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Gatekeepers suck my ass, (posts tagged "negative"), header by star-plasma

[twerklina]

[what-a-bastard]

Accepting identities I don't understand is actually extremely easy because I just go "this isn't about me" and move on with my life unbothered by someone else's identity, it's truly that simple.

[cavehags]

Thus is the defining characteristic of gay millennials: we straddle the pre-Glee and post-Glee worlds. We went to high school when faggot wasn't even considered an F-word, when being a lesbian meant boys just didn't want you, when being nonbinary wasn't even a remote option. We grew up without queer characters in our cartoons or Nickelodeon or Disney or TGIF sitcoms. We were raised in homophobia, came of age as the world changed around us, and are raising children in an age where it's never been easier to be same-sex parents. We're both lucky and jealous. As the state of gay evolved culturally and politically, we were old enough to see it and process it and not take it for granted--old enough to know what the world was like without it. Despite the success of Drag Race, the existence of lesbian Christmas rom-coms, and openly transgender Oscar nominees, we haven't moved on from the trauma of growing up in a culture that hates us. We don't move on from trauma, really. We can't really leave it in the past. It becomes a part of us, and we move forward with it.

For LGBTQ+ milennials, our pride is couched in painful memories of a culture repulsed and frightened by queerness. That makes us skittish. It makes us loud. It makes us fear that all this progress, all this tolerance [...] can vanish as quickly as it all appeared.

The 2000s Made Me Gay, Grace Perry

[jhscdood]

[runawaymarbles]

Coming from a reference group where everyone’s first queer movie was either Rocky Horror or Brokeback Mountain, it’s fascinating to talk (in person!) to gay teenagers who grew up with Korra and Stephen Universe and She-Ra. 

[bendingsignpost]

The sheer culture clash of trying to explain that Brokeback Mountain was received as and treated as a punchline. Two men fall in love and one gets murdered for it. Considering the time this movie was made, that isn’t a spoiler: that’s an inevitability.

And all the popular culture at the time would only reference it to laugh at it.

[slutdge]

if youre trans and getting misgendered/deadnamed by your family during holiday gatherings im giving you a hug over the internet rn

[retrogamingblog2]

LGBTQ+ Pride Pokemon Card Patches made by AlienInAJar

[acephobia-is-real]

Imagine thinking that to solve homophobia and transphobia you should get rid of other queer people instead of, you know, homophobes and transphobes.

[acephobia-is-real]

Instead of throwing another group under the bus, just burn the fucking bus.

[tenitchyfingers]

“We chose the term “asexual” to describe ourselves because both “celibate” and “anti-sexual” have connotations we wished to avoid: the first implies that one has sacrificed sexuality for some higher good, the second that sexuality is degrading or somehow inherently bad. “Asexual”, as we use it, does not mean “without sex” but “relating sexually to no one”. This does not, of course, exclude masturbation but implies that if one has sexual feelings they do not require another person for their expression. Asexuality is, simply, self-contained sexuality.”

— The Asexual Manifesto, Lisa Orlando and Barbara Getz, 1972

[capricorn-0mnikorn]

Note the date, people:

That’s 1972

29 years before AVEN was started online,

and 47 years before the present.

And that’s only the date that Manifesto was written, so asexuals as members of a community must have existed at least some time before that.

So, no: we are not just Tumblr trenders. Get out of here with that.

[queerhumanbeing]

supporting my asexual friends and foes by rebbloging this

[redbeardace]

Celebrate Your Own Identity #39: You Are Asexual (1986)

The cover is two young women being chased by a flame-breathing dragon bearing down on them. They are wearing matching jumpsuits of heteronormativity, so it becomes clear: You are the dragon!

An exciting read, with 22 possible endings!

[redbeardace]

demiromantic-official

#I wish this were real #I used to love choose your own adventure books

It can be real...

[redbeardace]

You slip the black ring on to your middle finger and your body comes alive in an electric transformation. Everything’s changing, but you’re not sure how. Your hand grows purple scales, your fingernails sharpen into claws. Your nose instantly becomes a foot long. You feel something unfurl out of your back... Wings?

The room has gotten smaller. You crane your unexpectedly long neck and gaze down into the reflecting pool. What you see terrifies you, but a moment later, you realize that you’re looking at your own reflection!

”I’m a dragon!” you scream. The words do not come out as sound. Instead, they are a jet of fire! “I’m a dragon!!”

If you remove the ring and hide your identity, turn to page 37.

If you use your newfound dragon powers to exact revenge on all those who have wronged you, turn to page 112.

[redbeardace]

In case you missed it, this is a real thing now! https://redbeardace.tumblr.com/post/665953481394470912/you-are-asexual-now-in-paperback

[pnkvmpr-hiatus-deactivated20240]

bi women who want to feel happy and comfortable with their attraction to men and lesbians who want to feel happy and comfortable with their lack of attraction to men can co-exist and the way to start is to stop making dumb comments about people’s completely harmless posts about being attracted or not attracted to men.

[pnkvmpr-hiatus-deactivated20240]

stop making comments about how it’s also okay to like men and claiming misandry is real on lesbians posts about not being attracted to men

stop making comments on how being attracted to men is a curse and being happy about your attraction to men is stupid on bi women’s posts about being attracted to men

just stop!!!

[geniusoflove]

gay culture is being gay you dont have to take it further than that especially if you have terrible taste

[rneliflua]

[doubleca5t]

[skyler10fic]

This one hit me right in the feels

[redbeardace]

There was also a demi-romantic flag and a rainbow flag in the group, but they weren't in that line when the other pictures were taken.

[writhe]

just like enamored by this interaction i had yesterday and again today with this old gay man…not to be like ‘oh what a feeling to see someone who has survived’ but literally that & today we actually ended up chatting and he asked me “are you family?” which i didn’t catch at all until he gave me an extremely knowing look (chin tilt, raised eyebrow. and he really just had such a shine about him, too) and i just got flooded with this big stupid feeling thinking about how much he has seen and known…about many things but esp lgbt community as it exists offline and historically & how if i were to ask, and were somehow able to know, there are 1000 different lifetimes in his, i’m sure. his name is leonardo

[onetwistedmiracle]

oh how sad that “family” meaning queer is dying out. that’s always been such a lovely code word.

[transunity]

Bisexual-Asexual solidarity handshake

Feel free to use this anywhere!

[justpastryvideos]

x

[achesspiece]

Replying to gay guys expressing love for men with "men bad" is homophobic btw

[crisis-on-infinite-batblogs]

I found a little tiny bi-coloured "POW" in Detective Comics #602. This was about 10 years before the bisexual pride flag was officially unveiled but whatever.