one thing about me is that im a wiggler. you can count on me to squirm. even writhe, when the occasion calls for it.
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one thing about me is that im a wiggler. you can count on me to squirm. even writhe, when the occasion calls for it.
I can totally hear this cat tuning the guitar while the children find a good place to sit.
I like the implication here that the other cats can play guitar, they’re just not as good
trot on writers guild. trot on
Brb replacing "I should" with "I have the option/opportunity to" in my internal monologue re: beating myself up over shit that needs doing. Let's see if that works.
It actually really did help and I did the laundry and cat boxes. Guess I'll keep trying that one.
THE UNEXPECTED SEQUEL:
"I should go do something useful."
The flat statement offers no direction; it does not lead to action, only self-recrimination.
The implied judgment of yourself as not currently being "useful" is toxic. It tells you that you are being bad and lazy.
My mom died in 2006, but sometimes it's like I hear her voice.....
"Useful" is ill-defined and an easily-moved goalpost.
The idea of people needing to be "useful" is the voice of oppression. Lots of -isms hide there. Including (Tim Curry voice) capitalism.
No really, literally this is the voice of everyone who has ever guilt-tripped or browbeaten you for not meeting their standards. Every parent, every boss, every teacher, every gatekeeper. It is the voice that harmed them so much they had to pass it on rather than reckon with it.
"What could I do to help myself out later?"
Is a dialogue you can engage with. Open-ended.
Properly frames any action as being helpful to yourself. It is a kindness. Kindness is important.
Sets you up to appreciate what you did later on when you say "Dang, that folded towel was real nice, made me feel real good pulling it out of the laundry closet. Thanks, past me!" Reinforcement!!!
Doesn't put you on the spot right now. You could just as easily ask "What can I do an hour from now to help myself out later?" as "What can I do now?" You can give yourself that beautiful airlock time to mentally prepare.
Being helpful, even slightly, even to no-one but yourself, is better for the spirit than being "useful". Capitalism doesn't give a shit about helpful. It wants to use you, and it teaches you that if you are not being useful, you are by necessity, useless. Our culture, based on capitalism, implants this toxic mindset in us in myriad ways, and we carry it into our private lives where it does not belong and we weaponize it against ourselves. Never think that your value is determined by usefulness. Even when you can't do anything, you aren't useless. The concept of usefulness/uselessness is an idea that means a lot when applied to objects. It has zero meaning when applied to human beings. Expunge it from your vocabulary. Do not use it for yourself, or for others. Ever.
Fuck capitalism. Be a comrade to yourself.
Don't be my mom. (Dead but also a bitch.)
Third revelation:
"I have to [blank]."
Not as good as:
"It is important that I [blank]."
"I have the opportunity to [blank]" sometimes isn't enough for tasks I truly hate and WILL avoid. How to overcome that? Certainly not by making it seem even worse by turning it into something I don't have a choice about!
I don't like scooping the cat litter or taking out the trash or brushing my teeth, but it is important that I do. "Have to" is not as helpful to me because it just says I have an obligation. Even if that is true, which it often is, I hate that phrase. "Have to." Ugh.
"It is important" reminds me of why I am doing it. So my cats have a clean potty. So my kitchen isn't stinky. So I get a good grade in Teeth.
I thought of this today and came to look and update this post. Now I see a couple people have mentioned something like this in comments. And a lot of folks are talking about the "shoulds" and their therapists and their personal growth or resolutions and it is so validating for me to see that.
I don't check notes ever, I had no idea this got so many of them. I'm very glad it did and I hope it continues to do so.
For everyone making the change, I'm proud of you.
For everyone who tried and kind of lapsed, here's your reminder: you can always dust yourself off and go back to applying this as best you can.
[ID: A 6-panel comic, first in close-up, then smaller, in shades of orange and purple. Panel 1: Close-up of a person's torso (neck to chest), with flames in front of it, then steepled fingers in front of the flames. There are two textboxes, upper and lower, which read: Upper - "They talk about trans people like we have some organized plan of action"; Lower - "and I wonder if they know" Panel 2: Chest-up view of a person with slight wrinkles and long, white hair pouring a mug of coffee. On the left is a kettle with steam, there are windows in the background. A textbox in the bottom-right corner reads: "we're mostly just trying to live" Panel 3: Two people kneeling in a clearing in a forest. One person is older, with long, dark hair tied back in a ponytail, and is showing a younger person with short, dark hair a flower. A textbox in the upper-left corner reads: "trying to live" Panel 4: A scene at a party with 4 people. One person is in the foreground and is only half-visible, with deadlocks, a mesh vest, a top surgery scar, and holding a drink. One person is in the background, back to the viewer, wearing hoop earrings, a vest, and a skirt, and also holding a drink. Two people in the centre of the panel are embracing and kissing; the left-hand person is slightly balding and has a small moustache, the right-hand person has short hair and is clean-shaven. A textbox in the upper-right corner reads:"trying to live" Panel 5: Two people in a living room, with pictures on the wall, a couch, a side table with a lamp on it, and a couch table with a water glass and a book on it. One person is sitting on the couch next to a small dog, with long, 3-tone hair and wearing a jumper and long trousers, looking at the second person with a pained expression on their face. The second person is standing on one leg, clutching their other leg, with a pained expression on their face; a swollen toe and action lines indicate they have stubbed their toe on the table leg. This person has short hair and is wearing a slightly frayed short and jeans. A textbox in the lower-left corner reads:"trying to live" Panel 6: A group of 4 people sitting on a picnic blanket in a park with a basketball court in the background. From left to right: a person with long, curly, purple hair, sitting with their back to the viewer, eating a burrito; a person with short, orange, curly hair and glasses facing the viewer, with one hand inside a bag of chips; a person with short, straight, brown hair holding a burrito in each hand, offering one to the rightmost person; a person with long, straight, purple hair in side profile, accepting the burrito with a laughing expression. A textbox in the lower-right corner reads:"trying to live"]
“When the approach is imminent, the tail goes up”
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A cat putting its tail straight up like this is a friendly greeting. This is the equivalent of the cat waving excitedly at you as soon as it gets close.
Joseph's brothers would have sold him to One Direction
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Disabled lives are not inherently filled with suffering and when they are it’s usually because someone put it there.
stop saying "gen z brought back bush-era purity politics" i grew up in the bush era and even then people weren't saying that you're a sex addict for having boring marital sexual congress in the same house as your children. this is just plain unhinged
horseshoe theory deniers in shambles once again
纸片人 (Paper Person) by 艺术家王德发 on douyin
#the effect to fx-quality ratio here is RIDICULOUS #this both scares me real bad and makes me feel real stupid for being scared (via @ducktoothcollection)
This is legitimately frightening.
i’ve seen a lot of really messed up images in my time on the internet, weird fetish shit, even a few IRL gore images but nothing. NOTHING evokes such a deep seated, gut wrenching fear in me like this image of the fucking water slide from Action Park with the loop in it
hey what the fuck
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