Can sIoT make our lives more meaningful?
Due to the extremely social character of human life, any attempt to make our lives more meaningful has to take the social context of our behaviour into account. When we are honest enough to admit that our Western model of hyper-individualism is not really helping us in achieving a happy, let alone a meaningful life, we might understand that it is time to recalibrate our personal goals against the broader background of social relevance. In this article, we are trying to discuss the question how a social internet of things (sIoT) could support this recalibration towards meaningfulness.
Before we start, we need to differentiate between different levels of such a recalibration. At a first level, it might be just a short-term recalibration driven by the (still rather self-oriented) need to merely lead a more balanced life where different (equally important) life aspects are sought to be more leveled against each other. One such approach I recently came across is trying to balance certain areas (dimensions) of life against each other:
Example of a balanced âLife Score Cardâ with 4 Dimensions
The resulting outcome of such recalibration could be the obvious insight that striving only for certain (e.g. financial) types of goals makes no sense if we acknowledge that humans are multifaceted beings (who are more than just consumers). Due to our complex social life we also have a complex structure of needs which cannot be satisfied by one type of means/activity (e.g. money/consumption) only. While certainly being an important step towards leading a more equilibrated, well-balanced and - in a holistic sense - ârichâ life, this first level of recalibration is just the first step in our quest for meaning.
At the second level, such recalibration might implicate a more general re-orientation away from consumerist/economical/instrumental goals (even if they might be balanced against each other), towards more immaterial objectives like the ones advocated by Positive Psychology, e.g. as proposed by Seligmanâs PERMA goals:
Positive emotion (subjectively assessed)
Engagement (presence of a subjectively felt flow state)
Relationship (friends, family, partner and social connections)
Meaning (being part of something bigger)
Accomplishment (pursuit of achievements)
According to Seligmanâs view as expressed in his book âFlourishâ, all of these elements ideally contribute to happiness if they fulfill the following three conditions:
they contribute to well-being.
people pursue them for their own sake
they are defined and measured independently
Although Seligmanâs PERMA goals state âmeaningâ as one of their elements, overall, they are designed to contribute to a happy rather than to a meaningful life, which is - as pointed out by Roy Baumeister, something essentially different. Baumeister draws on neurologist/psychiatrist Viktor Franklâs Logotherapy, a manifest of his life-changing experience as a Holocaust survivor with ideas that are based on Kierkegaardâs âwill to meaningâ. Here, Frankl describes three different ways to discover meaning:
by creating a work or doing a deed;
by experiencing something or encountering someone; and
by the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering and that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedomsâto choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances.
In his book âManâs search for Meaningâ (1946), Frankl also stresses the importance of having a purpose - other than oneself - as a prerequisite for meaning and warns against egocentric orientations like affluence, hedonism, and materialism as distractions in the search for purpose. Baumeister picks up on these ideas and denotes the following four key elements necessary for a meaningful life:
He summarizes the impact of these four elements on a meaningful life the following way:
Purpose - which he understands as âa future event or state that lends structure to the present, thus linking different times into a single storyâ, meaning basically a goal which may stem from nature, culture or choice,
Values - meaning âhaving a basis for knowing what is right and wrong, good and badâ,
Efficacy - being able to navigate ourselves towards our goals and ultimately
Self-worth - deriving respect for ourselves from our doing.
âThe meaningful life, then, has four properties. It has purposes that guide actions from present and past into the future, lending it direction. It has values that enable us to judge what is good and bad; and, in particular, that allow us to justify our actions and strivings as good. It is marked by efficacy, in which our actions make a positive contribution towards realising our goals and values. And it provides a basis for regarding ourselves in a positive light, as good and worthy people.â
Integrating Franklâs & Baumeisterâs insights we can formulate a third level of recalibration, beyond the mere search for happiness: a reorientation of our life goals towards meaningfulness in order to help us âfeel our lives have purpose, value and impactâ again. Of course meaning is of very mercurial character but despite of its highly subjective nature and the variance in the respective activities from which each of us derives meaning in our everyday life, people leading meaningful lives share certain characteristic features:
Connectedness: leading a meaningful life means feeling connected - in a social, cultural and biological way (connected to others, to a purpose, and to our biological nature itself).
Belongingness: other than a mere superficial happiness, meaningfulness is a state where we know where we belong and are therefore socially more integrated and also generally more more other-oriented, more specifically, a âgiverâ rather than a âtakerâ (by contributing to something bigger than the self).
Self-control: in line with the proposed element of âattitudeâ (Frankl) and âvaluesâ (Baumeister), it requires self-control, to maintain our focus on the bigger picture. This is also confirmed by the findings of Michelâs âMarshmallow experimentâ and the resulting concept of âdelayed gratificationâ.
The finally resulting question is however: how can the sIoT help building/sustaining a life with such meaningful features? The most obvious answer is: By supporting our sense of connectedness. One such approach could be the following:
Suggested dimensions of connectedness, potentially fostered by sIot:Â
Social Dimension: being (socially) connected with OTHERS / FAMILY / A PARTNER (opening up, sharing yourself, building a trusted relationship).
Instrumental Dimension: being (instrumentally) connected with SOCIETY / VALUE-GENERATING ORGANISATIONS (holding yourself back for the greater good, contributing and belonging to something bigger).
Physical Dimension: being (physically) connected with the WORLD / BIOLOGY at large, being able to move, eat, feel, breath and sense the world around you (opening up your biology to feel connected with (your) nature in a basic biological sense).
Intellectual / Spiritual Dimension: being connected with the WORLD OF IDEAS & BELIEFS via a meaningful set of thoughts, intellectual / spiritual actions/contributions (sharing your mind).
It is easy to see that there is a rather large gap between the current (intellectual state and concept of) IoT as we are encountering it today and the here outlined concept of sIoT as a supportive factor for the kind of connectedness that is contributing to a meaningful life.
Current IoT ideas are still stuck at the level of being merely a technical support function for our navelgazing tendency of narcissistic self-indulgence - think of current pedometers, heart rate, movement and arousal trackers. What we instead need, to make (wearable) tech meaningful, is to use it to reconnect ourselves - via the above described dimensions - with our social environment, with a greater good to contribute to, with our biological nature, and with our intellectual selves. A good example for increasing that kind of social connection might be the suggested function of the Apple watch to feel the heartbeat of your loved one in real time. The biggest change in thinking currently needed to achieve more meaningful results from IoT is the insight that wearable tech needs to focus less on the wearer and more on his/her relevant social context - because any impact on the relevant others around him/her will contribute more to the wearerâs happiness and lifeâs meaningfulness than any improvement in tracking the statistics of oneâs self-improvement, however sophisticated they might be. Â
However, the more serious we take the issue of meaningfulness and the level of connectedness that it requires, the more often we might have to admit that technology can only do so much to bring us closer to others - and to oneself. The most important part of this journey can only be made by us selves as technology cannot help us bridge the existing emotional and social rifts in and between us. This endeavour is not a technical but a psychological one - and (until now) tech is not yet been able to help us but often rather seems to widen the gap and sometimes even isolate us. But maybe some day in the future tech will help us overcome our seemingly irreversible level of social disconnectedness:












