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omg found an easter egg in the new kirby game!
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Somebody Told Me
Thank you, /r/ProgrammerHumor, I love you endlessly.
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This is horrific, thank you!!!
i’m not aromantic but i believe in their beliefs
for me being bi has contributed a huge amount to noticing all the ways in which romance and friendship run together and i think in general people would benefit from recognizing that romance and friendship are socially constructed categories used to describe a vast, nebulous, and often overlapping range of feelings
My way of parsing it:
Every Relationship is actually a specific, unique thing. We invented Shorthands, such as Friend or Husband, to help describe recurring motifs in Relationships. But. The labels are simplifications. They will always fail to adequately contain the entirety of the Relationship.
being in a long-term committed loving relationship with a neurodivergent person, as someone very much neurotypical, has been a beautiful exercise in both humility and communication
I am high maintenance and I am demanding, and I do expect A Lot from my partner. but for a very long time I lived in this realm of half-coded half-messages, cryptic signals and unvoiced expectations, a spiderweb-like system of relations and emotions - a realm of my own creation - where I'd feel upset and abandoned if those needs were not correctly guessed, anticipated, decoded or fulfilled. and usually that'd only result in my alienating myself and hurting myself even more than it hurt others.
with my partner now I know that those Messages and Codes and Expectations have to be explained, sometimes twice, and in great detail, ideally with examples and data to back them up - initially even called out as they happen - and only after that is done I can reattach this value and emotion to them. if my partner misses those then, I have a right to be a upset. but they're not obvious or set as default, and not knowing them intrinsically isn't my partner's way of being purposefully hurtful.
sometimes I will tell my partner something and they won't have much of a reaction. and I learned that all it takes is just giving more explanation: what I'm saying now to you means that I am upset, the words and tone are both there to tell you that I'm upset, I'm upset because of XYZ, and I would like you to react, preferably by being there for me/hugging me/listening to me.
I used to think that was ridiculous. that it was debasing, that it was humiliating, that it was me begging to be acknowledged, begging to be loved. but in this case it isn't - I only had to do it twice, maybe three times in different situations, and since then they've learned my Messages and my Codes and my Meanings. and they love me so they do their best to follow them and act on them - and ask for guidance if they're not sure. and that's love, that's what love is to me.
and the other way around - oftentimes it had to be me asking for clarification. it had to be me going "what you're saying now, your wording and your tone do not match your facial expressions and body language. what you're saying is positive but your face and body tell me you're angry and distressed" - and my partner would usually just tell me, oops, you can disregard my facial expressions because I actually didn't even know I was making them, I am actually very happy and calm now" or sometimes "what might seem like distressed to you is actually the way my body behaves when I'm just focused on explaining something to you, it's not negative, I'm actually having a great time".
sometimes it had to be me going "I really hoped you'd like this [activity/place/movie/whatever] but to me you seem bored and disinterested, can you please confirm whether you're enjoying this or if you'd prefer we do something else?" and sure, sometimes it would be "yeah I'm not that into this, sorry" but much more often it would be "I really like this but there's this one detail/smell/sensation that gets in the way of me fully enjoying it" or actually "oh no I really like this, in fact I like this to the extent where I focus mostly on it and not on acting outwards with the intention of showing I like it"
and I've learned. even when those are things that go directly against all the Codes I learned for neurotypical people in my life, I now know better. it was embarrassing and sometimes frustrating to ask and to need an explanation, but it worked so well. and that's love. again, that's love.
It was gut-wrenching when I realized that many people alive today have never seen a truly mature tree up close.
In the Eastern USA, only tiny remnants of old-growth forest remain; all the rest, over 99%, was clear-cut within the last 100-150 years.
Most tree species here have a lifespan of 300-500 years—likely longer, since extant examples of truly old trees are so rare, there is limited ability to study them. In a suburban environment, almost all of the trees you see around you are mere saplings. A 50 year old oak tree is a youth only beginning its life.
The forest where I work is 100 years old; it was clear cut around 1920. It is still so young.
When I dig into the ground there, there is a layer about an inch thick of rich, plush, moist, fragrant topsoil, packed with mycelium and light and soft as a foam mattress. Underneath that the ground becomes hard and chalky in color, with a mineral odor.
It takes 100 years to build an inch of topsoil.
That topsoil, that marvelous, rich, living substance, took 100 years to build.
I am sorry your textbooks lied to you. Do you remember pictures in diagrams of soil layers, with a six-inch topsoil layer and a few feet of subsoil above bedrock?
That's not true anymore. If you are not an "outdoorsy" person that hikes off trail in forests regularly, it is likely that you have never touched true topsoil. The soil underlying lawns is depleted, compacted garbage with hardly any life in it. It seems more similar to rocks than soil to me now.
You see, tilling the soil and repeatedly disturbing it for agriculture destroys the topsoil layer, and there is no healthy plant community to regenerate it.
The North American prairies used to hold layers of topsoil more than eight or nine feet deep. That was a huge carbon sink, taking carbon out of the atmosphere and storing it underground.
Then European colonists settled the prairie and tried to drive the bison to extinction as part of the plan to drive Native Americans to extinction, and plowed up that topsoil...and the results were devastating. You might recall being taught about the Dust Bowl. Disrupting that incredible topsoil layer held in place by 12-foot-tall prairie grasses and over 100 different wildflower species caused the nation to be engulfed in horrific dirt storms that turned the sky black and had people hundreds of miles away coughing up clods of mud and sweeping thick drifts of dirt out of their homes.
But plowing is fundamental to agricultural civilizations at their very origins! you might say.
Where did those early civilizations live? River valleys.
Why river valleys? They're fertile because of seasonal flooding that deposits rich silt that can then be planted in.
And where does that silt come from?
Well, a huge river is created by smaller rivers coming together, which is created by smaller creeks coming together, which have their origins in the mountains and uplands, which are no good for farming but often covered in rich, dense forests.
The forests create the rich soil that makes agriculture possible. An ancient forest is so powerful, it brings life to civilizations and communities hundreds of miles away.
You may have heard that cattle farming is a significant source of greenhouse gas emissions. A huge chunk of that is just the conversion of an existing forest or grassland to pasture land. Robust plant communities like forests, wetlands, and grasslands are carbon sinks, storing carbon and removing it from the atmosphere. The destruction of these environments is a direct source of carbon emissions.
All is not lost. Nature knows how to regenerate herself after devastating events; she's done so countless times before, and forests are not static places anyway. They are in a constant state of regrowth and change. Human caretakers have been able to manage ancient forests for thousands of years. It is colonialism and the ideology of profit and greed that is so destructive, not human presence.
Preserve the old growth forests of the present, yes, but it is even more vital to protect the old growth forests of the future.
Man each time I think I understand something I just get hit by the wiffle bat of "you thought".
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what if someone were to hit on you (consensually) as a fun cute girl thing? :3
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No like I just dont get it
which part?
if you mean the ask, i saw it as a way to gauge if you are open to flirting from trans sisters generally or specifically. i like flirting with people and it's a fun activity to break out of shyness for myself (and others at times)
I hope that was somewhat more clear
I guess I'm not understanding why someone would want to do that
Playful flirting can be nice! It's good for helping both parties gain self confidence, and it can help the person being flirted with learn to flirt back. It also helps with learning to gracefully accept compliments!
Very well said. This is like a mutual thing for fun (can be other things depending on people and their wants) and is vastly different than like catcalling or unwanted advances/propositions.
what if someone were to hit on you (consensually) as a fun cute girl thing? :3
????
No like I just dont get it
which part?
if you mean the ask, i saw it as a way to gauge if you are open to flirting from trans sisters generally or specifically. i like flirting with people and it's a fun activity to break out of shyness for myself (and others at times)
I hope that was somewhat more clear
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TIP:
This holiday season, if you know someone who likes house plants,
DON'T
get them a houseplant. DO NOT.
instead, get them a NICE, MEDIUM-LARGE, AESTHETIC, BOTTOM-DRAINING, INDOOR
POT.
that is what they want. that is what they dream of. ok? thats what will be most useful and appreciated. in fact, if you can, get them a CUTE MATCHING SET. OF POTS!!!! NOT PLANTS, POTS!!!!!!!!
they may be more excited initially about the plant. that is true. but a pot is a gift that they will go home and use to upsize one of their already beloved houseplants, and every time they look at it they will remember how much they appreciate you.
HOUSEPLANT:
- they already have so many
- needs to be watered
- takes up window space
- comes in a pot thats already too small, needs to be upsized, costing money
- can die
AESTHETIC POT
- lets them care for an existing plant they own
- they will be grateful every time they see it in their home
- does not take up window space not already occupied by a plant
- can be wrapped without dying or spilling dirt everywhere
>Tall enough to stand inside >sedan height front hood for pedestrian safety >looks like a ducky :3
YOU MAY NOT LIKE IT , BUT THIS IS WHAT THE IDEAL MAIL BODY LOOKS LIKE
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