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New Multi-Author Writing Project

It’s called Letters I’ll Never Send. Anonymous (pseudonym) letters to abusers. You can write one letter to one person, or ten letters to one person, or ten letters to multiple people. That’s up to you. If it works well, and we have a large sum of ‘letters’, I’ll publish it anonymously, and profits will (ideally) go to an organization tied into our experiences. And a piece that I’m doing, its optional, is handwriting the letters as well and burning them. Sorta therapeutic, to me. Like I said that part is optional. If you want to do it, I can either add you to the Google Doc, or you can send them on here to me (I’ll be opening the Submit option soon) and I can put it on the document from there. If you know others who may want to join, feel free to ask them. The more contributing the better. Ideally, I’d like to get this anonymously published as a ‘you are not alone’ type of thing for others who’ve been in these situations. Maybe we could even show them ways out or ways to recognize the behaviors. Even if that doesn’t happen, though, its a good coping mechanism and it helps to write out everything. I really want this to take off. Our voices need to be heard. If you want to contribute, or have questions, don’t hesitate to message me!

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Submissions are still welcome for this project. It’s currently at 5 stories, 4,000 words.

If you’ve sent me a submission, I have viewed and added it to the piece. Out of respect and privacy I chose not to post submissions to my blog. If, for future submissions, you want your submission posted, note that in the post itself.

Thank you to all who have or are considering participating! I truly hope this can help someone, whether that be just therapeutic venting or publishing and helping someone down the road.

#letters ill never send #abuse #writing #lins

@gorephoria

kurapiki

In this world it’s yeet or be yeeted

yeeten?

YOOT

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Ever since T’Challa became the Black Panther, Shuri has sent him approximately 12,000 videos of ridiculous cats, each one tagged “It you”.

Search your feelings. You know it to be true.

gaywrites

As the world rang in a new year on Jan. 1, two medical professionals quietly announced they had made what was once an impossible dream a clinical reality.

Two medical researchers have announced that their work in medically induced lactation has had an incredible impact: one of their patients, a transgender woman, was able to breastfeed her baby, serving as the child’s exclusive food source for six weeks and supplementing with formula afterward.

The case is especially significant because the patient was taking HRT at the time and had not undergone any type of gender confirmation surgery. A carefully-developed combination of medication and breast pump use made it so the woman was able to produce enough breast milk to sustain her baby.

While trans women have experimented for years with methods to induce lactation, usually using drugs like domperidone on a DIY basis, Reisman and Goldstein’s case report, published in Transgender Health, is the first time medical professionals have worked toward the same goal and published their results in a medical journal.

To Madeleine Bair, an undergraduate at UCLA and a trans woman, that’s not surprising.

“Medical issues that affect trans people are often understudied or ignored completely,” she tells Romper. “Mt. Sinai is doing a lot of interesting work, as is Dr. (William) Powers out of Michigan.“

“But I find that studies like this are the exception to the rule. So, most trans health care ends up being crowdsourced from other trans people,” she says. “We educate each other so we can empower each other to take back our own medical agency.”

This is huge news with amazing implications for queer and transgender families everywhere. Truly, science rules.

Who said transition timelines were only for after you medically transition? Ages in first photo: orange skirt, 6; green shirt, 8; blue tank, 8; white sweater, 10 All the pictures in the second photo are from the same year, ages 15 and 16. Jordan, he/him, 18

#transition timeline #trans #transgender #ftm #pre-t #my photos #my posts #lgbtq

galahadwilder

A sudden, terrifying thought

When you see an animal with its eyes set to the front, like wolves, or humans, that’s usually a predator animal.

If you see an animal with its eyes set farther back, though—to the side—that animal is prey.

Now look at this dragon.

See those eyes?

They’re to the SIDE.

This raises an interesting—and terrifying—question.

What in the name of Lovecraft led evolution to consider DRAGONS…

As PREY?

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I know this isn’t part of my blogs theme but like this is interesting

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i know this isn’t part of my blogs theme but like this is interesting

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here is a very interesting article about how not all predators have forward facing eyes and specifically how we’re not really sure why humans do

but actually:

that

that’s why

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A barbarian warlord, a goblin king, a mighty necromancer, and a dark elven high priestess meet for one reason… To play Suburbs and SUVs, the hottest mundane suburban family Tabletop RPG!

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“Can I roll to have a meltdown in the middle of the PTA bakesale?”

“Why?”

“To make Karen look like a bitch.”

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If you wore a vr headset linked to a camera drone that was set to follow you from a few feet behind you could live in third person.

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disassociating

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If you can’t dissociate naturally store bought is fine

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at what point in history do you think americans stopped having british accents

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Actually, Americans still have the original British accent. We kept it over time and Britain didn’t. What we currently coin as a British accent developed in England during the 19th century among the upper class as a symbol of status. Historians often claim that Shakespeare sounds better in an American accent.

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whAT THE FUCK

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I’m too tired for this

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Always add in the video that according to linguists, Native southern drawl is a slowed down British.

T’ be or not t’be, y’all.

sogayitwrites

Fun fact: Same thing happened with the French accent. French Canadians still have the original French accent from the 15th century.

Êt’e ou n’pô zêt’e, vous z’auts.

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I’ve been trying to find this post for months. I’m freakishly obsessed with this and want the truth of what early colonists sounded like.

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people have so little appreciation for craftsmanship and it’s frustrating and sad. like i saw this video on facebook of a guy making a small throwing axe by hand, from start to finish, and half the comments were like “or just buy an axe for $15”

the dude didnt just want an axe! he wanted the experience of handwork, he wanted to engage in a tradition of craftsmanship, he wanted to practice skills. the process of making things is about so much more than the thing you make

if i knit a hat, the fact that i’ll have a hat at some point is tertiary to everything else i get out of the experience. it’s meditation, it’s how i interact with a community, it connects me to a history, it mediates my anxiety, it’s a sensory experience, it’s me engaging with my body in a way that is careful and thoughtful and elegant and beautiful

handwork is so devalued for a lot of reasons, and those reasons are almost always socially complex – there’s a lot to be said about how class and gender play out in different hobbies; how cost can become prohibitive in learning skills that were once vital to the poor, how certain kinds of labor have become a luxury, how histories of gendered labor cause that labor to become mocked. all of those things and so many more are difficult to grapple with

automation tends to lead us to believe that making is all about things, but when you practice handwork, you give the process its own kind of value and reap all its intangible rewards. if i could explain one simple thing to anyone who has ever asked me why i don’t just buy a hat, it’s that there’s a lot more involved in a process than just its product.

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oh my god

it’s because you’re evil

you can read this article here and it’s despicable and framed as a “declutter your life and get your kids to appreciate the moment~ by busting ~stuff addiction~ story

but the story goes that this mom was on a trip with her daughter and her daughter wanted a toy, and the parents said “no” and then the mom fixates on how her daughter couldn’t enjoy the ~amazing things~ they saw on their shitty family trip because she wanted to get that toy so bad.

so in retribution the mom on a cleaning spree took away not one, but every single toy her daughter had

and then began crowing about the amazing benefits that on the next trip the daughter didn’t ask for a single thing! and was quiet and manageable and shut up and “enjoyed” the moment and everything her parents wanted her to! amazing a child’s “addiction” to toys was cured!

toys are the only thing a kid owns. they are the only thing they have control over. When your kid goes to disney world or whatever with you, they are not in control even if they wanted to go. They did not choose to go to disney world. they can’t leave if they wanted to. they can’t pick how they get there, or where they go when they arrive.what may seem like “enjoying the moment” to an adult is actually “made to be a prop as a kid and dragged around when they didn’t choose to be, or to even go in the first place.”

this is not to say you can’t go someplace with your kid without it being miserable. I loved, and still love, going to museums with my family, for example. But when I was a kid, I didn’t pick to go or not. I was fortunate I had parents that listened to me and brought me places I enjoyed, rather than just brought me wherever and demanded I “enjoy the moment.” And usually, I got to buy one small thing when we went out, especially if my parents also bought things. It helped me feel like I was part of the trip.

God. I want to bring this lady’s poor kid out to that build-a-dino place and buy them their dino toy. It’s clear they tossed out what the kid actually likes and is interested in for the sake of this “declutter your life~bargain bin nameste~” horsecrap. Now the kid has nothing that’s their own and has been taught that asking for their interests is punished by everything they enjoy being taken away.

And who cares if the kid “forgets” about the toy after the trip? that doesn’t mean they never wanted it or could have done with out it. A kid is a kid, their memories don’t stretch back more than 10 years, a week or a month is a long time to them and an afternoon can change their mind. Disrespecting your kid’s wishes and taking every toy they have (and you gave them!) so they can pay attention to you and your horrible ego trips

like this may be what she says

Had I not experienced it with my own eyes, I would’ve never believed that an addiction to stuff could be broken that quickly. The truth is that when I took all their stuff away, I was terrified at what would happen. I worried that I was scarring them for life, depriving them of some essential developmental need, taking away their ability to self-entertain.

In reality, the opposite has happened. Instead of being bored, they seem to have no shortage of things to do. Their attention span is much longer and they are able to mindfully focus on their task at hand. They color or read for hours at a time and happily spend the entire afternoon playing hide & seek or pretend.

They are far more content, able to appreciate the blessings that they do have, and able to truly enjoy the moment they are in without always having to move on to the next thing. They are more creative and patient, more willing to share, far more empathetic towards the plight of others, and, with little to fight over, they hardly fight at all.

but what happened was that now that she’s romanticizing that her kids now have fewer boundaries, fewer things to do, ask less of her (and don’t kids always have to ask less and less and less!) and don’t get to enjoy the things their peers might like + talk about.

Your kids have no concept about being more “creative and patient,” lady. Kids just do what they do and don’t have any of this romanticization of their behaviors. Your kids have to be more empathetic, because without catering to their mother or to their peers who might have toys, they don’t have their own lives to retreat to now. And sure, they can play pretend. But like, so did I. And I had toys. And just because I was still playing as a kid didn’t mean I wasn’t miserable or was ~cured~ of having no friends and being bullied. Kids do not play because they are happy or healthy. kids play because that’s all their lives contain and if you take away their toys they HAVE to find a new alternative somehow. Sad kids still play.

I wonder if she’s purposefully omitting the times that her kids being forced to play entirely in their mother’s territory with no personal boundaries have resulted in destruction of her home. But then again, these are her little angels~ who have become good kids~ when they were corrupted by the horrors of materialism~ are even capable of being miserable anymore.

I loathe this woman. Rescue her kids.

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I played pretend for hours and hours and hours and I did it with my toys. I wouldn’t have started writing if I wasn’t able to create characters with them and build worlds out of Lego. My first novel stems back to the characters I created from my toys.

The only reason I never did more creative~ things was because they involved my parents getting out newspaper and paints, or saving me cardboard boxes, and even when I did my most creative project as a kid was to build my own doll house. Y’know. My own toy.

Toys are designed to stimulate play. Toys are designed to be played with. If a kid builds her own dinosaur she’s building a character and you can bet she’s going to play with it. She’ll introduce it to her other stuffed animals and they’ll come to life and if that isn’t creative I don’t know what is.

In her follow-up article she says “In that moment, I just wanted to completely clear their room of everything.” She says “I hate toys that have a billion pieces”. She says “Seeing the changes in my children was definitely a catalyst for change in myself as well.”

In her article on making her kids tidy their room she is just the same:

She characterises it as a battle that “I am winning.”

She gives the classic “Someday they’ll get it” justification.

Her husband seems to feel “a mixture of pity and fear” but it doesn’t bother her.

“There is no negotiation. Our home is not a democracy.”

She gives the kids no input in what is valuable to them if she deems it worthless. “Papers & junky party favors or prizes are usually tossed immediately (when the kids aren’t looking!)” She goes behind their backs with their own things (not that she respects their property).

“I truly don’t expect perfection from my kids. I expect them to listen and obey and to do their best”

She doesn’t give a damn about what her kids want; she talks about herself and her struggle and her self-righteous authoritarianism. And in the tidying article she reveals that her kids are three and six.

Just look at this bedroom.

This is sad.

betterbemeta

NOTE: This post was edited since I reblogged it, and the edit included a lot of important points, so I’m re-reblogging it with my original comment to preserve the new version.

I needed to reblog this addition and I’m sorry it’s a super long post now but it’s so important. I played pretend with my toys all the time because that’s… what you use toys for? My mom saw this post and felt sorry for the kids, told me that she bets those kids now furtively play with rocks, rags, and household items wary their mom will take them away, too or say those things aren’t for playing.

The thing I told her and I’ll add on here too is that when I was a kid, I was lucky enough to have parents that let me pick my own toys. Chances are, this mom didn’t actually get her kid toys that appealed to her kid’s interest. Like how many barbies did her mom give her that now the mom complains her kid never can “focus” on playing with? And now she wants a dinosaur toy that she picked out for herself and that’s too much? it sounds like the mom is more angry at all the stuff she threw at her kid (or that her kid was coerced into getting) wasn’t being “appreciated” in a way that gratified her, so she destroyed it all

like in the end this mom is self-congratulatory that her kids now behave in the way she wants for her control freak minimalist neat and tidy showroom-floor aesthetic how terrible is that?

rinwolfy

This is how you get your child to 1. Never trust you again 2. Develop anxiety in asking you for anything, ever I am so sick of these ~modern~ parents who shove their beliefs down their kids’ throats when the kids have 0 idea what’s going on. They probably thought they were being punished. If I had a kid tell me her mom threw away all her toys, I’d have a shitton to say to her mother and there’d be some choice words along with pulling up links on emotional abuse. What a fucking demon of a mother.

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Oh man this is not the worst of it

This mother, not only took away a child’s biggest source of entertainment and joy in their lives, not only did she make sure that they were afraid of ever asking for anything again (which is kinda necessary for any kid), not only did she force aaall of her beliefs down their children’s throats, not only did she completely ignore ALL science relating to this subject saying that kids should be allowed to develop through playing

This woman… This fucking woman made a webshop, where she overprices everything. She sells a ton of BS, like binders that she claims can get your life together (spoiler alert, if you’d rather listen to this nutjob, than child psychologists, an ugly notebook isn’t gonna make any miracles)

She’s making money off of her daughter’s psychological damage, AND encouraging others to do the same. This is so messed up and I hope he gets what’s coming to her