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Misandry will never be as deep as misogyny. I’d even argue they shouldn’t be named in the same way. Again, forgive my wording with some of these things.

You cannot be a victim of a system you are at the top of, you cannot be systemically exploited or abused in a system you are at the top of. Intersectionality obviously plays a part in the complexities of this, however let’s strip this down to the concept of gender for the moment.

Gender is socially constructed and is used against women in a patriarchal structure. This is a fact we all know. A reactive and rebellious response to this and a hatred for men because of where they stand in it is never going to be as deep as what misogyny does, has done, and will continue to do to women. A man who gets made fun of or isn’t trusted as easily will never ever have to face the dozens of life threatening scenarios women are placed into on a regular basis, and beyond that will never face the social inequalities that are so far in the core of society it’s displayed in language devices, humour, disputes about queerness (don’t get me started.), dozens of other things you wouldn’t see or notice because the general society is taught to just let it be. Therefore, movements like 4D, reactive hatred and mistrust to recent events (the academy. The riots in Israel. The legal disputes of bodily autonomy.) cannot simply be put as ‘women hate men’.

Misandry is not that deep.

I am NOT however discussing men’s mental health, male victims, or ways men can be victimised in a patriarchy that forces gender norms and conformity on both ends. Feminism means equality and recognising that both groups are victims. My point still stands.

Yumeshipping in relation to darkshipping is like the equivalent of vaping or weed in relation to ketamine.

Yumeshipping is parasocial, potentially largely psychologically harmful in the age of ai and especially where a lot of pre teens are getting into it, but somebody having a little fanart of themselves with SpongeBob is far better than trying to cope with trauma by normalising abusive dynamics in media and therefore romanticising their own abuse to avoid the mental repercussions because that in itself is a detrimental cycle. In the same way vaping or weed is massively addictive but an escape from massively addictive things that can kill you and wreck your entire system.

Yumeshipping and taking it seriously is bad for you. That is obvious. If it is an escape to try to make a fake healthy relationship for yourself, I could not care less bro go frolick in the fields with a png printout of Alan from smiling friends as long as you aren’t pretending like the thing you’re escaping from is normal and romanticising it 😭.

I’m honestly like struggling to actually imagine having an emotional connection to a character to the point where I’d feel like we’re dating cause that’s just so unrealistic to me and maybe it’s just how ‘antis’ portray it, I think it’s like a dramatic step up from weird ‘[] x Y/N’ wattpad fics. If anybody wants to explain the experience I’m happy to hear it and am curious but I’m also very aware that it isn’t the healthiest coping mechanism in the world - like even if you aren’t coping from something it’s going to cause real world repercussions in your dynamics cause it’s completely made up and not realistic wether you’re ’in love’ or not. Cinnamon cookie is not in love with you. Characters do not feel love. Or anything. They aren’t real.

Darkshippers should not have their own platforms surrounding it I’m so serious. The sheer number of times I’ve come across somebody shipping large age gap siblings or making full blown Stockholm syndrome seem cutesy with ‘headcanons ^.^’ is actually insane and none of them will hear you out when you say that they’re warping perceptions of abuse for the foreseeable future and making that public does the same for others because they want that warp to happen in order to normalise abuse they’ve experienced. Trauma doesn’t make it everybody else’s problem and getting feedback from others who do the same makes it worse for everybody in that cycle. It’s the same way self destructive addicts don’t want help and won’t listen to you when you try to get it to them when they aren’t ready. Go to therapy.

sweet-shut-eye

We are joined by a cord that you cannot see

Take that should’ve be so hot imo #dontcancelme

(Tw for add*ction) (this WILL be poorly worded please try to understand where I’m coming from)

‘2 hours clean!! Be proud of me!!’ No you aren’t. ‘24 hours clean!!’ No, you aren’t? You’re basically still running off of the high of it at that point and if you feel like you’ve made groundbreaking progress off of a few hours, you likely aren’t ready for the steps to recovery and being clean. The time between one episode and another is not being clean if you don’t intend to be better, and if a couple hours is a big stretch to you, yes I’ll be happy for you that you aren’t at immediate crisis but you sure are close to it (at hour rates definitely are at crisis) and have bigger concerns than wether you can dub yourself ‘clean’ or not. I’m not gate keeping the term because that’s both stupid and impossible I’m just honestly kind of pitiful of those who post up about some ‘20 minutes clean’ (ESPECIALLY on TikTok) even though that’s barely enough time to clean up afterwards from your add*ction let alone break the emotional barrier of deciding to recover…. Baby you aren’t getting clean you are actively engaging even though you put it down 20 minutes ago. Everybody’s first milestone with breaking addiction is different and I’m very aware of that, however people need to stop deluding themselves. It really is more self deluding and disappointing than proud because if you’re proud of something you’re likely going to relapse in with that clear crisis timespan, the concept of breaking clean is far more emotionally distressing than it is to accept that you’re spacing it out instead of cold turkey, and therefore will cause more addictive impulse.

#woke #addiction #tw #rant #clean #notavent #befr #ihatetiktok