trans men are the closest to heaven we willeverget

[skeurtopheurton]

my legal name is skeurtopheurton. he/him adult trans dude who is frustrated with the current state of trans discourse

this is primarily a vent blog where i post about stuff that bothers me

terfs go away i hate radical feminism and you

scroll up to look at this cat if you start feeling miserable and hopeless

[takemetodragonstone]

imagine saying this to a nonbinary person and thinking you’re “checking their privilege”

[blackguyventing]

I keep seeing this shit during pride month and honestly im starting to feel like it’s hopeless. it’s hard to feel empathy from others as a male SA survivor already and now im realizing that no one gives a fuck if we do get harmed edit: sorry i tend to post vents without context, poster uses they/them and is transfem from what i can see on the acc, not a cis woman as some comments are stating

[zk-j]

i WISH being a trans man was as easy as people make it out to be

[marbleguard]

conservatives call gay sex taboo and disgusting and that is bad

okay yes

Therefore it is praxis to support all taboo sexual practices no matter what they are because being taboo automatically is anti-conservative and therefore progressive

okay no

The american government pumps out so much propaganda about china that is blatantly misleading

Okay yes

Therefore the solution is to start consuming china’s government propaganda unquestioningly

Okay no

People who are overweight are mistreated interpersonally, societally, and by the medical system

Okay yes

Therefore it is praxis to get as fat as possible and all health risks are fake

Okay no

Why are progressive spaces like this.

[just-your-average-tangerine]

Being a trans man is wild because I'll see cis gay men talking about how they grew up thinking something was wrong with them because they never saw gay people, in media or real life, being treated as anything other than a joke. And queer people et al are like 'yeah that's so valid, this is why representation is so important'

Then a bunch of trans men say 'hey it's really hard to imagine ever having a future because I've never seen someone like me live happily to adulthood, especially not older adulthood'. And the exact same queer community goes 'yeah I dont really see how thats an issue?'

[elasticveins]

If I see one more person do this I’m actually gonna tweak out. That cis guy character can be a trans man. That cis woman character can be a trans man. Headcannoning a cis character as trans is not killing anyone’s representation and that is pretty obvious.

[tiktoks-i-enjoyed]

[shamebats]

[ugh-hes-fabulous]

Ok I’ll be the one to say it. Some of you don’t think anyone born with a vagina has the interiority or awareness of self to be a “real” tranny or discuss or opine or theorize about their own experiences with oppression. and its making you stupid

[dandelionbeetle]

Theyfab is for people who got too woke to say foid but not woke enough to not want to say foid

[venice-1987]

There is this idea that transmasculine experience can be simplified, and that there is no complexity to it that is worth analysis or care. This idea touches anything and everything, from something as inconsequential as a fandom headcanon, to something as heavy as how we discuss our oppression.

The image of a trans man is a simple one: A white, able bodied man who was once a lesbian and is now straight, who has taken Testosterone, gotten top and bottom surgeries, presents masculine 100% of the time, has a good paying job, and is only affected by trans bills in the sense that it would mean he would have to go to the bathroom in a different place, or he might need to fight harder for his prescription. There is nothing unique about this, his relationship to masculinity and femininity are the expected ones. He is essentially a cis man who used to be a girl.

As a result, trans male oppression does not need to be considered a complex interaction between societal expectations of assigned femininity in contrast with current masculine identity, combined with the act of transition and nature of trans identity. No, it can just be simplified to trans = oppressed, and man = privilege. There is no need for deeper though.

When a trans man is feminine online, it can just be simplified to the fact that this person is not actually a man. Trans men are simple creatures who yearn to be masculine 100% of the time. They are only trans enough when they present in this simple way.

No, this "cis" male character cannot be a trans man because that character's story is a complex exploration of how the expectations of masculinity are suffocating. Any other trans headcanon is okay, but trans men never experience masculinity in the context of forced expectation, because the lives of trans men are simple, and for them, masculinity is wholly good all the time.

There is no need to specifically platform trans men on this topic, because their relationship to it is uncomplicated. There is no need to say "especially trans men" when talking about sex work, or reproductive rights, or discrimination, or kink, or violence, or exploitation, because transmasculine experience is a simple one that can be explained in a single footnote against the other, more unique and kaleidoscopic experiences of all other gender experiences. Trans men can be marginalized in a literal sense because they are uncomplex, and unimportant because everything they go through, every else goes through in a much more vivid way.

And then no one believes trans men when we talk about ourselves, because they know better. Because it is so simple to know us, that not much thought need to be put into thinking about us, and not much listening needs to be done when listening to us.

[kriminalistic]

Actually I don’t think the tme/tma binary is bad just because some people “misuse it”, I think it’s bad because it’s fundamentally false. You cannot be “exempt” nor can you simply “exempt yourself” from a systemic form of oppression

[solarmeteormanticore]

For some reason, any time I see people who say that they "hate men" almost always turns out that their hatred only impacts already marginalized man. Like, they will playfully say that they hate white cis guys, sure. But they won't bully them, they probably won't send them death threats. Idk it's irks me, just say you're bigoted but only in one direction .

[tboy-cock]

>goes into trans space

>ask if its a trans space or polycule recruitment

>they dont understand

>bring out chart that explains the differences between an actual trans space that you can feel comfortable in vs a space where you will be expected to be sexually/romantically available just because youre trans and will be shunned if youre not

>they laugh and say "its an accepting trans space sir"

>goes inside

>polycule recruitment

[smallcreaturething]

Just saying, I’ve never seen a “transandrocunt birthday boy” come up with a new slur for trans women

[frickadoodlydoo]

various people about trans men: I hate you. because i hate men of course. there is a heavy overarching implication in my behavior that I would not treat you with this level of cruelty and scrutiny if you were a cis woman, but shouldn't you feel so validated right now? shouldn't you feel validated that I wouldn't treat you like shit if you hadn't transitioned? shouldn't you feel validated that I'm treating you like shit explicitly because of your identity?

[frickadoodlydoo]

this post is not anti-feminist btw or about misandry this is about trans men. i also didn't even have the behavior of any trans women or trans fems generally in mind when writing it. i just want people to admit that its really painful when cis women suddenly don't want solidarity with us and garner hatred towards us even when we experience the same things they do on top of other things. they never take a step back to analyze the power dynamics relative to them and the trans man, they only justify their behavior by fixating on a version which in a trans man oppresses another minority group without ever fixating on the fact that cis women would be one of the oppressing groups too. we are given zero grace as a group unlike cis women despite our material circumstances. you are overly fixated on alienating us specifically from solidarity and can never say anything positive about us. its just like everything you do always entails the implication that you would treat us better if we hadn't transitioned. you would be kinder to us and take our pain seriously if we hadn't transitioned, you would be able to conceptualize solidarity with us if we hadn't transitioned. it just feels like we're not worth updating your thinking for even slightly. when you disregard us for being trans men it feels the exact same as when transphobes disregard us for being trans men. can you just acknowledge that it really hurts

[phosphorusab]

Let’s all stop calling it ‘hyper invisibility of trans men’ or ‘trans men erasure’ and call it what it actually is - damnatio memoriae

It was a practice the Romans used to punish dead individuals and their contributions they made towards society by destroying anything they made, forbidding anyone to mourn them, completely erasing their memory and existences from public record and history. By erasing everything from public memory, there was no evidence the person ever truly existed

Sound familiar? Because trans men, especially those who are not white, able bodied, etc, endure this