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[edwardian-masquerade]

“I am excessively fond of a cottage; there is always so much comfort, so much elegance about them. And I protest, if I had any money to spare, I should buy a little land and build one myself, within a short distance of London, where I might drive myself down at any time, and collect a few friends about me and be happy. I advise everybody who is going to build, to build a cottage.”

—Jane Austen, Sense and Sensibility

[respect-the-kitty]

[mysillycomics]

new acrylic charms coming to the shop later this month!

[carnivalparty]

An icon set made from the new C102 summer looks 🌴☀️

[sawasawako-archived]

idc anymore i think we should be a burden to each other

[sawasawako-archived]

and yes this includes a certain degree of tolerance for emotional burden, all else being equal. my love for you, and loyalty to you, is not dependent on how easy you make it for me to love you. i don’t value you for how little trouble you cause me. i want to learn how to take you for who you are, instead of who i want you to be or who i think you should be

[kuuuromi]

[sosuperawesome]

Snailie Mini Pins // Blushsprout on Etsy

[magicalshopping]

♡ Snorlax Pin Banner by PorofulDesigns ♡

[retrogamingblog2]

Custom Pride Gameboy Advance Systems made by MissPlaystation

[retrogamingblog2]

Custom Backlit Gameboys made by GameChangerMods

[carnivalparty]

Various Identity V icons ★

[punkitt-is-here]

How do you stay hopeful in the face of increasingly violent transphobia.

In general any attacks on queer rights is always concerning, but as someone who grew up in a rural conservative area, I know for a fact that whatever the government does and however many ways they try to make being queer miserable, I know that the freedom and joy I feel being queer outweighs anything they could possibly do to me. I'm lucky in that I have a wonderful family and friend group that I know will stand by me no matter what, and having that support in my life is why I can stay positive and joyful even while the government tries to erase me and my friends. Part of activism in general is having the capacity to imagine a better world, and I let that imagination guide and ground me when faced with overwhelming odds.

[punkitt-is-here]

[realistian]

maybe it’s less about “finding yourself” and more about being completely honest with who you are at that particular moment in time. reconciling with the idea that time is in constant change, and perhaps so are you.

[teaboot]

Please don't ask me for relationship advice unless you are prepared to receive some truly upsetting information because some people are ready for the "He's exhibiting the literal textbook signs of a psychological abuser and you need to get away from him before he successfully cuts you off from your support network" talk and some people aren't

[teaboot]

FOR WHOEVER NEEDS A REMINDER:

There is never any justification for someone putting their hands on you in any way without your consent short of immediate risk of harm or death.

If someone tells you that "the way I'm acting is your fault because you know that doing X thing would make me do it and you chose to do it anyway" is just fancy bullshit talk for, "I know my behaviour is wrong, but I don't want to be held responsible for it so I'm pushing it on you"

Nothing good ever, ever comes from someone who tells you, "I don't want you talking about our relationship with anyone". This person cannot handle accepting responsibility and processing criticism so they need you to never, ever question them. That's easier if they control the narrative and your friends aren't there to cut in.

Nothing constructive comes from screaming.

"It's not like that all the time" is optimistic and sweet, but the truth is, it shouldn't be like that at all. Sweet words and gifts and gestures don't erase being frightened for yourself or for your loved ones. That is not normal. Don't minimize it.

It is not healthy or normal to be genuinely afraid of saying "no" to someone, for any reason at all. Violence, outbursts, retaliation, anything. You should not have to be afraid of someone's reaction to your boundaries.

You are not responsible for saving anyone. Even if you love them. Even if they have nobody else. At the end of the day, if they want to hurt themselves in any way, they will, and you can't stop them forever. People need to want to improve before they can actually improve, and if they're threatening to harm themselves to keep you around, they're using your love to hold themselves hostage. You do not decide their choices for them, and they don't get to shunt that off on you.

There will always be other people who can love you better. You will not be alone forever. This will not be the last time you care for someone like this and it will not be the last time someone cares for you

[wilwheaton]

[mymelodyange1]

[hellosweetmelody]