jewish. British.

[hatefuhk]

when people ask where you see yourself in 10 years

[problematicparrot]

Finally, a sane celebrity who doesn’t bend the knee to feminist bullshit.

Source

[ren-of-rationality]

My god I love her.

[mango-thot-deactivated20190520]

I know people are gonna get salty af about this but by God she’s RIGHT.

When Brad Pitt did Fight Club, he was cutting weight for every single scene to maintain his physique at 155. I’ve you’ve ever cut weight, you know how horrible that must have been. He did it because they needed a “look”.

Changing Tatum said his Magic Mike body doesn’t last for more than five days. He starved down and dehydrated his already fit physique for a “look”.

The male soldiers on Spartacus: Blood and Sand were eating pretty much chicken and veggies for every meal to maintain a “look”.

Why is this such a big deal? Because all these characters are considered physical goals for men. These are actual unobtainable physical standards for men. Male body image issues get swept under the rug so often that some people don’t even think they exist.

[da-boy-o-kultur]

You want proof? Just check out that scene in Captain America: First Avenger where Cap just transformed into that beautiful beefcake of a man. Agent Carter’s actress just HAD to touch them muscles, it was completely unscripted.

[eric-coldfire]

Chris Evans had to wear shirts so small they physically hurt, and he dislocated a shoulder during the helicopter scene in Civil War. But who cares, girls got to wet their panties watching Captain America flex.

[guyveranimefan87-blog]

If we are talking about unrealistic physical standards of male fitness given to us by movies, I would like to mention Hugh “Wolverine” Jackman here.

Yeah, he is ripped, isn’t he?

Well, it is true, but to get that kind of definition, he went through 36 hour period of dehydration, which caused him to temporarily lose 10 pounds of “water weight”. 

Thus during the fight scene he was filming, he was a hair breadth from blacking out whole time, just to look unrealistically muscular.

As he said during interview with Steven Colbert, “If You go three days without water, You will die. Then, when You are halfway there they shout ‘Roll it!”

It’s the same with professional bodybuilders who get into periods of extreme fasting and dehydration to lower their fat-to-muscle ratio to inhuman levels, all in hopes of making their muscle definition a bit better.

According to experts, healthy body fat percentage for a healthy male ranges from 8% to 20%, depending on height, lifestyle and numerous other variables. 

Fitness model and professional bodybuilder Helmut Strebl also known as “World’s Most Shredded Man” as he supposedly managed to get his body fat percentage below 5%…

… But only when he partakes in competitions, since it is not humanly possible to live with such low fat percentage of one’s body for longer periods of time.

I mean, yeah, he keeps a draconian training regime, as well as a very strict diet even off-season, but looks much more human then…

There are documented cases of incredibly fit and muscular bodybuilders fainting on the stage in the middle of their flexing routines, as well as several who outright died, because of cardiac arrest caused by their blood becoming too thick, due to long dehydration…

And let’s not forget about Muscle Dysmorphia, colloquially known as “Megarexia” or “Bigarexia”.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Muscle_dysmorphia

Yeah, it’s a thing, but it’s barely talked about, since it’s apparently not manly to admit to having problems like that, which also creates problems with researching this particular disorder…

So… Thanks Hollywood?

[fierceawakening]

I had no idea that most people who looked like this are dehydrated until I read posts like this.

[brunhiddensmusings]

dehydrated to the point theyre about a day away from actual organ failure okay so chris hemsworth is a absolute god of a man, but hollywood says ‘thats not good enough’ and for the thor movie he has to spend several days having the juice squeezed from his body untill he looses about a gallon of whats supposed to be him so that he can do 2 days of shooting scenes without his shirt, after which he has to have recovery time before he is hospitalized because i am not joking about ‘one day away from organ failure’ thats the benchmark- look at chris hemsworth and process that he is told he isnt suitable for a shirtless scene without prepping for three days and nearly fainting

[shipperwolf1]

real feminism acknowledges the unhealthy standards that men are held to. radfems brush them off as non-existent

guys, feminism is for you, too. it’s for all of us.

[sergeant-angels-trashcan]

ok but…we’re talking about two different things here. “Objectification” and “unrealistic body standards” while related, aren’t exactly the same. 

Hollywood does ask unrealistic and harmful things of actors and actresses. The thing is, this is not objectification. It’s shitty and dangerous, but it’s still not objectification. 

Hugh Jackman and Chris Evans and Brad Pitt were not objects in those movies, in these scenes. They are active, powerful figures, and while a person might get pleasure from viewing them, that’s not the sole purpose of their appearance. 

Objectification is when a character or person becomes a collection of body parts, when a person is reduced to an object of sexual desire. Hugh Jackman as Wolverine and Chris Evans as Captain America are not on screen just to be sexy. 

Men absolutely can be objectified, but men are in no way objectified in pop culture to the extent that women are. Do an image search for perfume and cologne ads. How many headless women do you see? Legs, arms, perhaps. How many men do you see, staring in the camera while the women in the picture are gazing at the man, looking off to the side–because the women are meant to be looked at.

Again. While Chris Evans, Hugh Jackman, etc, etc, can and are objectified by these movies, that’s not their role in the movies. Their characters have agency and we are meant to see them as powerful–if they happen to be nice to look at while looking powerful, that’s secondary. Female characters, particularly when they are side characters in action movies, are designed to look pretty first, and powerful second (and only if she can still be sexy while doing it)

Do these movies promote unrealistic body standards for men? Absolutely. But again, in media representation, men see more diverse body types than women do. But again, this is not Natalie Dormer’s original point. This is not objectification. Unrealistic body types and unhealthy demands made of actors and actresses is not the same as being a sexy piece of furniture for the hero to win at the end of the day. 

The fact that this posts starts by talking about Game of Thrones is wild to me. There is no frontal male nudity in GoT, but there is plenty of female nudity. This nudity does not advance the storyline. It’s not meant to show us how powerful these women are. It’s there just to be there.

There’s a post, somewhere–it may even be in the replies of this post–about how these body standards are, by and large, an extension of a male power fantasy, and that you can see this when you look at Hugh Jackman’s magazine covers for Men’s Health vs. Good Houskeeping. On Men’s Health, he’s sweaty, ripped, looks like he could kick your ass, easy. On Good Houskeeping, he’s wearing a sweater, his hair looks nice–he looks like he just put a casserole in the oven and is ready to bingewatch something with you while giving you a foot rub. 

Everyday men aren’t expected to look like Chris Evans and Hugh Jackman ready to rip your head off. Again, this is something media shows us. Guys can be ripped and beefy and get the girl. Guys can be nerdy and schlubby and get the girl. Guys can be okay looking and rude and get the girl. Guys can be pervy and average and get the girl. 

But the girl, by and large, is always the same. Skinny, conventionally attractive, moderately fashionable. She’s something to be obtained. She’s a status symbol. She wears impractical clothing because she’s not there to be believable, she’s there to be beautiful. 

That’s objectification.

(I’ve got nothing om Magic Mike, though. I’ve never seen it but I’m willing to accept other conclusions and say it’s objectifying)

Like, for fuck’s sake let’s keep talking about Hollywood’s interpretation of a male power fantasy and how heteronormative it is! Let’s talk about unrealistic body expectations and how nobody’s ever allowed to have stretch marks! Let’s make noise about how there’s more than two body types: muscled and skinny! Let’s talk about how “celebrity diets” are bullshit because most of us don’t have personal trainers or chefs! Let’s talk about being healthy instead of just looking healthy! Let’s talk about fatphobia and eating disorders–let’s talk about how toxic masculinity feeds into these unhealthy male body standards! Let’s burn bullshit beauty culture to the ground!

But like, let’s just make sure we’re all talking about the same thing and using the same vocabulary first.

[theequeerstrian]

Thank you SO MUCH, I keep seeing this post going around and it pissed me off every time but I didn’t have the articulation to take it apart.

[foreverthirty1]

I won’t be watching the Bundy Tapes on Netflix.

Instead I will be reading and thinking about Ted Bundy’s victims. I wonder where their movies are. I wonder why their names aren’t raised.

I wonder why we don’t hear about Lynda Ann Healy, a 21 year old psychology major about to graduate that semester. Lynda worked with handicapped children and got up early every day to report on the skiing conditions for local radio.

I wonder why we don’t hear about Debra Kent, a 17 year old aspiring social worker who was known for always having change to feed parking meters for strangers.

I wonder why we don’t hear about Susan Curtis. Susan was only 15 years old and was riding her bike to church that day. She was a star on her high school track team.

In a world filled with kind, beautiful people, I wonder why we all know Ted Bundy’s name. I wonder if that isn’t giving him and people like him exactly what he wanted. And frankly I’m sick of hearing people talk about him.

I’d like to talk about 12 year olds Lynette Culver and Kimberly Leach, neither of whom turned 13 because Ted Bundy stole their innocence and their lives from them. Kimberly had just been elected first runner up “Valentine Queen” by her peers and never got to wear that pretty new dress. Do you think her parents still have that dress, hanging in the back of a closet? I bet they do. I bet her dad sits with it in his darkest moments. You ever thought about him when you hear the name Ted Bundy?

Let’s talk about 19 year old Susan Rancourt, who had a 4.0 GPA. 17 year old Laura Aime. 18 year old Georgeann Hawkins. 23 year old Janice Ott. 26 year old Nancy Wilcox. 23 year old Caryn Campbell. 17 year old Melissa Smith. 19 year old Donna Manson, who was an excellent flute player and by all accounts a bit of a goth. 20 year old Kathy Parks. 22 year old Brenda Ball. 20 year old Lisa Levy. 21 year old Margaret Bowman. 25 year old Denise Oliverson, who had just gotten into a spat with her new husband and had gone for a walk to clear her mind. Denise weighed 105 pounds. She was bound, gagged, raped, mutilated and thrown from a fast moving car. Have you ever considered what HIS life has been like since that day? How many hours of his life do you think have been spent on the floor, clutching the ring he had given her, apologizing into thin air?

These stories are real. These people are REAL.

I get that Ted Bundy was handsome and his eyes were very blue but please. Please stop glamorizing him like this. He ended and ruined lives. Nothing about him is cool or worthy of emulation. Ted Bundy raped, tortured, mutilated and strangled over 30 females, including 12 year old girls. None of his victims weighed more than 115 pounds.

Ted Bundy was a pathetic man.

Emulate Lynda. Emulate Debra. Raise their names and their voices to those around you. Honor them. They were very real people with promising lives and futures stretched ahead of them, stolen.

Please don’t elevate or whitewash this kind of rampant violence against women. I assure you the world is harsh enough for us without a new generation thinking Ted Bundy is a cool, fascinating guy.

Thanks.

[chiribomb-deactivated20220820]

Jew: we have active shooter drills in our synagogue because the threat of antisemitic violence is real and constant. I wish people took antisemitism seriously.

Jew: I got called a kike as a kid and classmates threw pennies at me. I wish non-Jews would realize that this is an ongoing problem.

Jew: a guy on my street got beat up because he was dressed as an Orthodox Jew. I wish news of this ever spread beyond Jewish communities.

Jew: someone on my college campus is handing out recruitment flyers for the American Nazi Party, and I got messages in my inbox of graphic Holocaust imagery. I wish people listened when we told them this was happening.

Jew: my synagogue hired an armed guard for my children’s Hebrew school after a terrorist murdered a bunch of Jews at a baby-naming. I wish people treated this as more than just a one-time occurrence, because it’s not an outlier.

Jew: my Polish grandfather’s grave was smashed and graffitied with political slogans that have nothing to do with him. I was kicked out of an LGBT space for displaying a symbol of my religion and culture because projecting a straw-man political identity onto me is an effective way of ridding yourself of Jews while pretending you aren’t racist. This goes on constantly and I never feel safe in any non-Jewish space.

Non-Jew: umm sweaty actually nazis hate all of us :))) you probably didn’t know that tho :) asking us to lift a finger to help is literally identical to the oppression you complain about :) even the fairly performative act of simply spreading Jewish voices by reblogging a Jewish post is like, basically asking us to walk into Auschwitz :))) I’m sure you understand :) I hate nazis tho

[transcultist]

“For those of you who think that radical feminists exaggerate or cherry-pick the worst of the porn industry, I have an experiment for you. Type ‘porn’ into Google and click around the most well-travelled websites that appear. With mind-numbing repetition you will see gagging, slapping, verbal abuse, hair-pulling, pounding anal sex, women smeared in semen, sore anuses and vaginas, distended mouths, and more exhausted, depleted and shell-shocked women than you can count. You will not see two people having sex; you will see images depicting a level of physical cruelty that would not be out of place in an Amnesty International campaign. One of the only studies of contemporary pornographic content found that the majority of scenes from fifty of the top-rented porn movies contained both physical and verbal abuse targeted against the female performers. Physical aggression – including spanking, open-hand slapping and gagging – occurred in over 88% of scenes, while expressions of verbal aggression – calling the woman names such as ‘bitch’ or ‘slut’ – were found in 48%. The researchers concluded that ‘if we combine both physical and verbal aggression, our findings indicate that nearly 90 per cent of scenes contained at least one aggressive act, with an average of nearly twelve acts of aggression per scene’. [x] That this is the major form of sex education for men should be taken very seriously by the women’s movement. The same men who get off from women being brutalised and called cunts, sluts and cum-dumpsters are the ones who go on to become politicians, corporate executives, judges, media professionals, policy makers and bankers. In other words, they become the economic and cultural elite that shape the material and ideological world that determines how women – and their children – will live. Most of them will become partners and fathers. To assume that porn is mere fantasy and does not impact on the way men think and feel is to ignore decades of research on how images frame our social construction of reality.”

— “Porn and the Misogyny Emergency” –Gail Dines (via sealedtome)

[starrose17]

I was so totally not aware that people didn’t know that being sorted into Houses was a real thing in UK schools. It’s not something made up just for the Harry Potter world, it’s a real schooling system, I was in the St George House at my school and everyone had the same attitude to Prefects as everyone in the HP world did to Percy Weasley I can assure you.

[detective-jamy-peraltiago]

WHAT I HAD NO IDEA

[inkskinned]

it is tiring, being endless political just as someone existing. my teacher asks me if i’m writing more of that “feminist poetry.” a lot of it is just talking about me, being a woman, being afraid in the city. i write about walking a line, about how i am expected to choose between home and work, how each comes with a slew of its own insults; how it feels when i am wearing shorts and there are too many men outside. these are just facts of my life. someone in the comments says, “where are woman even coming up with these crazy generalizations in their feminism?”

i hold hands with the prettiest girl i’ve ever seen and someone sighs when they see me. “do they have to make everything gay?” she asks her friend, loudly, “like, do you have to force those views in my face all the time?” i can’t stop blushing. my girlfriend holds my fingers tighter, tighter, tighter, until my knuckles are white, and i let her. somehow, this is us, protesting.

my father’s cuban blood stains my skin, i think. when i am honored with a position in the dean’s private council, a boy sneers, “you only got in because you’re hispanic.” did i? i spend the rest of our meetings wondering if i was selected for my stellar academic record, for the multiple recommendations, for the clubs i lead - or if i was just a move the dean made, to make use of me. when we all take a picture, the dean brings me in the front. in the first three we take, i am not smiling.

it is odd. “i exist.” i say, “i deserve to exist.”

“oh my god,” he groans, “we get it, you’re a feminist.”

[deeeepsteep]

A part of me wishes the Gargoyle King is actually just Ambrose Spellman in costume, fucking around with the mortals in Riverdale for his own amusement

[vitariesocks]

Listen. Read. Educate yourselves. If you are unaware, fix that. Do not be complicit in the societal and legal oppression of transgender Americans.

[rocktheholygrail]

[buckystolemyheart]

Everytime without fail

[footnoteinhistory]

Joyce Fienberg, 75

Richard Gottfried, 65

Rose Mallinger, 97

Jerry Rabinowitz, 66

Cecil Rosenthal, 59

David Rosenthal, 54

Bernice Simon, 84

Sylvan Simon, 86

Daniel Stein, 71

Melvin Wax, 88

Irving Younger, 69

May their memories be a blessing.

[date-a-jew-suggestions]

I’m so fucking tired of goyim ignoring antisemitism. They ignore everything until something so extreme happens, like the recent shooting. How about you start caring about us BEFORE WE FUCKING DIE. Just fucking LISTEN for ONCE when we say we’re angry or scared or sad about the injustices we as a people have faced OVER AND OVER AGAIN. I don’t know one single Jewish person who hasnt been touched by antisemitism. I’ve been called a kike more times than I can count. I went to elementary school with a boy who told me he wished Hitler had won the war. I was shouted at and threatened by a stranger for wearing a Magen David. My grandpa has had to respond to bomb threats at our synagogue. My grandma had to switch roommates in college because her roommate was violently antisemitic. My fucking Jewish PRESCHOOL had to have ARMED GUARDS to keep people from fucking MURDERING PRESCHOOL AGED JEWISH CHILDREN. I thought all preschools had armed guards until I was like 12. Just fucking LISTEN when we say things. Here, I’ll give you a list of things you NEED to listen to us about.

Holocaust deniers are violent antisemites, no exceptions. They are dangerous and do not deserve a platform to speak.

Jewish people cannot be nazis, no matter how much you disagree with them. Ben Shapiro is a piece of transphobic racist shit, but he’s not and will never be a Nazi.

Trump and many people in his cabinet have repeatedly used antisemitic dog whistles, most recently calling himself a nationalist.

We. Are not. All. White. Stop being dicks to Jewish people of color.

And we’re not all ashkenazi!!! Google is your friend if you don’t know what that means.

Don’t do that “Nazi puncher” bullshit if you don’t actively uplift and defend Jewish people. Punching nazis is a great thing but you need to uplift and support jews at the same time.

Stop pinning Israeli war crimes on random Jewish people. And stop demanding we tell you our opinions on Israel before you treat us with basic human decency.

GOY IS NOT A SLUR

Judaism is an ETHNORELIGION. I am both religiously AND ethnically Jewish. It’s not that hard to understand.

Stop tone policing us

Just fucking listen when we speak

[date-a-jew-suggestions]

Goyim please reblog

[bayofmistakes]

i relate to jughead because i, too, would start a gang war to get my dog back

[ladyloveandjustice]

one of the v. important things the movies missed about ron is just like, how down to fight he was at all times. like not even duel just he was always ready to physically beat the shit out of people who insulted his family or friends and WOULD if no one stopped him.

there are so many points in the books where its just casually dropped in ‘and so Harry and/or Hermione had to physically restrain Ron’ usually from Malfoy but if Harry or Hermione weren’t paying attention it became ‘and so Ron punched Malfoy in the face’. 

Like, Ron cursing Malfoy for calling Hermione Mudblood wasnt just a one off thing like every time he did that in the future when Ron was there it was like ‘ron had to be stopped from ending Malfoy’s life’ just thrown in there. Same for any other severe insults.

My absolute favorite instance of this is in the first book when they’re just watching a Quidditch game and Malfoy just starts bothering Ron and Hermione during it and is finally like ‘man its pretty funny how the Gryffindor quidditch team is recruited based on pity like y’know Potter has no parents, Weasley’s brothers have no money they should include Longbottom for having no brains” and Ron just flings himself at Malfoy and starts punching him and rolling around under the bleachers and Neville is like “uh shit i guess i better fight CRABBE AND GOYLE BOTH AT ONCE so they don’t go after him” (very underrated moment of courage from Neville he knew he had no chance but he just went for it honestly almost more impressive than confronting Voldemort in book 7)

and they’re just fighting for like twenty minutes and Hermione doesn’t even notice because she was so focused on tuning Malfoy out and watching the game and when its over she looks around like “where’d ron go” and then later its mentioned “Harry sees Ron and his face is covered in blood and he’s like “GOOD JOB WINNING THE GAME HARRY I GAVE MALFOY A BLACK EYE SO WE BOTH DID GREAT THINGS TONIGHT oh btw i have detention for a week and neville’s unconcious but they say he’ll be fine”.

Ron is ride or die and will fight u for $0 y’all 

[aysathenotsogreat]

Have you read the Torah? Or the Quran? I’m assuming no seeing you take your examples from the most extreme cases. You right wingers are ho early the dumbest fucking people..

So I dont know what reading the holy books of Islam and Judaism add to the knowledge that both Muslims and Jews forced other peoples to follow their religion and language when being ruled over.

[jewish-privilege]

When did Jews force other people to follow Judaism or “our language” (Ancient Hebrew, Aramaic, Yiddish, Ladino, Judeo-Arabic?)? Was it while we were exiled, forced into a diaspora, or slaughtered? And which exile, forced diaspora, or slaughtering are we talking about? 

Judaism, by the way, is not a universal religion like Christianity or, to a lesser extent, Islam. It’s not THE exclusive religion for all people; it’s just for the Jewish people. Under halacha (Jewish religious law), you don’t even have to be Jewish to be “saved” or be considered a righteous person. It’s also not a proselytizing religion at all (historically, and to an extent currently, people are discouraged from converting to Judaism because being Jewish meant, you know, being killed). So, the idea that Jews would force conversion on non-Jews belies your ignorance theologically as well as historically. Other than very recently in the modern nation-state of Israel, when have the Jewish people conquered any land? Even then I don’t remember any decree of compulsory conversion or language… 

[siriussues]

Also, Arabic and Hebrew are both official languages in the modern state of Israel, so even in current times Hebrew isn’t forced down people’s throats as suggested above.

[jenndoesnotcare]

I just left my husband alone with our two children for sixteen days. I was not worried about anything regarding the house, their food, or their wellbeing. I put all the appointments in the family calendar and my husband checked it and kept them. I literally did not worry about them. I missed them, and I was sad that they missed me, but I didn’t worry about them AT ALL. I need to impress upon you all that I missed their company, but was not worried for their welfare.

I also did no meal prep. I don’t even think I went shopping right before I left.

This is not about apples and oranges. This isn’t even about my husband. This is about the fact that this is apparently WEIRD.

Another mum at my daughter’s school is leaving for ten days. She’s taking her youngest (who is a very small baby) and leaving her husband with their two girls. She has been cooking for days preparing freezer meals. She’s panicking and deputizing her six year old to remind him how to make school lunches. AND I AM APPALLED.

A) He is definitely not helpless. (He’s a doctor or something.) What gendered bullshit. B) THAT LITTLE GIRL IS NOT OLD ENOUGH TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR HER AND HER SISTER’S WELLBEING. WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK. C) Why is she married to this person and creating children with him if he’s this big of an idiot?

While she was laughingly recounting this, the other mums were nodding and smiling sympathetically, like oh yes, I too have my caveman at home!! Such managing required! I was the only one who was like “Dude, he’ll be fine. Literally. He will be fine.” I said it a lot. She was not convinced. She kept bringing up her older daughter. She’ll be like a little mum!

NO.

NO NO NO NO.

NO.

Straight women, don’t do this shit. It’s gross. Don’t infantilize your husbands and then expect your daughters to pick up the slack. So fucking gross. So. So. GROSS.

[fozmeadows]

The fact that so many adults think a six year old girl is more capable of learning and performing basic domestic tasks than a grown-ass man says it all, really. 

[parentheticalaside]

This stuff is so toxic and awful. I told a car full of women one time that I refused to be in another relationship until I met a man who was capable of making his own doctors’ appointments and washing the dishes. They told me I was going to die alone.

Fuck this shit. Don’t enable men’s incompetence and label it cute.