the 'male loneliness epidemic' and 'friendzoning' - two phrases that scream 'men's problems require urgent attention, while everyone else's struggles are just background noise.' Newsflash: rejection and loneliness are universal human experiences, not exclusive to men. but when men face them, suddenly it's a catastrophic injustice that can only be rectified by granting them unchecked access to women's time, energy, and bodies. the entitlement is real.
let's set the record straight: women aren't responsible for your emotional well-being. we are not obligated to provide you with companionship, sex, or validation. the notion that we're somehow failing you by not fulfilling these expectations is not only absurd but also dangerously entitled. and if you feel like working on yourself to attract the right woman is too much work you should probably try men, it's okay to be gay.
When you think about it for more than half a second, it is absolutely insane that pretending to be the opposite sex is considered to be a human rights movement
I know people will frown upon this but gyat! most women are not staying in harmful households because "of the kids" they staying because of 'help'. time has shown us, legislations were passed that protected deserted women and children from being exiled in to poverty. that house (of cards) you grew up and didn't understand why your mother held on to it for dear life was your lifeline. the streets are EMPTY and ALL good men are taken so she had to force you to call your biggest predator "Father" and treat your brother like you're his second wife next to mommy. Just another way that is constantly shown to us that the only way to win this game is not to play at all. as long women procreate with men male previledge will always be protected. Men knows they come first and they know they'll always be pot first and they make it known that they will either be put first or bounce.
how do you think your life would have looked like if that woman packed her bags? let me show you: ever imagined the forever postponed court dates? the constant bullshit financial claims? the therapy bills? visits that are impossible to regulate? with women you don't even know walking around your father's house?
when people think of mothers leaving their homes they think of shallow ends of the daparture.the fear of starting over, the in arguable tank in desirability, the market shortage for men wanting to step up and be step daddy to kids that are not theirs, mommy rolling in the bed thinking about the new young fresh skirt floating around the house that was once her beloved home.
I'm not saying jealousy won't exist but when women take the life time role of becoming mothers they change completely. pregnancy plus holding your new borne life that you created will make nothing else matter from that day onwards.
most women hear, "I am getting divorced " then round it up to "less chores, less man-kid, more freedom, more rest and less stress"...but that's previledge myth not reality ethos. most women will give their men multiple kids in their entirety of their marriages but that's not the story they wanna hear. women read stories of a woman who left - now she is happy, her kids are taken care of then recommend the story to others as solutions but behind the single triumph lays dead million corpses of women who couldn't.
most men have short unstable incomes, some their jobs are unregistered (no pay slips - just underground vibes) so they won't get be able to get a claim. so the only way for them to get anything at all from these men is as if they stay in his orbit then carrot on whatever he brings home whilst she pretends she has the upper hand - for goodness sake the baby momma culture taught us this. men use women's bodies and unpaid labour as down payment for being a supporting structure in a sky scraper they help built on free will then power move it like they did their baby's mother a favour for raising their own kids.
that lady didn't leave your father because she saw what happened to those who dared to do it. this is not to excuse the abhorrent conduct or even understand it, this is to anthropologically dissect its roots with cold hard facts. if you hate her I understand and if you still love her with her narcissism then OK!
there is nothing traditional about women demanding providence from their male partners. Men have made it known they won't cook, clean, wash clothes or even do dishes. even married progressive men still don't remember their kids' allergies and the day of the doctor's appointments, mostly leave the home work for mom and certainly won't be cracking themselves open by way of birth to have a complete nuclear family.
it doesn't matter what a man's belief systems are - they still have tints of misogyny in their psyche same way women can have internalized misogyny just with varying degrees. that modern boyfriend of yours you share rent with won't be getting pregnancy scares every other month, his genitals are like a plug so his chances of having infections are lower than the dating standards, he constantly needs a warm body to lower his chances of prostate cancer and increase his overall happiness etc. so I deeply understand deeply why women say "I'd rather sleep on the floor of my apartment than to know what the lease look like while I get turned into a warm wet hole every other night by somebody's kid"
this argument can also be made against women's practices of promiscuity, UNFORTUNATELY. women risk unwanted, unprepared babies, they risk poverty, life threatening diseases, rape - yes! telling a man to stop and he keeps on going, emotional coercion - men who push boundaries even after hearing a no, blackmail - for goodness sake there is a whole culture in Indian countries where this is literally another Tuesday, facing threats - having a man cornering because somehow he had you before so why are you acting hard to get now?, lack of boundaries - a man injuring you or being in your space when you pleaded for him to leave multiple times...I could go all day, let's not even get into the social repercussions of a woman who lives this way.
that feminists or "strong independent woman" you smirk at or scornfully laugh at for wanting a man to bring finances to the table she actually lives in reality just so you know...having takes like "there is nothing a man is taking from you when having sex, you are two consenting adults" are very progressive on paper and empowering when you say them or using them to fight rape culture but in the real world, we know wassup! I mean come on, let's not be wilfully obstuse🙄
for centuries the subjugation of women was not a conflict ; it was a status quo, the law and the unquestioned natural order. Systems like coverture (where a woman's legal identity was absorbed into her husband's), denial of property rights, lack of bodily autonomy, and sanctioned domestic violence weren't seen as "acts of war" by men against women they were simply "how things are" and the women have to swallow it or face the stake.
· War requires two active sides. A master whipping an enslaved person isn't a "war"; it's domination. A prison guard locking a cell isn't at "war" with the inmate; it's enforcement of a hierarchy. The language of "war" implies a fight, but for most of history, women were structurally and violently prevented from forming a fighting front. Their resistance was isolated, punished, and rendered invisible.
· The "peace" was patriarchal peace. It was the quiet of enforced silence, the "order" of total control. Calling that era a "gender war" would have implied men saw women as worthy adversaries, which they emphatically did not. We were chattel, property, or children in the eyes of the law and custom
Let me tell you when it started "being wars" precisely when women, through collective action, education, economic independence, and political mobilization, became a credible force that could no longer be ignored or effortlessly suppressed.
War is declared by the threatened party. When women gained the ability to be "openly disgusted," to withhold sex, to file for divorce, to sue for workplace discrimination, to say "no" and have it carry social and legal weight, that's when the pushback was framed as a "war." It's the language of a group whose unchallenged reign is being contested. The "war" begins when the oppressed stop fighting just to survive and start fighting to win and you lots are lucky women are not gunning for revenge but for harmony instead.
sugar babies are underpaid sex workers Who don't wanna be honest about the nature of their line of work because majority of them wanna get married in future( everybody does) so they lie to preserve their imagine because they don't wanna offend their future husbands.
I said it, now shoot me but first let's keep it a buck
true romantic companionship between a man and a woman is a fairy tale. if a woman benefits then it's only a side effect of the real benefits he is receiving from the relationship. men are selfish to their core and they should never be trusted - not with their fellow other men, not even with little babies and certainly not with dead bodies.
Achieving intimacy effectively hinges not only on building attraction, demonstrating value, and maintaining strong frame but also on mitigating a woman's internal sense of shame or self-judgment that is engrained in the partriachy. if you e scalate too rapidly and she complies? She risks feeling "easy" which is a perception that undermines her self-image and sometimes her self-worth if it's that severe.
if focus exclusively on sexual topics without genuine connection? She feels objectified, reducing her to a mere means to an end, which reinforces that same negative self-view. Invite her back without providing plausible deniability? the implication becomes "this is purely physical," triggering the fear of being seen (or seeing herself) as promiscuous.
even if you refrain from escalation entirely or fail to cultivate a charged, sensual atmosphere you inadvertently shift the responsibility onto her by requiring "her" to initiate or advance, you place her in the position of the pursuer, which can still evoke feelings of impropriety.
the principle is clear: Within the bedroom, mutual abandon is ideal - raw, uninhibited expression between consenting adults. Outside of it, however, and throughout the progression toward intimacy, she must never feel diminished or judged.
Your role as the leader is calibrating escalation, framing the interaction thoughtfully and ensuring she retains dignity and agency which is the key that eliminates shame and unlocks authentic desire and Honey you'll enjoy the little slut you created.
living in a household of people who taught me about not listening to what someone say outside but turning around and weaponising explanation when they hear something about me from a passerby will never not sit well with me. my mom specifically always had a habit of telling me I should stay clear of strangers and not bring what they said about anyone to them to her house until someone said something about me to her and now we must sit down and discuss it. I would get groped by men in the neighborhood and sexuality assaulted and all she would say is "I told you stay at home" or "whose house did you see me go to? I always stay at home you should too or don't tell me anything" like as if at her age the chances of those men groping her like me are as practical as teenage me. Nah! because if I say what someone else said about them outside too then all of a sudden "how did they reach that conclusion about me?" , "why did they go that far?" or "what did you say for them to be able say that?". so now the responsibility of what someone else said about you is imposed on me the listener but two minutes ago when you dropped the neighbors' bomb it was "ohhh it's not me, it's them who said that", "I heard this and that and I wanna ask why would you do that?"...they always had a habit of putting the ball in my court regardless of the tone, approach or the choice of words I used.
they always had a way fo Turning what someone said about me as my issue but what was said about them as me and the person's issue. this kind of thing led me to think that sometimes people don't listen to the negative stuffs someone said about them because they are so outrageous but because it validates the version of you that they created in their own heads. that is the kind of kid they want to believe I am so when someone throw them a little bone they try to trace its non-existent DNA but when the tables turn now all a sudden "that's a YOU problem". the mere fact that you even think I would sit here with you with what my sexual assaulter said about me and try to explain myself to you is mad business, the very same sexual assaulter you dismissed me when I told you about his antics? is you okay?
they be like "what made them so comfortable to say what they said about me to you?" like what do you think this is? a room service in Las Vegas? you think I dialed them 6521 on a telephone like "Marcelo can we please have extra mattresses and cushions the gentlemen and ladies have something to say" ?
all people need is a grudge, vindictiness and envy , is either all of them or always two of them but never ever none of them. talking about comfort like what you think this is? a pillow fight in a 5 star hotel? this is a fight for control, narration and being the one with last word because if people can't be right the least they could do is hurt you or try to change how other people see you. it's an unhealthy mechanism coping with what is beyond them - what wont ask for their permission to exist, what takes space without asking if it's okay and what doesn't apologize for breathing oxygen.
people need to realise that life is a wheel and gossip is like a pendulum -it swings both ways. same way you can stand at a fence and tell someone something about me is the same exact way another person will about you. why does this have to be rocket science? the fact that you are trying to act like what they said about you was me walking up to their front porche and laying your issues bare so they can be comfortable enough to say what they said and acting like what you heard about me landed at your door step in the solace of your own home is crazy business. so it has never crossed your mind not even once that was they said about me was used in the same mechanism of what they said about me like...your case is really that special but mine is copium?
the fact that you think people need a Netflix subscription, pop corn, a faux blanket, a huge sofa and a 100 inch TV to be comfortable enough to say those abhorrent things about someone else is an indication of your lack of thinking capacity. like I thought you were smarter than me, so what happened?
cynicism - a defense against fraud (men), people who think they are smart(men) and busllshit(men)
I believe every woman in the 20s need a healthy dose of cynicism. especially those venturing the dating pool. that's the only way you are going to survive men with your sanity still intact.
i was born with a stone cold, no nonsense cynical heart and I believe heterosexual men should start on prison and prove their way out
feminists never acknowledge men issues you say? I know a psychologists who work with men and women who are traumatized and I can you right now that in her entire 34 years of talking to both men and women, women are always bringing up men's issues and asking how they can be helped but not a single man ever sat down and say "how can we help women? they face the same things too".
society is centered around men and their needs. People don't take women's problem serious because they believe it's natural for women to go through or we somehow deserve them. men even joke about the fact that they won't date their peers because things get rocky for women as soon as they turn 14 and the older she is the more she had endured. the world hates women, especially the ones that speak up about the issues faced within patriarchy . Leandra Lee Baker once said partriachy is like a boot on a woman's neck and you pussies are proving her right. don't you men ever get tired of centering yourselves in every conversation that is about women's problems and that only? or you are just afraid you'll be clocked out of the fact hat most of women's problems are created by your gender? huh?
exactly they would, hence why we have the feminism movement to make sure that doesn't happen at all. if men feel the same way they too have their own movement called MENIMISM. feminism is here to counter act that and make sure women and children are safe because honestly how esle do you think it ought to be ? I mean this for real
you are being a dishonest conceated prick and you are too deep in the pussy you are hiding in because focusing on real solutions and how you don't have any is too much work for a woman who called her bloodline self-hating whores for sucking cocks. talking about teaching myself English? I know what you are and it's any other thing expect smart. you truly believe you had tve weapons for this discussion but you couldn't even muster a counter attack and went for musty character remarks that flayed like your entire point. your world view is so narrow I wonder how your brain fits in your skull. you are out here being emotional and throwing tantrums like the men you claim to hate, I wouldn't be surprised if ever when you open your mouth on topics like these flies come to twerk on your mouth because you speaking pure monkey shit.
you: stop sucking dick and we will be on our way to revolution, the revolution of women who stops sucking dick
me: you can't override biological wiring. women have fought, had kids and husbands and still maintained legacies
you : men will always win , let's stop fighting we will all die but the difference is I am now upgraded to eating pussy so I love myself and y'all don't.
me: fight for women and hold men accountable for the crimes they commit against humanity, bring partriachy to its knees so we can see a way forward
you: I cant believe you said women can't think for themselves....OHHH MY GOSH. BLASPHEMY . she does not even know English. Look at me, I am so right and she is so wrong.
girl I know a self-hating wanna be lesbian crooked Karen when I see one. you ain't beating the allegations . one person here told you to go touch some grass but i wonder if you even know what it looks like. the mere fact that you even tried to weaponize female sexuality and reduced it to nothing but dick sucking already tells me what exactly you are.
It is shocking how many men on the internet will interpret what women say in the most intellectually dishonest way possible.
There was a video where a woman expresses her feelings for a male friend, and he then rejects her in a disinterested tone, before immediately bringing up her friend and asking if she could "put in a word for him" with her.
The women in the comments said, "It's fine for him to reject her, but it's insensitive to ask someone to set you up with their friend after you just rejected them."
The men in the comments replied, "Wow, so you're saying he can't be honest? You're saying you want men to lie to you? Wow. Guess women are just too emotional to handle the truth."
Similarly, there was a video of a man at a gender reveal party, with his two daughters, who storms away frustratedly when he learns that the third baby will be another girl.
The women in the comments said, "It sends a bad message to his older daughters for him to be disappointed that the baby is a girl, and it could hurt the youngest daughter if she sees this in the future. He should have processed his disappointment privately."
The men in the comments replied, "So men can't have feelings? Men are just supposed to be stoic robots? Typical women. 😒"
Men are so resistant to the mere suggestion of having to consider how their actions impact those around them. These women weren't saying that men can't have feelings, or that men shouldn't be honest. They were saying that there is an appropriate time and place to express yourself. It really isn't that hard to understand, but men would rather weaponize the virtues of "honesty" and "emotional expression" as an excuse to act on every impulse they have, with no regard for others.
The double standards are also astounding. If a woman rejected her male friend, then immediately asked him to set her up with his friend, she wouldn't be praised for "keeping it real." She'd be called a "304," accused of leading him on, and treated as evidence that women have no empathy for men.
the default state of a man is disloyalty, dishonesty, horniness and degeneracy. a guy once said he can and if he wants to will Marry an 18 year old and nevermind you he is 4 years away from reaching 40, I never disputed any of his claims I just told him about the social repercussions of walking that path in an advanced society like this one. he started yelling about doing whatever he wants and he can even go a a ceremony where 18 year old virgins are put in life for him to choose from... I told him the definition of what he is intending to do is crossing pedophilia territories and he started talking in a serious tone about him wanting me to respect him, like "buddy nobody called you a pedophile"... i was prescribing a term for men who do what you claim you wanna do are called by everyone else. the "logical gender" will hear a message the way they would like to interpret it
male gold diggers are always framed as a demographic that is very smart, fun and formidable. it even gets crazier when you realise men would step into any shoes at any given chance to be the one who holds the shovel in a woman's mine but women are framed as transactional and demonized for wanting the same thing. this is not even some men in women dominated fields kind of thing...it has always been here with us. those aunties who passed money under tables because the man is underperforming or those women who bought houses and cars for their men or sacrificed their business to give the men. when a broke woman ask to be taken care of people think it's desperation but when a broke gets held down it's called love. everyone is quick to tell the former to focus on herself because men will use her for her vulnerability but everyone applauds the latter if he rolls back with a lady who is down for him no matter what .
the 'male loneliness epidemic' and 'friendzoning' - two phrases that scream 'men's problems require urgent attention, while everyone else's struggles are just background noise.' Newsflash: rejection and loneliness are universal human experiences, not exclusive to men. but when men face them, suddenly it's a catastrophic injustice that can only be rectified by granting them unchecked access to women's time, energy, and bodies. the entitlement is real.
let's set the record straight: women aren't responsible for your emotional well-being. we are not obligated to provide you with companionship, sex, or validation. the notion that we're somehow failing you by not fulfilling these expectations is not only absurd but also dangerously entitled. and if you feel like working on yourself to attract the right woman is too much work you should probably try men, it's okay to be gay.
The "epidemic" is actually just normal though, which is why I don't understand how it became such a talking point. Loneliness is the default state of every single man who ever existed. Most men who have ever existed have died lonely. Even a lot of the ones who actually had wives. That's just how it works.
I will say this though, women who believe they have zero responsibility for men's well being are privileged women. This has not been the case for most of human history and only recently have women been afforded the option to not give a shit. Why? Because men allowed it. If men wanted to lock up all women right now, they could do it and women's only chance of avoiding it would be to appeal to men to not do it. It's a tough truth to accept but it is what it is. If you don't care about men's well being, fair enough. But try not to throw it in their faces. Antagonizing the group of people who could take away your rights on a whim is not exactly intelligent. Progress does not happen without men's acceptance. Never forget that.
your escalation is very concerning and aggressive, nerves were hit I can tell. you literally moved discussing loneliness (which is something that affects men much more than any other demographic to threats of dominance and declaration of who owns the land which entirely missed the whole point of the argument. also what you mean "never forget that"? 🥱you sound a Disney villain twirling his mustache planning world destruction.☠️
let me deconstruct your whole shtick;
1. you are framing loneliness for males as a ceaseless unchangeable destiny which is very self-defeating and shut down any possibility of solution or growth because really what the point If you are destined to rub one every two minutes of the day because "you are so alone"? 🥺
2. you are labeling women's basic autonomy as a previledge granted by men and you see that over there is where you took me - because autonomy and agency are a fundamental right not favours bestowed by a person with a penis in an office. read that again and slower this time.
3. also you don't really wanna have this argument you just wanna flex the degeneracy of your male species of how they stole rights and women's agency with physical power and yelling "if they did it once best believe they could do it again " with a smirk and honestly that is not the gotcha you think it is.
this is not even a debate about the epidemic anymore this is a fucked up revelation of power based and authoritarian worldview where rights are granted by the strong to the weak. are you by chance from the country where schools are only for shooting? you ain't real bro and I wanna believe you onlu exist on the internet, there is no way this is the brain you use everyday -I hope you have a spare in the fridge. 🤦🏽
